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    So my boyfriend has this friend that is a complete strip club degenerate. He goes to the club twice a day on most days. Once in the afternoon and again in the evening. The problem is that he goes to MY club.
    Then he sits there and textx my boyfriend all night about what I'm doing or not doing. It's fuckign pissing me off.

    I stayed home from work on thursday due to cirsumstances beyopnd my control and that guy was at my club. Kept textign my boyfriend saying The club is so busy, where's kaylin? She's lazy man. She shoudl be at work. Its packed in here. She needs to come in. She's missing one of the best nights. blah blah. That was a thursday. I didn't miss one of the best nights,. I missed one good night. There are other good nights. Friday and Sat are better nights anyway.
    And even if not..I couldn't help it, I had to stay home.
    So my boyfriend starts getting pissed at me for not being at work.

    Who the fuck does this guy think he is? I am so fuckign tired of him following me around at work. I actually left early one night because i was so uncom,fortable with him there and he texted my boyfirend amnd told him I was soooo immature because I didn't want him there and I was acting like a bitch.

    WTF? My boyfriend sticks up for him and says he's allowed at the club and he doesn;'t do anythign wrong he just thinks he is around his friends ( me)

    He isn't my friend, I dont like him and he makes me uncomfortable watchign me work and texting my boyfriend. Espicially when I'm off and it's busy and he says Im l;azy and shoudl be there. I need nights off to!!

    WTF should i do??

    I am very happy at this club and dont want to leave and dont know what to do My boyfriend would be insanely pissed if I told management to ask him to leave. He only sits and drinks all night, might get 3 dances a week,( not from me) out of the 7 days he is in there, so it aint like he's a high roller. He;s just a PL strip club degenerate.

    Help! I hate this. I feel like Im being watched 24/7!

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    Its none of HIS business what you are or are not doing.. the fact that he reports back to your boyfriend just makes it worse. I'd "nicely" confront him, say that you are at WORK, and having a "friend" around makes it hard to work. If he doesnt take the hint, i'd say fuck it, and tell management. Bf may be pissed-but you wont ahve to deal with the spying and criticism, and I'm sure once the interference is out of the way, he'd come round.

    I feel gross just thinking about this guy! Kudos to your patience...
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    Ugh. The last time I confronted him he started texting my boyfriend tellign him what a bitch I am and shit.

    This all came to a head last week, I had a friend in town and took him to the club. WHo happens to walk in but this dude and sits down next to us. I was like WTF?? Sop my friend and I felt uncomfortable with him there, cause it was a guy friend and it felt wierd having htis guy report back to my boyfriend what I was doing with my guy friend. SO we got up and moved to a different part of the club. This guy folowed us to the other table. SO we paid our tab and left. I was visiting with a friend I havemn't seen in 5 years and wanted to spend time with him which was hard to do with that third wheel hanging around. So anyway, I called my boyfriend and told him that his friend was there following us around makign us feel wierd and asked my bf to tell his friend to go away and leave us alone, and when my bf told him that he flipped out ans started callign me a bitch and immature and saying he didn't do anythgin wrong. Whioch he didnt..but we wanted ot visit alone. Im fuckign tired of this guy always being present.

    Then the thursday night I stayed home and he texted all night about how lazy I was and was missing a good night.

    I cant handle this guy anymore. He calls my boyfriend CONSTANTLy. from the moment he wakes up he sends him a message sayign you awake, dude? Then he texts him allll day long till he goes to bed at night. I tease my bf and ask him how his boyfriemnd is doing because thats what this guy acts like. My bf just defends him and says he doesnt have any other friends in town.

    Fine. whatever. he wants to suffocate my boyfriend whatever. my bf seems to like him. but he needs to get the fuck out of my business.

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    How close are the two of them ?

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    Screw that. He's making you uncomfortable at YOUR job. YOU have the right to be there...not him. I'd have him banned from the club AND your home.

    If bf doesnt like it..screw him too. I dont know how to say this without seeming insensitive...but arent you leaving him in a few months anyway? Make these last few months you have in Vegas the most comfortable you can..moving is a big stress and you dont need bf's asinine friend stressing you out even more.In fact..if bf was more mature he'd tell him to knock it the hell off himself...my husband would if any of his friends DARED to do that to me.


