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    Let me explain. I am putting my boyfriend through school, paying his tuition and supporting his living expenses while he gets his Fine Arts degree. In return, he is supposed to be my sexy houseboy for however long it takes him to graduate.

    He does a pretty good job. He's learned to cook and do simple home repairs, and he is a much tidier person that I am, by nature. I do a pretty good job, too. His tuition bills are always paid on time, I buy him whatever supplies he needs, and we live well, for student/artists.

    However, once in a while he just doesn't get around to getting shit done. I work at home. I am here all day. It would be damn easy for me to do just do all the housework myself. But I don't feel like I should. I feel like he and I have a bargain, and he should maintain his end of it.

    Right now I'm pissed off because there's a sink full of dirty dishes and they've been there for two days. I worked at the club last night, and he was here by himself. I don't know the dishes didn't get done, but they didn't. Today he's working his one-day-a-week job at the record store. Since he's working, and I'm at home, maybe I'm the one who should do the dishes. It would take me, like, fifteen minutes. I don't know why I'm being such a cunt about it. I just don't want to do them. I want him to come home from his full day of work and THEN make me dinner and THEN wash the dishes. I know that's totally bitchy, but if he didn't want it that way, he should have done them last night.

    By the way, if you actually read through this, thanks.

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    I hear ya. I get annoyed with stuff that's not done, but more annoyed when it's something I could easily do, because then it's also something that could have been easy for him to do it too!

    I would leave them. But, that's just me and my evilness.
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    I would do the dishes and have a serious talk with him when he gets home. Is he unhappy about something, the agreement or something else in life? I don't know...that happened with E and I but we worked things out. I hope it gets better for you.
    I wouldn't leave them there unless you want to be passive aggresive and when he gets home go looking for a fork, and say something like "I wish I had a clean fork, but all the dishes dirty." I wouldn't do that but if you're feeling vengeful go for it.

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    Default Re: I'm not doing those f%^#$ing dishes

    hey um... just putting this out there...

    -i'm- a fine arts student and i do dishes and am an -excellent- cook.

    just sayin. you might to trade up.



    jk

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    Default Re: I'm not doing those f%^#$ing dishes

    ill do them

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    Quote Originally Posted by princessjefflina View Post
    ill do them
    BACK OFF! *breaks bottle*


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    Default Re: I'm not doing those f%^#$ing dishes

    The thought goes something like this: People should keep their promises...or, bf should live up to his committments. But does he? Do people keep their promises? The reality is that people often don't keep their promises, for many reasons. To believe they should when they don't just makes you feel frustrated and angry. Think of it: the dishes can be there and you are angry, or the dishes can be there and you are chuckling...either way, the dishes are there.

    Can you think of an example where you haven't kept your promise or committment, either to people, to your bf, or even to yourself? Be honest with yourself. Are you breaking any promises you've made to yourself or others? For example, have you promised yourself that you won't allow yourself to be taken advantage of?

    You should keep your promises Grace. It's important to you that people keep their word. You can be the example of how you think things should be. Many people aren't as responsible as you are when it comes to their word. Thinking they should be, when they aren't, is just upsetting for you.

    Do the dishes Grace...and meditate for 15 minutes while you do them.

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    You know what if the two of you made an agreement then I wouldn't do the dishes. I would sit down and talk with him. Let him know how hard you work and you would appreciate him fulfilling his end of the bargain. It sounds like he is being lazy to me and possibly slacking to see if you will start doing some of his chores. It starts with the dishes and then your cooking diner and he's sitting on the couch with his feet up!

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    Quote Originally Posted by xoxoGracexoxo View Post
    Let me explain. I am putting my boyfriend through school, paying his tuition and supporting his living expenses while he gets his Fine Arts degree.
    Can I be your boyfriend?

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    ^^I second that!

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    Default Re: I'm not doing those f%^#$ing dishes

    wha?!
    i jus wana do da dishes

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    i have dibs bitches! DIBS!

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    awwww
    SO I need to know what the dish status is.

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    Default Re: I'm not doing those f%^#$ing dishes

    I bet they're done now. And I bet.............

    she did them.

    Any more bets?

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    Quote Originally Posted by xoxoGracexoxo View Post
    I want him to come home from his full day of work and THEN make me dinner and THEN wash the dishes.

    By the way, if you actually read through this, thanks.
    lol, i did read the whole thing, i vote spaz and make him do them. did it occur to anyone if "him" was her and a guy posted this he'd already have been hunted down and castrated?
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    Yeah, I only make the "bored" expression when I'm facing away from the guy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bounce86 View Post
    did it occur to anyone if "him" was her and a guy posted this he'd already have been hunted down and castrated?
    Not if dude was paying her tuition and rent working at Chippendales and she was working 1 day per week.

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    ill be your boyfriend! i bet i can cook better than him, clean better, and ill bet im prettier
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    Default Re: I'm not doing those f%^#$ing dishes

    I want to fly down there, do your dishes, make you a cup of maple tea, rub your neck and shoulders, and tell you everything is going to be alright.

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    maple tea... so canada lol
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    Unless you just talk to him, chances are he will continue to ignore the dishes and it will continue to piss you off. You're just turning it into a game by not doing them. Either make him do them already, or do them yourself and have a serious talk with him.

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    Default Re: I'm not doing those f%^#$ing dishes

    I just read this so I really want to know what the status quo is.

    Don't do them. If you do them this once, it will happen again.
    Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.

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    just be honest
    say you literally pretty much expect* him to hold down da dishes
    and its not unreasonable by any means

    he shouldcount his blessings! and do da damn dishes!
    before i have to

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    How about you ask him to do the dishes? That would save a lot of anger that is building up as you stare at the dirty dishes.
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    You're giving this guy all his money AND sex, they very least he could be doing for you is the damn dishes. He'd be nowhere without you, tell him to make his lazy ass useful for once.

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    I would just do the dishes. Like yes, he's meant to be your sexy houseboy, but sometimes even sexy houseboys get busy at school or have a headache and neglect things. If you feel it is generally a problem, then you might need to have a talk with him about how you don't feel there is a equal division of labour. If it is just an occasional thing, I wouldn't make an issue.
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