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    I'm new to this site, and new to strip clubs in general. I have spent several hours reading over the site looking for a similar post that would help my situation, but have yet to find one. (If there is one, I do apologize.)

    I am a 22/f, "soft butch" lesbian (NOT the big scary trucker women; I just have short hair, a strong jawline, and a muscular/athletic body). Recently, I won a VIP Party (Scheduled for Arpil 12th) at an upscale Gentleman's Club in Dallas,TX and had some questions about what is appropriate behavior.
    The last time I was at the club (my first time) I was with a large group of veteran club-goers. Although I had recently dated a dancer, I had never had a lap dance or had really spent much time in a club before, so the whole experience was a bit overwhelming. I personally pride myself with being VERY respectful of everyone, especially women; and although you do not have to believe me I would never intentionally cross any lines. Jaw-dropped and mildly inebriated during my last visit, I did my best to look every lady in the eyes and had absolutely no trouble keeping my hands to myself. I'm not there to make anyone uncomfortable, just have a good time with my friends. As most other customers, I (rather easily) picked out my favorite dancer and was forced (okay, it was more of a nudge) by my friends to go tip her, ALOT. (I am VERY, VERY shy.) Eventually they bought me a dance, mostly for their own amusement; afterwards she asked if I would like her to come back and I said yes. She came back and danced for me again, only this time she removed my hands that were firmly clamped to the arms of the chair and placed them on her body, and eventaully kissed me a few times. In our conversation she made it relatively clear she was also at least "bi" (but I'm pretty sure she was a lesbian) and like any good dancer asked me to come back and see her again sometime, I tipped accordingly a the end of the evening.

    Being a student, I don't make alot of money, but I have saved the last month in order to bring $200 of my own money to spend, and the friends I am bringing will have roughly the same amount of cash. Is this a fair amount of cash to bring to a nice club with the intentions of staying most of the evening and having a really great time? And, is what happened with the dancer on my last visit a regular occurrence, or something special? My physical appearance, although well-dressed and professional, does give a pretty good indication to my sexual orientation; is that a negative for most dancers? If so, is there any way I can present myself in a less offensive/threatening manner? (Like I said, I try to be respectful and I don't want the ladies who work there to be uncomfortable with my presence.)

    In advance, I thank you all for your advice.
    Sincerely,

    NTraining

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    Default Re: Advice: Manners as a female customer.

    Aww, I think you'll be fine.

    Two hundred dollars can go pretty fast, but I'm sure you and your friends can pace yourselves. Just don't take up a big chunk of someone's time without tipping.

    What happened last time is probably normal or just a little special for Dallas (stripper mileage is totally regional, someone from Dallas could tell you better). It sounds like you behaved perfectly tho, and if you do so again I'm sure you'll get good dances.

    Most dancers don't mind dancing for lesbians. Hell, some of us are lesbians. You don't need to change your presentation. Wait to see who approaches you, though, and that way you won't get someone who's a little uncomfortable dancing for women but doing it anyways.

    Oh, and you don't have to look at our eyes. We're getting naked for a reason, yanno.
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    I agree. I dance for a lot of females and couples and they're all pretty well behaved. we do get occasional women in short skirts without undies but that's probably the worst I've personally experienced.

    $200 can go pretty quick, but like Lena said you can pace yourselves.

    I'm curious about this VIP party you won-- what does that entail? because the club might be including/covering a few dances or give you club dollars to spend and that could help stretch your budget.

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    I agree..you dont have to change your appearance at all. It sounds like you are fun and respectful and that matter WAY more then what shirt you are wearing.

    $200 can go fast as has been mentioned..its enough to have a nice evening if you pace yourself..but a "really great time"..aka..spending a lot of time with your favorite girl and such,will inevitably cost more. We usually cant spend too much time with anyone without getting paid,since thats what we are there for...but its certainly enough to get a few drinks and a dance from time to time. Just make sure to pace yourself.

    And as for if her behavior was normal..that depends. On the area the club and the girl. I've taken customers hands and guided them down my body when they seemed too shy,but willing,so they would have a better time and ultimately I would make more money. I've also pinned customers hands to their side when they did something I did not like.
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    Sounds great to me. I'd be thrilled to make $200 off a nice lady customer. But don't be sure she's a lesbian, she might be playing with your head in that regard.

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    ^^YEP. Even though many times women are worse then guys! Some think that because we share anatomical parts I'll allow them to do things the guys arent allowed to do. But a nice respectful female custie..hell,I'd love that!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by cameron_keys View Post
    ^^YEP. Even though many times women are worse then guys! Some think that because we share anatomical parts I'll allow them to do things the guys arent allowed to do. But a nice respectful female custie..hell,I'd love that!!
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    You may want to join a convent.
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