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    I have a very strained relationship already with my mother. She never left our very abusive father because she's very lazy, a mentally weak crybaby, and has literally never taken care of herself one day in her life. In the meantime, she basically put her children up like lambs to slaughter in exchange for rent and an easy life. We were physically, emotionally, and verbally abused our entire lives with them. By the age of 6 they were already beating us with a belt. She wasn't much better than my dad, she would call him at work when she couldn't handle us, screaming about how horrible we were, then he would come home and beat us. She set him on us like a pit bull.

    Back in the day my father was a general manager at a huge car dealership and made $100k +, then the dealership changed hands and they let him go. He went back to selling cars at commission, and because of his alcoholism/drug problems/problems with authority he hasn't advanced since. He's near 50 and still living paycheck to paycheck. They handle their money poorly and live outside their means. My mother had a car accident a few years ago, hurt her back (which has since been fixed TWICE), became hooked on her pain pills, and at 48 she is as helpless and needy as an 80 year old woman. She hasn't worked in years, and refuses to go back to school and get some kind of certification to earn a living and contribute to society because she'll lose the small amount of Social Security Disability and her medicare she gets for sitting on her ass.

    Well, this explains in large part why I started stripping and taking care of myself at 18. I wanted no amount of dependency towards my parents. I wanted to be free of my abusers and be my own person. I don't want to turn out like them.

    I borrowed money from them ONCE. I was in a rough patch when I was 20. I had just gotten an apartment by myself, and bought a new car. My mother made one car payment and one car insurance payment ($600) and I paid her back within a few months. In my first year of college, I was still on their cell phone plan, and went over on my minutes, which caused the whole family to be charged overages for what she claims is six months. She literally made me pay $2500 for the entire family's cell phone plan, not just the difference for overages - but never let me see the actual bills. This was when they were losing their house because my father's alcoholism reached it's peak (it's remained there since) and he lost job after job and couldn't make money. I just kept giving her money, thinking it would somehow repair my relationship with her. I just wanted to appease her. All the while she acted like she didn't know I was stripping. She did. She just wanted the money and played dumb. Now she knows I make money and she's emotionally blackmailing me. When she "found out" I was stripping, she freaked out and called me a whore and said maybe if she and Dad had beat me more maybe I wouldn't have turned out to be such a slut.

    I have paid her back the $600 TWICE because she has given me such a hard time and I have just acquiesced to her bullying. Now she is saying I still owe her the $600! Not only that, she says I told her to claim me as a dependent so I could get grants for school (we live in different states and they probably make $30K a year! How could I conceivably be dependent on her?!). We're supposed to visit my sister in Denver for my niece's birthday this May. She was bugging me to buy tickets with her so she could connect in my city and we could share a rental car (that I would be paying for). I told her that now is not a good time because I just paid my taxes, so I'd be buying my tickets in a few weeks. This was via email. She just emailed me saying...

    " Hi! I am going to have refile my taxes because I put you on our taxes so you could get a Pell Grant this fall. You told me earlier this year that this was the last year for you to be on our taxes. Now maybe I misunderstood you. So I am going file an amendment to my taxes and tell the IRS that I did my taxes thru turbo tax and just transfered my information from last year. I will tell them (IRS) that I just noticed that you had not been removed when I went to make a copy of my taxes. I will have to pay the IRS back $324. I am selling some of my stuff on e-bay to get the money together. I hope I will have this done by the 15th of April."

    This Pell Grant stuff is bullshit. She claimed me as a dependent to get a bigger refund that she is not entitled to. I let her in years past so I could get away with not paying taxes (my bad, I know, but I'm 25 now, in a different state, and beyond the legal age of dependency as far as school goes) and the money she would get would shut her up. She spent the money and expects me to pay her back. I told her multiple times I was claiming taxes for myself this year.

    I'm so frustrated. My mother is gouging me! My horrible mother who let our father abuse us in exchange for an easy life expects us to take care of her! My diabetic father who eats and drinks in a way that would kill a normal person is going to saddle us with her when he dies young (which he will). They have no savings, a paltry life insurance policy, and she has no livelihood. When this happens, unless we take her on as a responsibility, she'll be living in a trailer eating cat food.

    This is horrible! The trip to Denver is going to be awful! She's going to make it look like I haven't paid her back that $600 to the rest of my family, and I told her to claim me as a dependent - so it's all my fault she has to sell her precious belongings on ebay! How about this? Get a job and take care of yourself! UGH! I'm so mad I'm crying.

