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    I originally came here to SW to say goodbye to my friend who took her own life. She was a dancer for 8 years and often spoke of this site which is what led me here to say goodbye to her, since I would now never have the chance to do it in person.

    I was invited to stay around by some of the nice ladies who responded in my original thread and I ended up hanging out in the random thread until it was closed down. It was a great place for me to write about all of the craziness and change which was happening in my life because of this sad event. By writing all these thoughts out somewhere, it helped me to wrap my mind around things, at least a little.

    Now that TRT is gone and I began expanding beyond the lounge and looking into the other areas of SW, I was really taken aback. Being both a man and being new to this site, I feel like everywhere I go around here that I have two strikes against me. What started out as a very positive experience for me has now turned into the opposite. Just trying to participate here makes me feel like I'm getting the evil eye, like how dare you post here. This place is ours. you shouldn't be here. Get out. Now no one here was actually mean to me, but this is just the vibe that I get from reading through the different forums.

    I just want to say thank you to all those who offered me support and a shoulder to lean on when I needed it most, but I think i'll just fade into the background and check back from time to time to see how everyone is doing.

    Thanks to everyone from Mike and Liz.
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    There has been a lot of that going around lately. Stick around it will blow over. It always does. These things seem to be cyclical. Some times some of the posters make me feel unwelcome and I've been on here FOREVER. Just ignore them. It's what I do.

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    I would like to apologize for any wrongful opposition you have gotten here. I'm really sickened by the anti male-ness that has been going around lately, and I honestly hope it doesn't drive you away.
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    Yeah I have no problems with you and I'm sure nobody does. Those comments made about trolls were not directed at you at all Im sure.
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    Don't leave, ignore the haters, there are plenty of people who would like you to stay.



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    Mikey - professional support site. While I'm glad you enjoyed the Random Thread, please keep in mind that the site does have a mandate, and that it by nature privileges people who, you know, fit into that mandate. We are not likely to apologize for the fact that this site is more friendly to strippers than customers or that it is more friendly to strippers than random people. While a few people (unsurprisingly, mostly male) agree that this site should have a more open mandate and be some kind of playground for guys to cavort with strippers on their terms, to most of us the order we have is the order we want - which is, perhaps not surprisingly, why we have it.

    Non-dancers are welcome here if they can fit into our agenda and our mandate; we do not plan to change the site to suit them.
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    ^^^^that last statement applies to my life!!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by jasmine View Post
    There has been a lot of that going around lately. Stick around it will blow over. It always does. These things seem to be cyclical. Some times some of the posters make me feel unwelcome and I've been on here FOREVER. Just ignore them. It's what I do.
    Im feelin ya on that one...

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    Glad you got some support when it was needed. Sorry you felt unwelcome by a few of the members. I can relate.

    While some people have been very nice to me at times I got the get lost thing from some others. Alot of appears to have to do with being new or having a low post count. It also seems to be done by a small yet loud group of members. It's much more about them than it is any of us that get the cold shoulder.

    Consider sticking around if you like some of the people or discussions here. I've noticed there are several males who are quite welcomed. Others not so much. It's more about what and how they post than being male. At least that is the way it looks to me from my limited time here so far.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    Mikey - professional support site. While I'm glad you enjoyed the Random Thread, please keep in mind that the site does have a mandate, and that it by nature privileges people who, you know, fit into that mandate. We are not likely to apologize for the fact that this site is more friendly to strippers than customers or that it is more friendly to strippers than random people. While a few people (unsurprisingly, mostly male) agree that this site should have a more open mandate and be some kind of playground for guys to cavort with strippers on their terms, to most of us the order we have is the order we want - which is, perhaps not surprisingly, why we have it.

    Non-dancers are welcome here if they can fit into our agenda and our mandate; we do not plan to change the site to suit them.
    I totally understand that because of your role as a mod here, that you need to protect the integrity of this site and help to steer it's course back towards the mandated goal. While I understand your individual role to protect the integity of the big picture, I would ask that you try not to forget the small picture too. I'm not looking to debate you on what I think this site should be, because you're right. It should be for and about the ladies here formost above anything else. I am just a guest here and would not presume to tell you how things should be run.