    Think of YOU right now honey...YOU are the most important person and dont you forget it.

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    They just met not even 6 months ago. They are pretty close now, being as that they talk to each other all day long every day. They also play WoW together and talk on teamspeak all day.

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    If you dont want to say anything..damn..give ME his number and I'm rip him a new one for you. Or I'll figure out a way to call the club and get him banned...in fact...any other Vegas girls here that can help Kaylinn out? If someone ELSE gets him banned..bf cant possibly blame you. You're in the clear!

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    Fuck him, get him perma-banned from the club. If bf gives you shit, just say having him there was affecting your work mojo and THAT was what was messing with your $$$, not laziness.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylinn View Post
    They just met not even 6 months ago. They are pretty close now, being as that they talk to each other all day long every day. They also play WoW together and talk on teamspeak all day.
    Oh fuck that. Some random WoW guy or his girlfriend...I think the choice is clear.

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    Is this friend like some sort of private detective? and alsowhat right does your boyfried have to get mad at you for not working on a so called busy night??? my bf used to do that to me too..

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    Just talk to management and explain the situation.. I'm sure they won't want his creepy ass hanging around either.


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    I wouldn't mind if he came in once in awhile, but it's the every day thing that bugs me. And that he feels the need to "report" to my bf. My bf comes into the club on occasion, I dont mind at all. But for a time there my bf was comming in every day with this guy and I told my bf to cut it out. Once a month or so I dont mind. I even like him there. BUt every day fucks with my hustle. So my bf stopped omming in so frequently, but this guy just can't seem to stop.

    The thing is..my club has a locals only room with cheap drinks. Its actually the cheapest place to drin kin the city, thats why they like going there. And strippers aren't allowed back there, so its like a bar.
    When they stayed back there all night it was fine. But lately, he has been getting his drink and commin out onto the main floor.

    And his idea of Busy is way way off. One night he said it was packed and I should come in..so I went..and they had 4 tables. The locals room was packed. But I aint allowed in there! And it's the locals room. My club is very crafty. They made a room for locals...keep the cheap fuckers away so we dont waste our time. Its a great idea, actually.


    I wouldnt even mind if he was there every day, but stayed in the locals room and pretended like he didnt know me. Dont text my bf about me at all when Im at work. or not at work. Just stay out of my work business.

    I guess if I see him tonight i will sit down and attempt to explain this to him nicely.


    I think the issue is he just sees me as the girlfriend, not as a stripper at work. When I am at work, I am nobody's girlfriend. I am just another dancer. Even when my bf comes into the club he knows this. I am not his girlfriend when I am at work. I am just Kaylinn. My bf gets it just fine. this guy apparently does not.

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    Yeah, its the reporting back thing htat would bother me... does this guy think he's a "pimp lite" doing your "pimp" a favor? Thats certainly how hes acting. But yeah, the choice SHOULD be clear for your bf, particularly if your moving soon anyways.
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    Your bf doesnt get it enough to tell his buddy to knock it off.

    And what the hell is the point of this "locals room"if they can get cheaper drinks..then bring those drinks out onto the main floor?? THAT shouldnt be allowed. Want to be on the main floor? Gotta pay main floor drink prices...local room drinks dont leave the local room.

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    f that. I would be livid at my boyfriend.

    He needs to grow a pair and stand up for how you feel.

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    Can you tell your boyfriend that Douchebag is hitting on you, and you keep turning him down flat. That the texting is designed to get you two to break up?

    That should get your BF's attention.


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    I feel weird about this being my first post, but maybe this thread needs a guys perspective. I think the problem is completely with your boyfriend. I question his loyalty because he sides with what sounds like a complete loser who he has a short history with. I question his judgment and character because he is friends with, and so close to someone so empty, shiftless and unbalanced. As soon as he started that behavior your boyfriend should have questioned his relationship with the guy, distanced himself from him, and told him to stay the f**k away from you and your place of work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chgojoe View Post
    I feel weird about this being my first post, but maybe this thread needs a guys perspective. I think the problem is completely with your boyfriend. I question his loyalty because he sides with what sounds like a complete loser who he has a short history with. I question his judgment and character because he is friends with, and so close to someone so empty, shiftless and unbalanced. As soon as he started that behavior your boyfriend should have questioned his relationship with the guy, distanced himself from him, and told him to stay the f**k away from you and your place of work.
    Great first post, and welcome.