    Do any of you have a situation like this in your life and can you help me straighten up my fucked up mother without cutting off all ties with her? I don't want the stress of disowning my family, I would rather be fake and pleasant with them for holidays and such. I just sent her a stern and civilized email telling her to stop asking me for money, that the IRS problem is her own, and causing problems between me and the rest of the family.

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    First of all (((HUGS))) Second I'm sorry honey but you have to cut her off, it is too much to handle and she needs to get her stuff together and let you live!


    My mother every once in a while will ask for $ but she really has none and is disabled and at times I have to say no because I have myself and my family and unfortunately I can't give what I don't have.

    You need to care for you.

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    Default Re: My mother gouges me for money.

    that's really rough and I'm sorry you got dealt such shitty parents.

    why are you still in contact with her?

    don't you think by cutting your parents out of your life you'll be much happier, as well as relatively stress and guilt free?

    what are you still trying to get out of this relationship?

    emotionally I understand what you want, but your logical side needs to have quite a talk with your inner emo. this is NOT okay.

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    I think I still talk to her because there is still a gaping hole in my heart where loving parents should be. I have cut off my father all together and have not spoken to him in over a year, and even that hurts. He is hopelessly abusive and will never learn from his mistakes. He'll hurt you when he's drunk, say sorry the next day, and do it again (or something worse) soon after.

    I would watch movies with orphans as a child and I could relate to the loving family coming and saying them from the orphanage. My childhood was basically Matilda with no Miss Honey.

    It still hurts so badly. I think I don't cut off my mother because she is so pathetic.

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    ^ can you fill that hole by either becoming a big sister and being everything to that little sister your mom wasn't to you? Or joining an activity that puts you around older women that can mentor you or just give you some much needed maternal attention.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ViolaStrings View Post
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    This Pell Grant stuff is bullshit. She claimed me as a dependent to get a bigger refund that she is not entitled to. I let her in years past so I could get away with not paying taxes (my bad, I know, but I'm 25 now, in a different state, and beyond the legal age of dependency as far as school goes) and the money she would get would shut her up. She spent the money and expects me to pay her back. I told her multiple times I was claiming taxes for myself this year.

    I'm so frustrated. My mother is gouging me! My horrible mother who let our father abuse us in exchange for an easy life expects us to take care of her! My diabetic father who eats and drinks in a way that would kill a normal person is going to saddle us with her when he dies young (which he will). They have no savings, a paltry life insurance policy, and she has no livelihood. When this happens, unless we take her on as a responsibility, she'll be living in a trailer eating cat food.

    This is horrible! The trip to Denver is going to be awful! She's going to make it look like I haven't paid her back that $600 to the rest of my family, and I told her to claim me as a dependent - so it's all my fault she has to sell her precious belongings on ebay! How about this? Get a job and take care of yourself! UGH! I'm so mad I'm crying.

    Do any of you have a situation like this in your life and can you help me straighten up my fucked up mother without cutting off all ties with her? I don't want the stress of disowning my family, I would rather be fake and pleasant with them for holidays and such. I just sent her a stern and civilized email telling her to stop asking me for money, that the IRS problem is her own, and causing problems between me and the rest of the family.
    When your mother asks you to do something you don't want to do, you are allowed to just say no, like you did in your email. Sometimes it's difficult, but if it means having a fucked up mom and a fucked up you, better to just have a fucked up mom.

    And consider this: When you imagine these scary scenarios about the future; how she's going to embarass you in front of the family, or your father is going to die young and cause you to be fettered with a dependent mother etc; all you do is make yourself suffer needlessly. You talk about all the ways your parents have made you suffer, and what do you do? You live out these scary nightmares over and over in your head, each time feeling the anxiety, and the pain, and the fear. If something shitty is going to happen, better it only happens once, than a thousand times in your head.

    If you don't want them to cause you to suffer, why not start by being the example? Stop causing yourself to suffer. They can't hurt you. Only you can, and your doing a good job of it right now. It's too bad we can't choose our parents, because some people really suck at being parents. However, we can choose how we will let that effect our day to day lives in our thoughts after we have long ago left the nest.

    Please don't think I don't sympathise with you...I do. I've lived it myself, and learned. The secret is: it's not the parents who have to be fixed. It's your thoughts and beliefs.

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    I'm so sorry to hear about the problems you are having with your Mother. Parents are supposed to be role models to us and care and love us. They are not supposed to make us feel guilty and try to exploit us. I wish I had some advice that would make your pain go away but I don't. It sounds like to me that your Mom is being really selfish. I guess it's a decision between giving her money so she doesn't hurt you or tell her exactly how you feel and let her know you don't want anything to do with her if she is going to constantly have her hand out. This really sucks. No one should have to make decisions like this. Just be strong and remember that your better than all of this!

