To start off...I have never been cheated on (as far as I know) and I have never cheated on anyone. So I really have no experience with this beyond my own intuition. I have always felt like cheaters are evil selfish people who care only for themselves and never change, and I've never gone for another girl's boyfriend because I think it is extremely ugly behavior.
But now things are happening in my life that are making me wonder and HOPE I was wrong before.
I was dating a guy for a few months when I found out he had a LIVE-IN girlfriend, information that he kept from me. I felt really really bad, took her side, told her everything (she was grateful for my honesty). I was disgusted with his behavior and cut him off immediately.
Recently we got back in touch, and against my better judgement, we resumed dating. He swears things are over with his girlfriend. At first I didn't believe him but he's been spending every night with me and she never calls or texts so I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt. The first time we got together we had a BIG talk about what happened. He justified lying to me by saying that he really liked me when we met, he already knew things were going downhill with the other girl, and he wanted me in his life so he felt he had to lie or else I would have blown him off (true). He doesn't seem remorseful at all about cheating on his ex with me because she cheated on him. He is also not at all angry that I took her side and told her everything because he says I did the right thing, and anyway he's happy we are together now because he wants to be with me and he does not want to be with her.
Honestly our time together recently has been absolutely amazing. He is being consistent, loving, considerate, attentive, affectionate...ahh we just lay there and stare into each others' eyes, totally falling for each other. I really don't trust him but other than that things are perfect and I feel like we could even fall in love. For the record I rarely fall in love, I mean I date a lot but I only fall for someone every few years. For me to find someone who I feel so connected to is rare, something to fight for.
So I was wondering what experience you guys have, not so much horror stories about being cheated on but any constructive advice about whether cheaters can change, like are the odds unbeatable that he will cheat on me since he cheated on his last girlfriend with me?



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