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    lately i have become REALLY anti-social. i find that while im at work i expend so much energy entertaining my customers that i just cant be bothered socialising with friends anymore. apart from spending time with my bf and family i would rather just hang at home with my cat and chat on the net. i feel like a shitty friend but i really need my time off for ME. does anyone else feel like this??

    P.S u may remember i posted a thread a while ago bout violent bf's. thanku to everyone for your advice he is now getting councilling for his anger problem and we r doing alot better xx

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    Glad to here that about you and you're bf.

    I'm just the opposite of you, although it may have to do with the fact that i've lived in vegas for a little over a year and when i first moved here all i did was work and go home. the only person i knew was my bf. so now that i have friends to call and go out with, i want to do that.

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    i have been a huge hermit lately... i don't feel the need to be out and about.. i go in spurts though... im either totally a loner, or i am super social.

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    You're totally not alone.

    I've been having the same issue lately. Lucky for me, I live far from everyone and everything, so it's easier to just keep to myself and only spend time with Boyfriend and The Baby. Although, I have been having a difficult time with Boyfriend's mom lately, because she always wants to spend time with us (even with just me) and I hate to tell her no. But I do anyway, because I'm just so drained from work and I'm also on a roll with my schedule and routine and I don't want any interruptions. Oh, well.

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    yea i feel this way too sometimes. All my friends want to do is go out and drink at bars anyway, so it feels too much like work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by austinatalie View Post
    yea i feel this way too sometimes. All my friends want to do is go out and drink at bars anyway, so it feels too much like work.
    totally!! i feel like my work IS my social life i LOVE meeting all the new people i meet and i get $$$ for it - so cool!! its just that its exhausting and when im not working i want peace and quiet and to spend quality time alone. is that so bad??

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    I think it's common for a lot of people who have to do a fair amount of customer service and/or selling... I found I was more social when I was entertaining simply because I only worked 2-3 shifts per week. Now that I'm doing hair and working 5 days a week, I'm a complete bitch when I'm off the clock. If you're not my husband or a very close friend, I have very little patience for you. It's like I use all my niceness up at work so it's just better for me (and my loved ones) to come home and veg out.

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    You're not alone. I am completely selfish when it comes to my free time, and want to spend it with the boy or by myself. Sometimes social obligations feel more like work..I hate maintaining friendships, I wanna be able to pick up where i leave off when i want to.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MeanGirl View Post
    You're not alone. I am completely selfish when it comes to my free time, and want to spend it with the boy or by myself. Sometimes social obligations feel more like work..I hate maintaining friendships, I wanna be able to pick up where i leave off when i want to.
    thanku i dont feel so abnormal now yay!!

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    I'm glad to see other people on here like this. I've been getting more and more adament about staying at home lately. I don't really want to go out at all. Not really even to eat. I just want to stay in and cuddle with my puppies.
    My sex drive has also been down

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    I try to be social and then all my friends wanna party and do drugs and drink and I'm like.... yeah I'll be antisocial again.


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    This is common with actors, strippers, any group of people that work entertaining the public. People always need a break from work. Since our jobs involve heavy social contact, it makes sense that we'd need a break from socializing sometimes.

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    Nope you're not alone. I'm the same way. I was wondering if I was becoming agoraphobic last week. I feel bad 'cause people will call and I don't pick up the phone etc. It's good to know I'm not crazy!
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    I am really glad someone posted this. I was beginning to wonder if I was the only person alive happy not having that much of a social life. When I am off work, I am pretty happy to just hang around the house by myself or with my boyfriend. I do have a few close friends that I go out with from time to time....but not that many.
    Lol. I guess I always imagine other girls have these kick ass social lives...but I just don't have the energy for it!

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    Yeah I'm with ya. I was already a hermit to begin with, so it sort of makes it worse.

    However, now that I'm so used to making small talk with strangers, meeting new people, and being in a party atmosphere (I'm not a party girl), I am better able to enjoy the times that I do go out with my friends.

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    Hermit here as well. I've stopped picking up the phone too. Meh. I only have one close friend neaby and the bf. I think a lot of it situational-My former friend-group all have houses and babies. All the other people I associate with are college students who go out all the time to drink. I'll go to stuff at my theatre or to dinner with the older friends on those rare times they are available, but I don't go out partying generally.

    I might go out a little if it were less bar-oriented. Maybe.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jayde81 View Post
    lately i have become REALLY anti-social. i find that while im at work i expend so much energy entertaining my customers that i just cant be bothered socialising with friends anymore. apart from spending time with my bf and family i would rather just hang at home with my cat and chat on the net. i feel like a shitty friend but i really need my time off for ME. does anyone else feel like this??

    P.S u may remember i posted a thread a while ago bout violent bf's. thanku to everyone for your advice he is now getting councilling for his anger problem and we r doing alot better xx
    You are definitely not alone.

    I'm a hermit here too. When I am not at work, I am either alone, with my kiddo, or with my boyfriend. I don't even drink anymore, and "partying" doesn't appeal to me. During my time off I want to be at home, reading or relaxing or on the internet. Or at the gym. I need "me time". Work takes a lot of energy and if I don't refresh my mental/emotional batteries, I'll burn out.
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    I go in phases. Sometimes I'm hyper-social always doing something, not a second to spare girl.. and then I got through my 'shut in' agrophobic I love my couch phase.

    There really doesn't seem to be much middle ground.
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    I have not read all of this thread however I will post this link as I feel a lot of us (not just me) can relate to it:

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