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    Maybe suggest the WAHM board to her? I know she may not listen but it's http://www.wahm.com there are SEVERAL jobs she can do from home never have to leave and get some income. Some phone some not.

    I'm sorry the situation is so brutal. You are 25 and managing your money which is good. Maybe offer to help them manage money? Not to give them, but to help. I know many people are saying to completely cut off. I agree with that idea too. We don't have a choice in whom our family is, but we can choose our interactions with them.

    Come at it from the angle that you really want to help her out ad make her and your dad comfortable. Your dad being diabetic will be sick and it sounds like there will be some horrendous health problems along the way too. It isn't a silent or quick death. It's years of rotting from the inside out. Your mother needs some sort of life skills.

    I know people will often say it's not your problem, but I know that sometimes with family it just feels like it is no matter what.

    The beating comment was terrible by the way, and I am sorry that was said to you. Know that you are NOT a slut or a whore.

    Okay I don't know if this was helpful, but take care and good luck.

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    Gouge the bitch back!

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    Quote Originally Posted by CorinneKell View Post
    The beating comment was terrible by the way, and I am sorry that was said to you. Know that you are NOT a slut or a whore.
    It's not the worst thing my mother or father have said to me, and it started at a very young age. Stuff like that is just acceptable to them. They never even apologize or remember when they say stuff like that - or when they beat on us. It's like they've conveniently forgotten what they've done to us, and we're the bad guys (my siblings and I) because we were such rotten, unmanageable kids.

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    ^hugs. VS gets cuddles.

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    I'm sorry This is not okay. I guess and I hate to say it, just look at is as happy you turned out so well.... and not like your mom....she's probably a very nice person on the inside but well....doesn't act like one. And you're very sweet & successful. So.... look on her with compassion I suppose.
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    Sorry for your situation. Never been in a similar situation, but I would hate to give money/help someone like that. Is it possible to help out your siblings or other family members instead? If push came to shove are you sure she couldn't take care of herself?

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    I have noticed it is sometimes easier to identify fathers as abusers and treat them with the contempt they deserve. Even when mums have let the abuse happen, or participated, it just seems harder to wrap your head around the fact that your mother is abusive too. I am so sorry you grew up with that shit, and that she has the audacity to continue it now...

    I think you need to try and not give a shit what she tells the other members of your family, if any one has the guts to mention anything to your face, you can tell them the truth, if not then you are just torturing yourself wondering what she might be saying.

    Have you ever considered talking to a counselor? that might ease some of the guilt and give you some skills to create the distance you need from her. I cant believe anyone could treat their kids that way.
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    I have dealt with similar shit and here is what I did. Basically tell them to FUCK OFF and never speak to them again. No more contact, at all. I've moved and changed numbers and not given them my info, AND instructed my grandparents not to give out my info.

    The fact that these people spawned you genetically does not in any way give them any sort of right to continue a relationship with you when they treat you like that. I cut off contact with my parents years ago and I have been SO much happier since. They caused me more heartache, anguish and stress than anything else and cutting them out of my life was absolutely the best thing I've ever done.

    I realize it seems harsh. But the simple fact is, we do not have any reason or obligation to allow ANYone to continue treating us like shit. Seriously, it's more stressful to keep people like this in your life than to kick their asses to the curb. What have they EVER done to deserve you or your time, effort or emotions? I tried the "be fake and pleasant" route for several years and that was more hassle than it was worth.

    My parents haven't even known how to contact me for years. I sometimes feel somewhat sad that the only real family I have left are my (old) grandparents, but I would prefer to only have people in my life who are good to me, even if it means having fewer people around overall. At least I know I can count on them and that they truly love and care about me. Who needs assholes who mistreat you?? I do not miss my "parents" at all.

    I have good friends that I know will be there for me always, and that means so much more to me than keeping up with "family" who abuse me. Fuck that. Better to take out the trash to make room for the good stuff.

    My adult life has been quite happy, especially after I got rid of the garbage. That was incredibly liberating. I would not trade my life over the last 12 years or so for anything.
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    I cut my mother off the day she asked me to borrow $10 to feed my brother cause she was broke. I was also broke, but gave her my last $10.
    Later that night..I saw her walking out of a bar.
    I had to write a bad check I knew would bounce so I could feed my still hungry brother.

    Our situations are very similiar, but I dont feel like going into more detail except to say that the gaping hole never goes away, but it actually starts to feel a lot better after you cut it off and stop the constant heartache. My mother caused me so much stress and heartache when I lived near her and spoke with her...and it hurt for ahwile to stop talking to her, but then it felt better. Much better.