    One of the main reasons I stayed around here beyond my original post was that I hoped to learn from you all and gain some insight as to how this line of work affects you as individuals. By looking at what you all go through here, I hoped it would help me to understand my friend a little bit better.

    I know this isn't a professional support site Jenny. My goal here was not therapy, but hope that by sharing Rebecca's story with you all, I was contributing something positive to the people here.
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    I hope you'll stick around. Please feel free to come join us in the "Bloop" thread down in Members'.

    ...It's nothing like Random. NOTHING.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mikey35 View Post
    I know this isn't a professional support site Jenny. My goal here was not therapy, but hope that by sharing Rebecca's story with you all, I was contributing something positive to the people here.
    I think you misunderstood. This IS a professional support site - for us. This is a website for professional female exotic dancers. The men who can fit in here are welcome; those who cannot are not entitled to think that the mandate of the site will be altered so that they feel more comfortable. In terms of the "small picture" - that can be addressed on a case by case basis when you encounter an actual problem.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    I think you misunderstood. This IS a professional support site - for us. This is a website for professional female exotic dancers. The men who can fit in here are welcome; those who cannot are not entitled to think that the mandate of the site will be altered so that they feel more comfortable. In terms of the "small picture" - that can be addressed on a case by case basis when you encounter an actual problem.
    Yes, I did misunderstand what you were trying to say Jenny. Sorry about that. But I think you're misunderstanding me also. Just because the mandate of this site is to be first and formost for the professional female exotic dancers, that doesn't automatically give them the right to be condescending and exclusionary towards everyone else here. I'm not just talking about the guys, but several ladies have expressed this as well. It's like if you don't belong to one of the popular cliques, then you don't really count around here as a person.
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    I find it interesting that you only felt welcome in TRT then, because we're the "clique" everyone bitches about.

    I hope some will at least consider the fact that, perhaps, we are not the ONLY clique to grace SW that allegedly shuts others out.

    That being said, I stand by my earlier statement, Mikey. Come join us down in Members Boards. You will be welcomed with open arms in the "Bloop" thread. No discrimination allowed!

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    Hi Mike, and welcome to stripperweb.

    I just wanted to let you know that there is nothing personal in our members hesitation to welcome a male non-industry member.

    Strippers (and other sex workers) are frequently the target of hatred and animosity by the larger population. Although stripping is a legally accepted career, we are frequently ostracized by society at large on so many different levels. Having a public forum like stripperweb is wonderful for those in the industry, but at the same time it acts a bullseye for those that hate strippers or see strippers as convenient punching bags.

    In order to keep the forum stripper friendly, we must use strict moderation. Most dancers are suspicious of non-industry people because of the abuse we've had to endure because of our careers.

    As far as I know, there is no equal to this site anywhere on the planet. The success comes from being strict with who is welcomed as members. Usually the bad apples are handled quickly. We tend to be a magnet for stalkers, angry ex's, people peddling religion, people recruiting for their events or club, sales people selling everything from shoes to plastic surgery etc.

    We do welcome fans to participate, so long as they understand that they are the fans. This means giving advice in sections that are designated for professional discussions is not welcomed. Most of our fans stay in the sections like lounge, members, coming out, customer conversation and the junkie forums. A good rule of thumb is to stay in the "Off-Topic" sections in the lower half of the screen unless you have industry specific topics to address.

    Thanks for being so understanding.

    P.S. I'm probably not the only one, but I am curious as to which member we have lost. You don't have to reveal her screen identity, but possibly some other members would be appreciative of the knowledge who it is that has passes away.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Mikey35 View Post
    Yes, I did misunderstand what you were trying to say Jenny. Sorry about that. But I think you're misunderstanding me also. Just because the mandate of this site is to be first and formost for the professional female exotic dancers, that doesn't automatically give them the right to be condescending and exclusionary towards everyone else here. I'm not just talking about the guys, but several ladies have expressed this as well. It's like if you don't belong to one of the popular cliques, then you don't really count around here as a person.
    I don't belong to any clique, popular or otherwise. I definitely seem to count as a person. We cannot stop members from liking some members more than others. We can stop people from targeting other people - however, you've already said that nobody here has been anything but nice to you; which makes me wonder about the veracity of this complaint, at least in your case.
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    I seriously dont seee anyone being unfriendly or anything, just people stating there opinions .I guess some people are more sensitive then others .