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    I agree that Chgojoe's got a good point, and I find myself really feeling that Cam is one the money with this one, seeing it very clearly. Something is striking me odd, Kaylinn, about the incident you mentioned when you were seeing a guy friend and this other guy FOLLOWED you when you wanted to move away. This is weird behavior and indicates that either he, your bf's friend, is after you, or your boyfriend has asked him to keep an eye on you, or some crazy thing. Either way it adds up to poor form on your boyfriend's part to not be fixing this thing as Cam says he should.

    My instinct, in your shoes, would be to let your boyfriend know he is dangerously close to losing a girlfriend. Your kidding with him about his "boyfriend" is not showing him how much it is bothering you, and you deserve to be treated better than this by BOTH of them.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris View Post
    Can you tell your boyfriend that Douchebag is hitting on you, and you keep turning him down flat. That the texting is designed to get you two to break up?

    That should get your BF's attention.
    I almost wonder if htis IS his roundabout way of doing htat! Maybe he doesnt have hte social skills to outright hit on you, so he hopes that things will be different once your single.

    But yeah, it was either that, or the thought htat your boyfriend asked him to keep an eye on you.

    Or that this guy is a stalker, and your bf NEEDS to nip it in the bud.

    Neither option looks good.
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    My boyfriend wouldn't ask him to check up on em...I think that he thinks he is doing my bf a favor by checking on me. Or maybe he isn't even intentionally checking on me and reportng back..he just..thinks it's ok to text my bf about my whereabouts and activities.

    with the guy friend I was with at the club when he was following us...
    The way my bf described it was: He didn't know you wanted to be alone with your friend. He just thought he had run into his friends (me) and thought it was cool to hang out with yu guys.
    Ok. But didn't he get the hint when I completly turned my back to the guy, ignored him for 2 hours then got up and moved without inviting him?

    On his loyalty: He will defend me when the guy calls me a bitch or whatever. he will tell him to knock it of. However..he doesn't think this guy is doing anythign wrong, so he defends him. He thinks I overreact and should be ok with this guy, he isn't causing any harm.
    Maybe I am overreacting..it just makes me feel really really uncomfortable to know my every move is being watched at work. It makes me really uncomfortable that i cant even take a day off without him saying I should be at work cause it's busy. It's always busy. Still need days off. I'm repeating myelf now.


    Yes, the problem is with my boyfriend not tellin him to back off. And the problem with him like I said eariler..he doesn't thinkof me as a stripper at the club, h thinks of me as his friends girlfriend.

    grrr. I despise this guy more and more every day.

    he even came on vacation with us a few weeks ago!
    2 couples...and him. yeah. didn't go over to well.

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    You are NOT overreacting...if anything you are UNDER reacting. I would have ripped him a new one by now and under NO circumstances would I have allowed him to come on vacation with us. You are nicer then I could ever be!

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    That would not sit well with me at all. I could just imagine if I were in your shoes-having someone report my every move to my boyfriend while I'm at work. Not cool at all.

    Maybe try asking your bf how he would feel if a female friend of yours hung out at his job all day and did the same thing?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chgojoe View Post
    I think the problem is completely with your boyfriend. I question his loyalty because he sides with what sounds like a complete loser who he has a short history with. I question his judgment and character because he is friends with, and so close to someone so empty, shiftless and unbalanced.
    I agree. I can't beleive your boyfriend would tolerate someone bothering you at work and "reporting back" to him. If someone did this to me, I'm pretty sure C. would be livid. So yeah, your boyfriend is being a douche.

    At the same time, it sounds like everybody is doing everything except directly confronting the person they're most annoyed with. I can see why you would want you bf to talk to his friend for you -- after all, they're friends, so maybe he could get the point across better. However, if your boyfriend won't do this, YOU need to do it.

    Summon all your calm and cool and tell this guy what you want him to do...go away for ever... that he's OK to be in the club, but you need him to pretend to not even know you...whatever it is that you need him to do. Tell him if he wants to make a comment about something you're doing, to tell it to YOU. If he wants to tell you you're lazy and should be working, to say it to your face. If he doesn't have the eggs to tell it to you directly, to keep it to himself.
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    Talked to the bf, he called the friend and set him straight. said there's be no more issues.

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