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    So, here's a little story. I'm bopping along. All is good in the world. I had a kickass night last night. Made some serious bank and I'm talking to my SO about spending some time together.

    Like, I can if I do okay at work because I made eight bills the night before.

    I expected his repluy to be.... WOW that's awesome babe you just rock. Instead I got..... who was the lucky guy.

    Okay. So I'm stupid and don't get it at first and my little blond brain goes huh?
    Then it hits me like a ton of bricks. He actually thought that I had fucked some guy for eight hundred dollars.

    Well! How nice. Granted I have worked in a brothel and even done some Indy work but to screw some random jackass from a strip club for eight bills? No.

    Please explain to me how this can even compute in the male brain as I can't even wrap my head around it.

    Geeeeeze!

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    For serious? I would have smacked that talk from his blasphemous mouth. ugh.

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    Have you talked to him about it? My first thought was that he was saying that "the lucky" guy was the one who got all the dances not one that got sex.

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    I was thinking the same thing Kryssy was.

    My boyfriend says shit like that every night. "Try not to fuck all the guys when your there" kind of stuff. It's stupid. I just ignore it. In my case I know he's jealous that I'm making more money than him and he hates the idea of stripping all together, but that's just too damn bad.

    Maybe your SO was just having a hard time dealing with it that night? Other than that it was probably just a joke.

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    my husband always tells me to say hello to my boyfriend. wth??
    It doesn't make any sense.
    IMO even the most secure men are a lil insecure



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    your SO gots some issues with your work, obviously. but he's not a 'new guy', right? so i would think there's something else bothering him besides the dancing work.

    could it be something simply in his life and not yours? e.g. his work, his family, his friends, etc. could be his friends/family talking smack about you all of a sudden (jealousy). or he's going thru mid-life/mid-relationship crisis.

    regardless, that was a pretty shitty thing for him to say. 100%-insecurity.

    now you can react angry/insulted/etc.

    or you can react questioning/caring trying to find out what the real problem is.

    ...

    ...and after everything's settled down then surprise-kick him in the nutz for that insult.

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    He was prob. just green w/ envy at the time. Still sux ass..
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    Is it something in his past behavior that caused you to take his comment in that way? I also thought he meant the lucky guy who got all the dances or your company, but that's because that is the way my husband has always treated my job. Is he jealous in other ways?

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    Quote Originally Posted by kryssy View Post
    Have you talked to him about it? My first thought was that he was saying that "the lucky" guy was the one who got all the dances not one that got sex.
    This is what I thought too. Like you simply got a string of expensive Champagne Rooms (or the equivalent) with a really loaded guy. Hit the jackpot the way we all do sometimes. It is too late to give him the benefit of the doubt?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Crow2 View Post
    So, here's a little story. I'm bopping along. All is good in the world. I had a kickass night last night. Made some serious bank and I'm talking to my SO about spending some time together.

    Like, I can if I do okay at work because I made eight bills the night before.

    I expected his repluy to be.... WOW that's awesome babe you just rock. Instead I got..... who was the lucky guy.

    Okay. So I'm stupid and don't get it at first and my little blond brain goes huh?
    Then it hits me like a ton of bricks. He actually thought that I had fucked some guy for eight hundred dollars.

    Well! How nice. Granted I have worked in a brothel and even done some Indy work but to screw some random jackass from a strip club for eight bills? No.

    Please explain to me how this can even compute in the male brain as I can't even wrap my head around it.

    Geeeeeze!

    seems to me hes being Passive-aggressive - stemming from some kind of insecurity. my first thought anyway.

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    Insecurity coupled with an idea common to men that a woman can't just earn that much in a night doing strictly stripping... I've spent that much a few times so for me not a problem, but I've heard that reaction from other guys, women too I guess.

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    I thought the same way Krissy did too. Are you sure thats not what he meant? My husband might say something similar..mostly because to make that here I'd HAVE to get lucky off one guy.

    If you know for sure he meant sex..maybe you should re-evaluate the relationship and talk to him because he obviously doesnt know you very well.

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    Is this the same guy that slept with your best friend? If so I don't think I would give him a 3rd chance to hurt you. It would be silly to expect him not to do something else, if he can behave this badly mere weeks after an incident that should have left him kissing your ass for the rest of his life (or at least a year or so).

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    Quote Originally Posted by jasmine View Post
    Is this the same guy that slept with your best friend?
    whaaa?!?

    kick that dumas to the curb.

    frankly, i would get no better treatment and expect no better.

    and i've also kicked to the curb and wouldn't accept anything less. neither should you.

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    Sheesh ladies, I'm here to study the boards and learn how to deal with how my nursing student is paying off her student loans!! I'm sorry that your SO's give you troubles.

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    Quote Originally Posted by murrayhillbob View Post
    Sheesh ladies, I'm here to study the boards and learn how to deal with how my nursing student is paying off her student loans!! I'm sorry that your SO's give you troubles.
    why do you care how your student is paying off her loans?I"m not seeing how that is any of an employer or schools business(whichever you are)

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    ay!! I beg forgiveness! One too many glasses of wine tonight. The nursing student is my significant other!

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    Quote Originally Posted by murrayhillbob View Post
    ay!! I beg forgiveness! One too many glasses of wine tonight. The nursing student is my significant other!
    Ah ha ..that makes more sense!

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    I bought the Naked Assets Stripper sales training kit and waiting for it. She's busy studying medical-surgical, asking me how to negotiate, what to wear, etc. Pure craziness Cameron, I'm anxious about it, but supportive. I hope you can understand me.

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    Good for you for being supportive!And trying to educate yourself instead of relying on rumors.

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    Thank you Cameron. I haven't seen a lot of posts from SO's, but it would be of interest to me. take care and go bank!

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