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    Dumb question, and the only part of it that is dumb, is how I reacted to the whole thing..

    I've frequented a strip club in my hometown for many years now, we aren't the "buy dances"type of guys, we like going, chatting for a bit, seeing the sights and leaving.. probably what 60% of the clientele is I'd imagine(I could be way off).

    I was on vacation, and felt like celebrating with a lapdance, as I've never had one. I never had a friend that had one, and I never really asked anyone how it worked before, so I asked the lady at the desk when I came in.

    She said it was $25, tipping was not required, and that it is for 6 minutes, and there is to be no hands on contact with the girls. I knew the hands on part, and I also knew it was 6 minutes. I was surprised to hear tipping was not required, because if you sit at certain areas of the club, IT IS required.

    So onwards. A stripper came on that had something "about" her, that I liked, so she chatted us up, I bought a dance, and we went to the back. She put on her show, I made sure to make small talk only, and just tried to enjoy it.

    When it was over, I was like "uh..so now what? Is there a tip normally here?
    and she's like "yeah you have to tip me, or ...yeah.." so I handed her a $5 thinking since I normally give 1s it'd be OK. She got really offended and I saw her complaining about me to her friends and one of the bouncers. No one threw me out, or gave me shit, but all her friends were large muscled men and I didn't want to be on the shit list.

    What IS the proper tip for a lap dance?

    I have no idea what I was supposed to do, and I feel awful that I cheated the girl out of a fair tip, if a huge was is expected.

    Thanks in advance.

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    Complaining about ANY tip ..especially if you didnt do anything wrong(like being really pervy or licking her or anything) is just a bitch thing to do. Dont let it deter you from getting dances again.

    If however...you DID do something out of line then maybe she was bitching about THAT.
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    This is a geographically specific question. Where are you?
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    Did you touch, grind, lick, blow, wear sweats, shorts or swishy pants, talk dirty, smell bad, jizz ur pants or anything else that would have been offensive to her?

    If you were a normal non-disgusting customer I don't see why she would complain over the tip.

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    Agreed... half the time I don't even get a tip. $5 on one dance is pretty good. Sounds like she was just a greedy bitch.
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    Unless she was hoping for another dance, if you paid for the first and $5 on top of it she shouldn't have bitched.

    And, you're probably wrong that 60% of all customers only "come for the show".

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheTempest View Post
    Unless she was hoping for another dance, if you paid for the first and $5 on top of it she shouldn't have bitched.

    And, you're probably wrong that 60% of all customers only "come for the show".
    Even if she WAS hoping for another dance..she shouldnt have bitched. I ALWAYS hope for another dance (well..not always..some I cant wait to get away from!)...but if he doesnt want one and didnt do anything bad or pervy AND tips me, I dont bitch.

    And OP...I REALLY hope if you are just there "for the show" you are at LEAST tipping the girls,buying drinks..SOMETHING. Not every guy likes lapdances..but dont be useless to the girls. Thats just rude.

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    That weird... I can understand her pushing for more money but not being pissed about it... And man, if the lady at the front said tips aren't required, don't ask the dancer if they are, you're only gonna get one answer. If you want to tip, tip, but don't ask.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cameron_keys View Post
    Even if she WAS hoping for another dance..she shouldnt have bitched. I ALWAYS hope for another dance (well..not always..some I cant wait to get away from!)...but if he doesnt want one and didnt do anything bad or pervy AND tips me, I dont bitch.

    And OP...I REALLY hope if you are just there "for the show" you are at LEAST tipping the girls,buying drinks..SOMETHING. Not every guy likes lapdances..but dont be useless to the girls. Thats just rude.
    Yeah, I was just speculating because some girls are bitchy. -shrugs- I sure as hell wouldn't do it.

    Quote Originally Posted by jester214 View Post
    That weird... I can understand her pushing for more money but not being pissed about it... And man, if the lady at the front said tips aren't required, don't ask the dancer if they are, you're only gonna get one answer. If you want to tip, tip, but don't ask.
    As far as I know TIPS ARE ALWAYS WELCOME. Tip us often, tip us well. We will fawn all over you as long as the tips keep coming. LOL

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    Ok to answer some questions in the thread..

    1)Geographically : about one hour north of Philadelphia.

    2)I did nothing pervy. I wore jeans, took a shower within the last 4 hours, did not wear a "cologne suit" that you can smell from 4 yards away, or even 4 feet, did not touch, lick, grind, or otherwise do anything pervy. The only "weird" thing I may have done, is not be very talkative, and I could see how during a lapdance that could be problematic.

    3) "Just there for the show" . The club has 3 tiers of seats, an upper bar where the girls dont' go, that's no tip zone. A middle tier, where the girls come after the show, and get tips, and the down front on the stage zone, which is where we sit. I usually come with $50, tip every girl, every time she comes over, and when the money is gone, it's gone, and we leave. We dont' stay and get a "free show", I understand that while I enjoy the sights, the girls are there for the money.

