hi there....
i have this proplem..and i don't know what i should do.......![]()
my husband told me he is dating another girl![]()
please help me..i am loosing my mind here..

hi there....
i have this proplem..and i don't know what i should do.......![]()
my husband told me he is dating another girl![]()
please help me..i am loosing my mind here..




I would throw his shit on the lawn and light a big bonfire and then give him ten minutes to get out of my sight before I chopped his balls off.
If he wants to date someone else he should have had the guts to ask for a divorce. Seriously.
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but we are separet already....
but i am still in love?





Well, when my ex-wife did that, we got divorced. There was very little tossing, chopping, or burning.
Maybe I missed out on something.
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if you're separated, I don't think there's much you can do. Other than hope he comes back.





You're separated... that's what happens... it means it's over. Move on.
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Think like a man
Act like a lady
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Oh sorry I didn't realise you were separated, not much right to chop off anything unfortunately.
I think Lysondra had it in a nutshell, it means he no longer loves you and it is time to move onWhich is sad, but better to know that then waste your life opining over him...
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I'm sorry, sweetie. I went through the same thing. I know it hurts so badly, even though me and my ex were legally separated. I still loved him and wanted him to come back to me. He did after a couple of months and I forgave him... but it just didn't work out because even though I was able to forgive him, I couldn't forget. About 6 months after we got back together, we separated again-- and later divorced. Nobody can tell you what to do about your marriage. Only you know the agony you are going through, and plus, we don't know all the dirt. I've always believed that it takes 2 to tango. I wish you the best in whatever it is you decide to do.
I would take a vacation somewhere and do my best to have a good time and move on. I did this actually a few years ago after a bad break up, it was good just being in a different place.





^That's great advice! I wish I had done that... but I was staying with my mother during the separation. She was sad because my dad was deployed so we both kinda needed eachother at the time.
That's good advice too! When I left the ex, I just drank a lot.
I wouldn't recommend it.
I'm sorry you're going through this, OP. But it really sounds like you should try to move on because he already has and although you want him back, you can't force him. He's made a decision and you won't be able to change his mind.





I'm sorry you are in such stress over this. The best time for fixing up a marriage is while both people are really trying their best. All you can really do is to try to stay in touch with him and you both try to work to your problems, together and separately.
Separation is a test stage -- to see if you can get along separately. You are now at a stage when you have to be forgiving of his testing because that's what separation is. He knows you could be dating also. It's just that apparently he is farther along that stage than you are.
You are going to have to prepare yourself for whatever happens, though. But sometimes people get back together when they see what it is really like out there, and they realize that maybe more effort at fixing up what they had is the better path.
I hope you two find what is best for you both.
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This would hurt a lot.
Maybe u should start dating someone. Rebound relationships can be a good way to distract yourself from the pain of a break up.
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Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.
I'd try to date someone else as well. Half the point of being separated is to see what its like to be single.
Maybe he'll decide he doesnt like it and come back,,,maybe he'll decide he DOES like it and wont come back.
But pining for him wont help either of you.





The girls have given good advice here.
Let me add only this: Your suffering in this situation is directly related to the fact that your thoughts are overwhelmingly centred around him, and your past relationship...and also scary thoughts about not being lovable, being lonely, never being happy again....stuff like that.
Healing usually starts this way: Other thoughts creep in over time that displace the scary thoughts. You have a thought like "I'm hungry", or "I feel like a walk" or a friend calls and for a moment you are distracted by helping her with a problem she is having. This is how time heals.
Any sort of distraction...a new boy, a vacation, going to the gym more, volunteering...whatever, will help you now. You must move on, as painful as it is, but it will start to feel better in time. You can speed the process up a little by finding distractions that give you relief from your current thoughts.
Just my 2 cents.![]()
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NANCY, you've gotten great advice thus far. Just remember:
Don't spend your time and thoughts on someone who isn't willing to do the same for you.
It'll hurt, for a while, but the sooner you move on towards the new beginning, the sooner eternal happiness will find you.
Guy #1: I'd totally hit that.
Guy #2: Dude, I'd hit that so hard whoever could pull me out would become the King of England.
It means he is moving on and you should do the same. The vacation was a great idea; have a fling or two, but don't get attached again for awhile. The best way to get over someone is to get under someone.

hi there... thank you all for the advices ......but you know what.....i think he gives me a message that i should change and stop making him mad...or it will be easy to move on....
what i should do?
i dont want to make him feel with that power?
help...





The only person that can make you change is you.
Look like a woman
Think like a man
Act like a lady
Work like a dog
- My Great Grandmother Bessie's Recipe for Success
I'm confused. Why are you separated? I mean, what are the parameters of the separation? Is it so you can work stuff out and try again? Or are you separated leading up to a divorce? It's pretty tough to form any kind of opinion on this without knowing these facts.

ok i was thinking to have the divorce but i found out i still miss him and i have strong feeling toward him......so i started to make the ftuff to make it works
Go to Vegas and have sex with a random handsome stranger. Don't get his number or even his last name.
You'll feel better, guaranteed!
ETA: That's what I would do...
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