



Right there with yaHad no idea anyone else was even leaving
This sort of exodus has happened several times on every forum I've ever been on though. I AM miffed that several articles and the club reviews don't work... but that's about it.
Sorry Bridgette that you're feeling jiltedcan't really say I know what it's all about




pretty_penny, I also don't hate anyone. :-)
Bridgette, I won't try to convince you not to go; I'll say I really do appreciate your contributions, but I understand with your relationship with the site it's less like walking out of a clubhouse and more like cutting off from an ex-lover, with many historical highs and lows. We shall miss you, though.





Where will I sit now that the couch has left?
Look like a woman
Think like a man
Act like a lady
Work like a dog
- My Great Grandmother Bessie's Recipe for Success
good luck and best wishes!!
I"m sad to see you go, but I understand. Best of luck IRL.
Bridgette, I will be very sad to see you go. I always love reading your blunt insightful responses, and agree with you about not liking the direction the site has been going. For a couple of years now, things have been gradually sliding downhill imo.
Venus, ita. As long as retired dancers are welcome, that is.![]()
Now it is like being exposed to the mindless giggly flirting and backstabbing of the club constantly. NOT FUN!
I've also felt for a while, that some of our drama causing members may not be of age. I know there is no way to prove one way or the other, but I constantly find myself thinking that I would have had the same reaction to many things when I was 14 or 15. Not sure if this thought has occured to anyone else.![]()
To everyone else: I want to apologize. I feel like I at least partially triggered this newest bout of drama by mentioning my concerns with the site in the "Everyone is leaving" thread.
I just really want everyone to stay and help reclaim the site we all used to love so much.





Bridgette you will definately be missed. I always appreciated your advise in HH - this is what this site is supposed to be about, support for dancers. Sure I enjoy the lounge too but this is more important.
It's a real shame for SW that you are leaving. Best of luck.
There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.
Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.





The person(s) who mentioned this seemed like something that was a long time coming: Yes. It was. I've been less and less happy here for quite a while, and been stifling MANY issues for way too long. I don't personally do well with stifling shit - I need to get it out, and when I'm told I can't, or that I have to take it elsewhere, or am just plain bitchslapped for expressing it, I feel bad. This bad feeling has been growing for a long time and I can't hold it any longer.
I have waited a VERY long time in hopes that things would improve with the community and they haven't, in fact they've only gotten worse. I can no longer wait around on changes that are "coming". Changes have been "coming" for entirely too long. YEARS.
I have wanted for a long time to buy the site myself, or at least buy enough share to be able to step up and do something about the problems, but that was never even considered as a possibility. I admit that offended me because of the personal investment I have made with this community - the time, the input, the spreading of info, the simple wiling away of hours on end. There are SO many other things I could've spent that time on over the last 6 years, and I chose to spend it here. Of course that was all my choice and I own it, but god damn if I don't feel that should be worth something. I mean, the site's owner hasn't even spent 6 years here - he spent a good 3 maybe, before largely disappearing.
TOO, your words feel empty and false to me. You have spent entirely too much time in the last year or two beating your chest and posting shit that could and would manipulate people here for me to take anything you say seriously. Unless of course it's that you're going to send me some extravagant and frivolous "gift" for which I should feel forever and ever indebted to you. Why do you think I wouldn't accept your offer to help me out when my car broke down on the way to Vegas for the stripperfest last September? It wasn't because I couldn't have used the help - it was because I felt the price was too high. Anyway, bottom line is, I feel that you are only saying those things in this thread to maintain the rep you have so carefully and expensively built here - not because you give a shit about me or what I think.
I wouldn't expect that everyone would be able to relate to the issues I'm bringing up here. This site is way too big for everyone to have seen all the things that go on, all the nuances in interactions, all the history. And most people simply don't spend as much time here as I (and some others) do (did).
At any rate, I feel my presence here will no longer be productive and it is time to move on. There are other things in the works which will keep me entertained online, and I know how to keep in touch with the several of you I've gotten to know outside of here. For those of you I didn't get to know so well, there are WAY TOO MANY TO COUNT whose input and personalities I enjoyed, and will miss.
I am glad I got to know so many cool people and make the friends I have via this website.
This is my last post, #14,519. Kinda feels like breaking up from a very long and serious relationshipBye!
This is truly saddening- we'll miss your posting bridgette.
Whoa! What?
Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!
The drama of late seems to come from dancers. What you propose would have little effect on the current situation.
Anyway, doesn't matter to me. I've restricted my activities mainly to the Lounge and SCJ recently, and my lounge visits have been fewer and fewer. I only come back to keep up with my favorite posters, some of whom are leaving or have left.
It's an INTERNET forum folks. The beauty of that is that people can come here anonymously and have freedom to say what they want. The problem is that people can come here anonymously and have the freedom to say what they want. (As long as it doesn't push the moderator's hot button!)
With freedom comes responsibility.





