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    Is it possible to have a happy marriage but bad sex or no sex at all??
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    Well, you can always teach an old dog new tricks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Optimist View Post
    Is it possible to have a happy marriage but bad sex or no sex at all??
    I guess it depends on how much sex is important to your marriage to each other. If its not a big deal to either of you then I don't think its much to worry about.
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    I think as long as you have a healthy intimacy life, it could work, but I think having a enjoyable marrital sex life is a definate head start. But to me, the two are connected, so for me, no.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TigersMilk View Post
    I guess it depends on how much sex is important to your marriage to each other. If its not a big deal to either of you then I don't think its much to worry about.
    Very true. If two people have it at the same low priority level, then it's probably not going to be a big issue. But like anything else, if it's a much higher level of importance to one person than it is to the other, then it's likely going to cause conflict. Not unsolve-able. Communication, making extra effort, counseling, agreeing to an open relationship, etc are all good options if it's something that needs to be improved.


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    possible, but not optimal.

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    This is a trick question, right?

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    I think it depends entirely on the people. If sex isnt a big deal to you,or other arrangements are made then yes I think its possible.
    If something happened to me or hubby where we couldnt have sex again,we'd likely still stay married and in love. Of course...we'd retain the right to get sex elsewhere if we needed to. But at the core...we'd still be married and still each others #1.

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    Only if sex is a low priority to both people...otherwise you're looking for trouble.

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    as long as both people are happy with it then why not? if not they could always see a sex therapist
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    If i'm married to someone, he better give me that dickie on the regular or else.

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    Some marriages survive no contact at all,in the military, for example, that makes the lack of sex thing seem a bit of a minor nuance by comparison.

    I would hope there are other things available to the couple that can make up for the lack of sex, or they probably shouldn't have gotten married in the first place.

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    I guess it would depend entirely on the couple involved...but for me...NOPE.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Vyanka View Post
    If i'm married to someone, he better give me that dickie on the regular or else.

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    I need to have sex. I can't be happy in a sexless (or practically sexless) intimate relationship because... well, you might as well just be friends.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jay Zeno View Post
    This is a trick question, right?
    Nooo! I was curious to know how far most people's romanticism could go before they say put up or shut up.
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    For some, sex is romantic.

    If you have two asexual people but with a need for reliable companionship, it sounds like a match made in .... well, no, I wouldn't call that one "heaven." How about "Mediocre Manor."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sh0t View Post
    Relationships are terrible ways to get sex
    Sh0t, you card, you.

    But as for the OP. Sex--within the confines of a long-term relationship, at least--boils down to communication. In general, couples who stop communicating won't stay together for the long haul.

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    noooo

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    Reese's Peanut Butter Cups are a perfectly adequate substitute for sex most times.

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    Yup I agree with the ones that say it depends on the person. I broke up with my fiance because he didn't have sex with me for a month. Among other things. But sex is not that important to some people.
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    I think at least SOME sex needs to be had bearing in mind special circumstances like the ones posted above...(military, jail, long distance etc)
    I personallly wouldnt MARRY someone that I didnt have a healthy sex life with in the first place, but then again I dont wanna get married period. I wouldnt date someone if the sex was horrible and irepairable, sorry if that sounds superficial but sex is somewhat important in relationships.
    I have certainly dumped a guy before who was lousy in bed and had a VERY small thingie....bleh! NO THANKS!

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    Lol I like small thingies. Hook me up!

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    If sex is not important to you, then it's possible. If sex is an important thing to you, then no matter how much rationalization you go through it will eventually matter. Yeah...it really is that simple.
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    I think the question is more why there is no sex. Is there weirdness? Abuse? Distance? Stress?

    Lack of spark I could not deal with. And I'd rather have no sex than bad sex!

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