    I'm sorry you got dealt shitty parents too. It isnt fair.

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    I have to agree with Bridgette and Kaylinn. Time to cut them out once and for all.

    As shitty as their behavior is, if you continue to let it happen, it's happening because you're allowing it to happen. Just like a woman who continues to return to an abusive man. It may seem more complex because they are your blood, but it's essentially the same thing. Do not allow them to keep doing this to you! You deserve so much more.

    Do you/would you have support from your siblings in severing ties with them? I don't mean that they need to do the same thing as you, but would you be able to continue to have a relationship with them, and would they understand your choice? This way you don't have to feel so isolated from all family if you sever ties with your parents only.

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    Cut off all ties and communication with this woman.

    Make sure your taxes are all in order and on the up-and-up. Her claiming you as a dependant may trip the IRS into looking into both taxes.

    You said she's probably going to make it look like you still owe her $600. Did you pay her by check or cash? Always pay by cash. If you paid by cash, you probably have a bank statement showing the amount of withdrawl (unless you took it out of your cash earnings and never deposited the money).

    Then, take a deep breath and as loud as you can say, "FUCK OFF" and walk away.

    There is nothing you can do to change your parents' behavior at this point in time. Just let it go. Feel sorry for them that they choose to continue making such non-working decisions, but just because they are your parents does not make you responsible for them...nor does it make it ok for them to keep hounding you.

    It may be hard the first couple of months...but you'll be so much happier not worrying about any of this stuff.

    Good luck.

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    I have dealt with similar shit and here is what I did. Basically tell them to FUCK OFF and never speak to them again.
    Cut off all ties and communication with this woman.
    Have to agree with B and VG here. Just because someone is family doesn't mean that relationship is healthy, positive or worthwhile. You have to know when to cut your losses.

    Under not radically different circumstances, I've been estranged from one side of my family for over 20 years and it was absolutely for the best. It was a decision I made when I was 14, and I never looked back. These people know nothing about me, though I now work literally down the road from where many of them live and work.

    Basically, you have it within your power to remove this pathology from your life. When you decide you're worth more than a pile of dogshit, you'll change your situation. Are you worth more than a pile of dogshit?
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    I am so angry!!!

    Viola know we love you!

    I love you, it makes my heart hurt to read how horrid some parents are with their wonderful gift, take advantage of their children when hell they didn't ask to be in this world.

    I am so sorry you had to suffer and still suffer for their fucking stupidity!

    I was passed around as a kid because my mother was an alcoholic and until my aunt and uncle took me in and adopted me I had no stability. My mother gave me up and she took care of herself and now as an adult we live close to each other and we have a wonderful relationship and I wish this could happen to you.

    It hurts to want to be loved by your parent and they just are too wrapped up in their own fucking selfishness to see what is really important and see all the fucking pain and damage they cause so my heart goes out to you and I say it again you care for you you and I am here for you.

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    This sounds like such a shitty situation. I know how had it is to have had a shitty parent, and still love them. (My dad)

    But I think B's advice to cutting ties is the best thing to do. Nothing you do will change the way they are towards you, so if you just cut them from yor life you may save yourself years of anxiety and headaches.

    Good luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ViolaStrings View Post
    I think I still talk to her because there is still a gaping hole in my heart where loving parents should be.
    I feel ya there.

    All I can tell you is to learn the power of No. VG/CO/RW are all absolutely right. But if you choose to stay in the situations for reasons we can't conceive (share a very small town, close with siblings and such) gain your respect through the power of "NO".

    You keep proving that you're a dead end in these areas, and she'll eventually find another target to put her nails in. Good luck. I'm right there with you.

    Just....don't let your perception of how things could be, or how she's treating your for a short time cloud your vision of past acts. Always use them to predict the future, until she's treated you well for so long, your using THOSE past acts to predict future ones.
    People are not ruled by their memories.

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    After this email exchange from last night, yes, it is time to cut off ties with this woman. She is basically threatening to take me to court and to have my father (who has been arrested for domestic violence) handle the situation. She's calling my very supportive and understanding boyfriend my pimp.

    I wrote to her...

    Mom,

    I'm 100% sure I told you specifically multiple times that I was filing for taxes as an independent for the year of 2007. I never told you to claim me as an independent. Why would you need to sell your stuff on ebay if you haven't already spent the money you got back? You were not entitled to a refund for me as an independent. I don't buy this line of crap about a Pell Grant, you know as well as I do that I would have a better chance of getting one by filing by myself. You only filed me as a dependent to get a bigger refund, and now you have to give the money that you did not deserve back. Not my problem. I am not your cash cow.

