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    Things have been going very badly for me lately to the point where my self confidence is so low it is affecting my money. Something in my head keeps telling me no matter what I do (talk to every custy, tell custy they want a dance from me, change outfit through out the nite, ect) it won't matter cuz I still won't make money. Which I recognize as being completely self defeatist, yet I don't know what to do about it.
    What works for you?

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    How long have you been dancing for?

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    a year and a half...off and on...in Vegas

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    You're just burnt out I think. When I've been working a few DAYS in a row I feel like that. And I get to the point where I'm not satisfied with what any of my outfits are doing for me. Buying a shiny new outfit helps me with this, refreshes me lol. Try something new!

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    Is it possible to leave Vegas for a little while and try a new atmosphere? I've heard that Vegas is extremely high hustle..maybe it's just to much for you to grasp.

    If that isn't an option, I too agree with buying a new outfit. Buy a brighter, more bold color trhat you dont already own.







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    Try a different club, or a different schedule than you normally work. Changing up your environment can help you feel fresher, more positive!
    I've done this: I'll go work in a smaller club, or switch to day for a while, whatever.... it makes me feel like the new hot chick, boosts my confidence, and then I can take that back to my home club or usual shift.

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    Whenever I begin feeling ugly or not super attractive, I switch something up. Either new highlights, a new hot outfit that makes you feel like a million bucks, or even makeup done at the MAC counter or fake eyelashes. Something extra that makes you feel sexy will look sexy.

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    When I feel like that I take a few days off in a row. I just enjoy being me and not having the stress of having to look hot and happy every second. I'll go hiking or anything that isn't stripper related.
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    When i get this way a nice workout and taking extra time fo rmy makeup helps me feel better. xo

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    I went to China to teach English! That restored my confidence like anything. Now I'm eager to go home, of course. :-)

    Bit of a drastic solution, but I'll happily recommend it if you're looking to do somethine extreme -- I get treated like a celebrity every time I walk outside the house. And I had a pretty drastic problem; it wasn't just dancing; I'd crashed a business and was so miserable I couldn't land a retail job.
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    i think people like going to parties and clubs and looking like douchebags.

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    Default Re: Lost my Self Confidence?

    when i been refuse too many times a night, i would just go out the club get a a coffee or scream in the change room for a bit. that helps a lot

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    tmlsuperspice, I actually danced in your club last night and while it is a great club and there is lots of money going through, it is high hustle and even after working only 6 hours I felt burnt hustling the groups and couples.

    I find that when I have something happening personally in my life it really reinvigorates my hustle. I think I told every guy last night how it was my first night in that club and how I LOVED it and how I LOVE dancing in Vegas because I get to get so close to the customers ( ) and how I feel so wild and crazy when I'm in Vegas...blah blah blah. And when I get to my home club tomorrow I'm going to do the same thing - "Oh my goodness, I just got back from Vegas and it was so fun, I was so naughty, let me tell you all about it in back blah blah blah..." What I mean, is I always do well when I spice up my own life and then use it. Guys want a little something different and personal from you, to stand out from the other girls etc. That's what I think anyway. so if you could afford to take a break and do something fun, a class or a vacation, something - it may help overall.

    Good luck sweetie!
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    PM me where you work maybe I can help I've worked lots of places...
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