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mikey35 View Post
    Just because the mandate of this site is to be first and formost for the professional female exotic dancers, that doesn't automatically give them the right to be condescending and exclusionary towards everyone else here.
    I'm certainly not defending any rudeness or any discriminatory remarks that may or may not have been said, but sometimes the girls here just defensive of this site (and sometimes for good reason).
    I'm afraid that the exclusionary vibe will never completely disappear (from everyone's attitude), people don't change. The intensity is cyclical, but never ends completely.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    I don't belong to any clique, popular or otherwise. I definitely seem to count as a person. We cannot stop members from liking some members more than others. We can stop people from targeting other people - however, you've already said that nobody here has been anything but nice to you; which makes me wonder about the veracity of this complaint, at least in your case.
    No one has ever been mean to my face Jenny. My original statement was just speaking about the feel and general mood of the site from my venturing outside of the Lounge for the first time. It was just an observation on my part and not about me personally. Although to my original point, it does affect me because it gives me a general feeling of being unwelcome here as both a man and a new poster.
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    No one has ever been mean to my face Jenny. My original statement was just speaking about the feel and general mood of the site from my venturing outside of the Lounge for the first time.
    Well, you probably understand that the most welcoming places for non-dancers are, indeed, in the Lounge and in Customer Conversation. If you notice an unwelcome attitude to men and non-dancers in Stripping General, Hustle Hut and especially Ladies Only - well, there are excellent reasons for that.
    It was just an observation on my part and not about me personally. Although to my original point, it does affect me because it gives me a general feeling of being unwelcome here as both a man and a new poster.
    Well, I'm glad that you have been personally welcomed, and have no personal complaints As for general observations about the more hard core dancer oriented sections of the site - well, they are intended to be more hardcore dancer oriented. So thank you for your opinions on those; I would be surprised, however, if those sections were changed anytime soon. Since you are happy with your personal experience on this site, why don't we focus on that and move forward?
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    I think he wants a teddy bear sorry I only have the head here's a to put the head on.

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    What is this "clique" you speak of? A clique is exclusionary. I haven't encountered it.

    You found a thread you liked. I'm sure there are others now and will be in the future. To you or anyone, I'd say if you're enjoying yourself, stay. If you're not, find yourself a happier place. It's a big Web.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    Well, you probably understand that the most welcoming places for non-dancers are, indeed, in the Lounge and in Customer Conversation. If you notice an unwelcome attitude to men and non-dancers in Stripping General, Hustle Hut and especially Ladies Only - well, there are excellent reasons for that.

    Well, I'm glad that you have been personally welcomed, and have no personal complaints As for general observations about the more hard core dancer oriented sections of the site - well, they are intended to be more hardcore dancer oriented. So thank you for your opinions on those; I would be surprised, however, if those sections were changed anytime soon. Since you are happy with your personal experience on this site, why don't we focus on that and move forward?
    I guess my confusion stems from the fact that the same people showing love in the lounge are the ones who are hating in the other forums. I guess I'm just trying to figure out which version is the real one.

    Anyway you're right. Time to move forward. Thanks for the debate Jenny, although I'm pretty sure I was trying to stay out of having one, lol.
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    Quote Originally Posted by beauty21queen View Post
    I think he wants a teddy bear sorry I only have the head here's a to put the head on.
    Thanks Beautyqueen. I shall stick it in the corner with the others so it has friends to play with.
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    People are still people..even on the internet. Some are going to be better friends then others,some will be more sensitive about certain topics,some will disagree....
    Just like any large group of people.

    You havent been here long enough to really get the feel of the place so try not to judge until you do.

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