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    it could be a club specific thing. for example, there's a club in philly where you are expected, almost required to tip each girl $3+ dollars per set. period. or else you will get the above described reaction. also in atlantic city, a lot of girls expect and demand a $20 tip (thats right) so maybe you unknowlingly wandered in somewhere like that
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    Quote Originally Posted by TheTempest View Post
    Yeah, I was just speculating because some girls are bitchy. -shrugs- I sure as hell wouldn't do it.

    As far as I know TIPS ARE ALWAYS WELCOME. Tip us often, tip us well. We will fawn all over you as long as the tips keep coming. LOL
    Of course. My point is theres no reason to ask if a tip is required if you someone else already told you it wasn't. He's only gonna get one answer in almost all cases. If you want to tip, tip. If not, don't.

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    Well tipping is the right thing to do in any kind circumstance..SC or OTC stuff...So you did the right thing...

    At the SC i frequent...they have 3 for 35 special..then a back-to-back 3 for 30 special...so its comes out to 65 and I give the dancer 80 usually...If im drunk, it usually goes up unfortunately...

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    Quote Originally Posted by jester214 View Post
    Of course. My point is theres no reason to ask if a tip is required if you someone else already told you it wasn't. He's only gonna get one answer in almost all cases. If you want to tip, tip. If not, don't.
    Tipping is never required . It may be expected and a common practice and should always be paid when appropriate, but when it is required, it ceases to be a tip and becomes part of the fee. I'm talking about tipping on top of the fee you paid for the dance, not for enjoying the stage show. In that case, the tip is the fee you pay for the show and it is in poor taste not to tip. I'm not advocating that anybody not tip, just making the point that by definition a tip is something paid above and beyond what is required. It is a way of showing appreciation for services rendered and is at the tipper's discretion.
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    There are some areas in the country where its technically illegal to charge for a lapdance but you can get tipped on it... like it's common knowledge and you can say 20 dollars is the customary tip for a ladance, but you can't say tipping is required...is this possibly the case?
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    At a club in Idaho, I tipped a dancer twenty bucks after buying six LDs. She said, "Wow! Nobody ever does that here."

    Six months later I was back in the same club. The same dancer was there, remembered me, and gave me some VERY nice dances.

    If a tip ISN'T expected and you give one, it apparently makes an impression.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SAVERTIGO View Post
    Dumb question, and the only part of it that is dumb, is how I reacted to the whole thing..

    I've frequented a strip club in my hometown for many years now, we aren't the "buy dances"type of guys, we like going, chatting for a bit, seeing the sights and leaving.. probably what 60% of the clientele is I'd imagine(I could be way off).
    luckily u r way off. if 60% of the customers were like you we would all be poor.
    i dont have much respect for guys who come into the club with that attitude. the dancers dont get paid if u just chat, have a free perve and leave.
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    ^^
    well, the fact that he would not be a valuable customer to any of us notwithstanding, I would suggest that the customary tip is probably regionally specific. I'd be interested in hearing from anyone who works there.
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    ^^ Could this be the same place posted about in club chat, where a $20 tip over the cost of the dance is expected?

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    And BTW..if ANY employee was specifically telling the guys basically not to tip..I'd have her fired. Screw you door girl. The PROPER answer would have been "dances are $25 and the girls always appreciate tipping". NEVER EVER tell a strip club customer not to tip.

    Good for you OP for not listening to the door girl.

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    Maybe he's in upstate NY: home of the upfront 100% tip per song.
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    I agree with everyone else. Tipping isn't required. I will be honest though I probably will call you a cheap bastard behind your back if you give me anything less than $2. That really ticks me off but that's because I am a bitch. Generally speaking your a great guy if you tip me $5 and you will even get a hug from me. Don't worry about it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SAVERTIGO View Post
    I've frequented a strip club in my hometown for many years now, we aren't the "buy dances"type of guys, we like going, chatting for a bit, seeing the sights and leaving.. probably what 60% of the clientele is I'd imagine(I could be way off).
    It probably wasn't the tip that caused the reaction.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SAVERTIGO View Post
    I've frequented a strip club in my hometown for many years now, we aren't the "buy dances"type of guys, we like going, chatting for a bit, seeing the sights and leaving.. probably what 60% of the clientele is I'd imagine(I could be way off).
    all.too.fucking.common

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny View Post
    all.too.fucking.common

    But you can't really expect this to change. If this option is presented to enough guys, some will take advantage of it. The only way I can see that ever ending would be for the club to impose a spending minimum, perhaps by forcing customers to buy "club money" (which is worthless anywhere else ) as part of the cover. I'm just not sure the club cares enough about their dancers to do it. Remember, the people who set the ground rules are primarily interested in selling drinks. To a certain extent, dancers are just the bait to lure guys like this in to buy those drinks he speaks of. Actually, now that I re-read his post, he doesn't even say if he and his friends buy drinks, so maybe he is useless not only to the dancers.
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