    Your issues with money and me are causing me a offense and putting strain on my relationship with you. Stop talking about money to and saying I owe you. I've paid you back everything I ever owed you long ago and have taken care of myself financially for years. There should be no discussion of money between you and I. This IRS business is your mistake.

    You have now confirmed that you and (my sister) do in fact talk about me behind my back. I don't appreciate it, and I will no longer confide in either of you. This is very hurtful and isolating. You both obviously can't be trusted.

    I love you, but you are being unreasonable and hurting our relationship.

    If you are having problems with money, why don't you work at home? There are plenty of ways, and you can work as much or as little as you'd like, depending on how you feel. You need your own livelihood.

    Please take a minute to check out this message board about working at home.



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    And she wrote back...

    I do not remember us having multple conversations about the taxes. We never talk to one another for you to have said this to me multiple times. Since you are pulling the bitch card I am going to ask you to pay me back the $600 that you owe me. You only paid me back $400. I don't make money like you do either. You had no problems taking the money from me and I told you at the time I did not have the money to spare. But you and your selfish little attitude did not care about me or anyone else. You where seeing (my old sugar daddy) at the time you took the money from me. You promised to pay me back. I live on a fixed income I should not have to explain anything to you.

    I really feel sorry for you. We don't sit around and talk about you. How much is there to say. I will be expecting that money. I have proof of making the 2 car payments and your car insurance payments. I can take further actions if need be. Yes you do owe me money. I can take you to small claims court and win. I also made a copy of the $400 money order that you sent me. I did this to keep track what you had paid me. It has really bothered me that you took that money from me while you were having (your sugar daddy) pay your way. The reason I am selling things on e-bay because I don't want to pull you Dad in to this mess. If he finds out you owe me money you know what he will do.

    I did you a favor when I paid your car insurance and car payments. You took advantage of me. You had no intention of paying me back. You really think that you are better than everyone else. I am going to distance myself from you for awhile. I cannot deal with you bad attitude.
    I will be looking for the $600. You don't know how many times I could have used that money. But I tried to help you out. You were going to lose your car insurance if I had not made that payment. Why have you gotten so hateful.


    You remind me so much of (your grandfather). Right before he died he had so many regrets. Your Grandfather wished he had done so many things differently. You may think that life is good right now. But you can only take your clothes off for so long. I hope you wake up and see what is really important in life before it is too late.

    I hope for your sake that this guy you are living with is not taking advantage of you. I am sure he likes all the money you bring home. Most guys could not stand having their girlfriends take off their clothes for a bunch of men.

    I know you don't care about anyone but yourself. That is very apparent. I wanted so much for you when you were little. But you like get your ego stroked all the time so stripping is a high for you. I am so hurt and disappointed by you. I wasn't being greedy about the taxes. I thought I was truly helping you out. I have your current address too. You can tell your pimp that I will be looking for the money.


    and

    You have the nerve to tell me to work at home when you owe me money. Not that it is any of your business I cannot work. All the doctors I have been to told me just to try and enjoy the rest of my life. You have no idea what I have been thru. I have tried everything possible to improve my health status. I hate being home but I try to make the best of it. But at time like this don't help me out at all.

    I cannot work or I will lose my Social Security and Medicare benefits. I cannot get insurance on my own because of my spinal cord injury. Working at home is great for a mother with kids. I sell a few things here and there on e-bay.

    I don't know where you got the idea that you pay me back. Like I said in my other note I have prove on my bank statement that I paid you car payments and car insurance. You only paid me back $400. I should have had the same attiude you do about money. If it would have been the reverse you would have not helped me out.

    It really hurt me when I saw you spending money buying purses, clothes, nails, paying for (your best friend) this and that. I have gone without things to help you out. I would never say you owned me money if you did not. The money you spend on one purse could pay me back.
    Last edited by ViolaStrings; 03-30-2008 at 11:48 AM.

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    Default Re: My mother gouges me for money.

    ^ no, because I paid her in cash. I thought that would be enough for her. I never thought my mother would try to bring me to court

    I think she just hates me and is desperate for money.

    If she tries to bring me to court, fine. I don't have any proof I paid her back, but I DID, and by doing this she knows she will destroy what little relationship we have left. Even if I were to lose, it would be a victory to me. The court wants me to pay you $600? Fine. Here you go. Don't ever talk to me again.

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    Default Re: My mother gouges me for money.

    also, you left your name in the middle of that post, you might want to edit it.

    sorry she's so toxic.

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