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    AARGH! I have a crush on a customer! He has only been in about 4 times in the last 6 months, and always comes in with his friend. (his friend comes in every other week) He is only a few years older than me and seems like an absolute swetheart. He isn't classically handsome and is a bit overweight, but he just seems to radiate warmth, and seems a little bit shy. I just get the vibe that he would treat me really well if I dated him. (And I havn't been laid in 10 months, so perhaps it's not really a crush but more of a lust thing.) He doesn't spend enough money for me to worry about loosing him as a customer if I date him. My only hesitation is his friend is a bit of a smoothtalker/conartist and I have caught his friend in a few lies. If they're hanging out they are probably similiar, right? Have any of you guys dated guys who were nice who had friends who were players/conartists?

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    Meh. If the slimey friend is the ONLY obstacle, I wouldn't worry about it. Most guys have a few loser friends.

    And anyway, if you got the vibe that the friend was conning you, you'll pick it up from the other guy, too, if you take your time getting to know him and don't rush anything.

    If you're serious about dating him, you should probably stop seeing him in the club, before things get weird. Oh, but bear in mind that his friend might keep coming in...will that bother you?

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    I met my bf in the club, and we be gettin' married someday, so I know that these things CAN work out.

    That said...

    TAKE YOUR TIME getting to know him. If he asks you to go out with him, then at least you know he is interested, but don't go out with him unless you can get a feel as far as what his intentions are. I would just get to know him very well and if something develops, great. Don't go jumping into things though. Take it slow.
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    In spite of being in a profession renowned for con artists, I am not one of them--but I have had many friends who were total swine with women, and were consummate bullshit artists.

    Also, there's something about being in a stripclub, or being around strippers, that seems to make guys want to lie through their teeth, even when it's not at all necessary. Not that this guy is doing that, necessarily.

    That being said, mixing business with pleasure is never a wise choice. I have made that mistake a couple times, and have learned to try like hell to play outside of where I work--otherwise it interferes with the money flow. Good luck...
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    I just wanted to add -- if I were in your situation and wanted to get to know a customer outside of work, I would be the one to ask him. I know opinions vary about this, but I've always felt like being the one to ask put me more in control of the situation.

    Also, well-behaved customers don't ask dancers out, so if you're waiting for him and he's a nice guy, you'll be waiting for a while. And the nicer a guy he is, the longer you'll wait. Not to mention, you say he's shy. Yeah...the longer you draw out the customer/dancer relationship, the wierder it is trying to turn it into another kind or relationship. Just saying.

    I think DJoser has a good point, too. It's not always good to play where you work. Do you really like this guy, or is the club the only place you're meeting men. Because it can get like that sometimes.

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    Hehe.............................I have a crush on a cusite too but I'm NEVER gonna tell him & he's NEVER gonna find out. It makes going to work alot more fun *blush*

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    yes i agree with sunshine in taking your TIME to get to know him

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    go with your gut/heart (couldn't decide which word to use heart sounded nice but too lovey dovey so i put gut in to even it out)
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    i hardly meet guys that im attracted to at work but tonite i met an austrilian guy whos in med school.... (i made him show me his med school id)... i am infatuated by this guy.. holy shit... dark hair, dark eyes, tall.. beautiful human being... i literally wanted to leave the club and hang out with him... it was that bad...

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    Most strip club customers wish they could get a dancer to have a crush on them so they can see the girl OTC. I do not recommend doing this with a customer. First it ruins the customer. Now after he stops seeing you he will except all girls at the same club and other clubs to date him. second, of course he has been working this game for awhile and who knows where he has been. If you need to go on a date, do not do it in the club. Strip clubs are not dating services.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sexysunny View Post
    go with your gut/heart (couldn't decide which word to use heart sounded nice but too lovey dovey so i put gut in to even it out)
    Yes. Listen to your intuition/feelings. And pay attention to what is going on when he is around, and take note of how he treats you.

    I know strip clubs aren't dating services, but... when I met C at the club my gut was screaming to me " THIS IS THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE, DO IT!!" I didn't care that I was losing the $$ he was spending on me b/c I care more about him than the money and I knew he wasn't the type to go around to all the other clubs boning all the other dancers. And why miss out on true love b/c of a freakin' job?

    I wouldn't advise dating strip club custies for fun, b/c that just creates drama. But if you feel it may be the love of your life, I say go for it. Just be sure to take your time and don't be impulsive about it. Make sure it's what you really want.
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    I suppose its true that you never know who you are going to meet at work and that it may be one of the loves of your life but please be careful.

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    Quote Originally Posted by oregonchick View Post
    I suppose its true that you never know who you are going to meet at work and that it may be one of the loves of your life but please be careful.
    Yes. Definitely be careful. So many psychos out there...
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    Quote Originally Posted by oregonchick View Post
    Most strip club customers wish they could get a dancer to have a crush on them so they can see the girl OTC. I do not recommend doing this with a customer. First it ruins the customer. Now after he stops seeing you he will except all girls at the same club and other clubs to date him. second, of course he has been working this game for awhile and who knows where he has been. If you need to go on a date, do not do it in the club. Strip clubs are not dating services.
    I understand what you are saying, but for clarification, this "customer" only comes in every 6 weeks, only with his friend, and only spends $20-50 per visit. I am NOT woried in the least about loosing him as a customer, and I am the only one he ever spends money on, so I'm not worried about stepping on any co-workers toes. I know it is bad policy to go out with someone you meet in the club, but in this case I think I will chose the unprofessional route. (but I do appreciate your advice.)

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