Or maybe they don't feel like they have to stick to PM's and emails. See, since you are an outsider, you don't understand. Back in the day, if a poster didn't log on at least every other day the board worried about them till they did post again. So to say they publically need a break, is no biggies for me.
The internet mimics real life. some of these girls are quiet till they feel they have been through their probation, then their true colors show.
IMO there would be less drama if baby posters and baby strippers gave respect where it is due. But respect, like chivalry is lost in 2008.
Not true at all. I know quite a few people here PERSONALLY. Like met and talked to IRL.
Not everyone does that, sorry that you work in a club that allows that bullshit.
I think if TOO wants to make girls here happy, that is HIS business, and no one else's but the gift receiver. Just like a regular at the club, TOO can gift whomever he wishes, and there really isn't much that can be done about it. It's his nature; I fail to see (besides jealousy) what the problem is. Oh and FYI, no; I haven't ever received anything from him, nor do I expect to.
And sometimes people take it to heart, or whatever.
Whatever. A varying opinion does not equate to no class or manners.
I could be wrong. It's just my opinion from what I've seen. The problem here is that it's hard to understand what the flashpoints were if you are not on here all the time. Threads get locked and deleted, and it's easier to find the reactions than the origin.
That is the way to disagree with someone. Thanks RoseLeigh.
^^ i totally agree with your way to disagree.
Bridgette- I don't want you to leave!!![]()
From Kitana:
IMO there would be less drama if baby posters and baby strippers gave respect where it is due. But respect, like chivalry is lost in 2008.
I have to agree. I started posting a year ago. I STILL have mad respect for the ladies on this board and never have thought I was better than a single person (either above me or below me in post count)
I see a lot of new people on here, which is positive in it's own way, talk down to other girls, make threats or snide remarks.
This probably doesn't help, I don't know I just wish something could be done.





you will be greatly missed, Bridgette. From a personal standpoint, I'm saddened whenever someone with your 'tenure' at SW and your experience as a dancer withdraws from participation. However, I do understand that you gotta do what you gotta do. I'm sure that our paths will continue to cross somewhere or another !
It's not even about post count, cause I remember a few posters from back in the day that were acting shitty quite a bit too, but you can tell who has and who hasn't danced for a long time cause of their opinions on certain things. Take for example at my club the other night, all the girls were throwing a fit wanting to start a stripper union at our club. They asked me and 2 other "old school" girls, we were all against it, but all the newer girls were for it. You could tell who had danced longer and who hadn't, lol.





I'm trying! I love disagreeing with people, honestly, but I don't like the current fashion of it!
There ARE a lot of jealousy/girl issues/whatever, but a lot has to do with the population, at least from what I can see. There is a difference from when I used to post here (2005 for a little bit) and now.





K sorry I have to say this one last thing. That's all fine and good. Except that TOO goes out of his way to make it everyone else's business here. Which makes it painfully obvious he doesn't send his so-called gifts just to make girls happy, but that he does it to manipulate people, to make himself look cool, to attract a following of girls who will kiss his ass in hopes of receiving similar "gifts".
I put gifts in quotes here because his "gifts" clearly come with a price. True gifts don't come with ANY strings attached, spoken or unspoken.
TOO is a fraud.
I just have one request:
Please mods don't delete Bridgette's posts! She has given invaluable knowledge of wealth to the site that I know myself and probably many other strippers have used. I can not imagine how much more money we have been able to earn thanks to Bridg's posts.
And as far as the baby poster vs veteran poster threads go, I highly doubt that Bridgette or Katrine's departure had much to do with new posters considering that she mentioned issues that she has had for years here. This should be a place where we can all exchange information and learn new "tricks of the trade", things that I have learned lots from both Bridg and Katrine. Bridge has probably single handedly added more usefull information to the site and about the trade more so than any other poster. Lately the site has turned into ego stroking and moral masturbation. Putting it into a Baby poster vs Veteran poster turns it into an "us vs. them" cliquey non-sense.





I'm going to try and respond to this in the nicest way possible, although I have to say the clinical detachment in your writing is a bit off-putting.
We're people. People have feelings. Regardless whether it's on the internet or in real life, words hurt. Many of us spend a lot of time on this site and it's not because we're socially retarded or can't utter a sentence to a stranger.
We're strippers. The vast majority of our time is spent entertaining and constantly being "on" socially, therefore our solitude and "downtime" can be precious to us.
To imply that we're in any way mentally or emotionally unstable because we spend time here and care what people think is a little bit out there imo.





Oh man. I'm really sorry to see you go, Bridgette. I was sorry to see the back of Katrine and Cameron and all the other amazing women that made this forum what it was. I fully agree with the OP here, and if all the established successful dancers continue to leave while this place fills up with ignorant trash, sleazy customers, and trolls, I don't know how much longer I'll be here either. I'm so upset at what's become of this site and I hope we can all pull together and fix it.
I like VG's idea of restoring SW for the strippers. Going membership-only would be a great step in the right direction.
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