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    PhillyDancer1982
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    Default Deceptive or not? What do you think?

    Okay last week there was a very drunk customer who bought a lot of shots from me but at one point started stiffing me and refusing to pay me for the remaining 4 shots. After urging him and spending too much time on this "dead cause" when there were other customers to tend to(okay okay it wasn't that long, but it was still a good 5-10mins wasted on him), I complained to the manager. He was finishing up a chat with this one girl, who isn't mean to me or anything but isn't the #1 friendliest either, said in a really sweet voice, "Aw is that the guy who was buying all those shots for us girls earlier? I know who he is. He has the money but is just trying to be stubborn. C'mon, I'll help you get him to give up the money he owes." Then she walked out, I followed her, and she walked straight past the stiffin' asshole and just did her thing as usual!



    Ugh. Do you think she was fooling me? I'm wondering if maybe she just said that whole "aw I'll help you get your money from that big mean asshole" thing just to gain brownie points with the manager, since he was right there when she said it. Or do you think she meant to help me and got distracted?(e.g., happens if you drink too much...although she's not a sloppy drunk or anything close to that like some of the dancers at my club; she's a good hustler) It wasn't a big deal that she blew off the guy, since it's not her job to help me...so I don't care about that...I just hope it wasn't some kinda joke on me or something with no real intention to help me, which I'd have a right to feel a bit insulted by. Who do these people think they're fooling?

    That's why I figured I'd ask you guys to see what you think of this. I don't want to go into work acting all cold/passive-aggressive to her if she didn't mean any harm...but worse yet, I also don't want to go into work giving her time of day and saying "hiiii!" if she most likely disregards me, know what I mean?

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    Default Re: Deceptive or not? What do you think?

    Maybe she just saw someone she needed to talk to right then..a high paying reg and it fell out of her brain that she was supposed to be helping you.

    Yes, some people are a-holes,but some are just ditzy. Dont take it personally.

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    ^ Okay. Yeah I'm not taking it personally, as I don't know her well enough to care one way or another. I just wanted to know if I'd been dissed or not, so that I wouldn't make the stupid mistake of acting all cheery and shit next time I see her, since that would make me appear spineless and naive. I'm obsessed with not looking spineless; I'd rather look too jerky than too spineless/subservient! But I guess I will play it by ear and see how she acts towards me in the next couple of weeks to really gage if I happen to even remember or think of it.

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    That's really fucked up and it's a really hard question because I can't tell either! I guess just observe her behavior towards you and see how she acts. I'm sorry I couldn't be more help. If we believe the good in everyone maybe she was a little tipsy and as soon as she walked off got distracted like you said. Who cares if you say hi to her.. I don't say hi to anyone who doesn't routinely say hello to me. If she doesn't say hello to you when she sees you don't say shit to her.

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    ^^ I agree.
    Be pretty neutral in your interactions and wait to see how she acts towards you.






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    Quote Originally Posted by PhillyDancer1982 View Post
    I just wanted to know if I'd been dissed or not, so that I wouldn't make the stupid mistake of acting all cheery and shit next time I see her, since that would make me appear spineless and naive. I'm obsessed with not looking spineless; I'd rather look too jerky than too spineless/subservient!
    Don't overthink it. If she just forgot about helping you, it's pretty pointless to do anything about it now. If she was intentionally messing with you, dwelling on it is just letter her get to you. Best thing you can do is forget about it now; it's over.

    If I were you, I would continue to treat her with the same normal courtesy as everyone else. Being polite is NOT being spineless. Being polite doesn't mean bending over backwards for someone, either. To me, good manners = total neutrality. If I like someone, I might be more casual or helpful, but even someone I don't like is going to get "please" and "thank you" from me, unless we are right in the middle of a hair-pulling, face-scratching fight to the death.

    I don't know how big your club is, but in a busy environment it's usually pretty easy not to have to spend too much time around someone if you don't want to. Just don't be around her for a while. If she continues to seek you out, you'll figure out pretty quickly if she's being helpful or hurtful.

    P.S. What's up with your avatar? You're profile says you're a boy now!

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    she could just be really ditzy or drunk. or she could be a bitch. just don't worry about it. there isn't really any point whichever one she is.
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