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    Does anyone else ever feel like this....

    Some days I feel fine about being a stripper. I like going to work, and I'll feel all hot and confident and I get excited about all the money I can potentially make, and everything sounds great...

    But then other times I think "I can't believe I'm a stripper...." and I just feel so skanky, ya know? I'm not being skanky at work or anything... but I just "feel" that way.... cuz I'm a stripper.

    Ya, that kinda makes no sense, but does anyone understand what I mean?
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    Default Re: Sometimes I feel "slutty"

    how long have you been dancing? This seemed to happen to me a lot when I was just starting. The thoughts pretty much went away after the 9 month mark or so.

    I don't associate it with being slutty though. I do remember the "I can't believe I'm a stripper" thoughts, but it was about different stuff.

    I struggled with finding my level ground in my personal identity for a while, reconciling my IRL with my stripper persona, but it's all gravy now.
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    Default Re: Sometimes I feel "slutty"

    No, I don't feel like that. I see what you're saying though.

    I never associate stripping with being slutty, I see it as being smart.

    I think going to bars and getting crazy for free is slutty.

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    Default Re: Sometimes I feel "slutty"

    the morning i woke up after my first night, i got that "dirty" feeling. I still get it sometimes, but not that often.

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    Quote Originally Posted by austinatalie View Post
    how long have you been dancing? This seemed to happen to me a lot when I was just starting. The thoughts pretty much went away after the 9 month mark or so.
    I've been dancing for 2 years...........
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    Default Re: Sometimes I feel "slutty"

    I get that feeling sometimes, too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by curvycutie817 View Post
    I've been dancing for 2 years...........
    Well it sounds like you just never really worked it out with yourself incorporating stripping into your self concept. Being a stripper doesn't necessarily mean anything about you as a person, like being slutty.

    You might benefit by taking some private time to yourself to think about it, and to decide if for you, stripping=slutty or not.

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    Default Re: Sometimes I feel "slutty"

    I do rarely, I know a couple dancers that feel like that as soon as they enter the building.

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    Default Re: Sometimes I feel "slutty"

    I might've felt this way when I started about 6 yrs ago, but I don't remember. Then again, I've always had liberal views about what I think is acceptable.

    Like Joplin said, I think it's being "smart," as opposed to slutty, considering that we're making alotta $$$$ in a short period of time, giving us room to improve in other areas of our lives. I also really look at it as a blessing, too.

    When I think of slutty or skanky, I think of girls who go around fucking/sucking/rubbing tons of guys, even if they have bfs, for free. I also think of ones who show all their shit for free, too.

    Then again, I'm also all for prostitution...as long as people are tested and whatnot. And no, I'm not a prostitute and never will be...that pushes my line.

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    I don't feel like a slut. More like a hard-working entertainer who gives the illusion of being slutty.

    ETA: I don't think I even come off as slutty ITC. I'm too "cute".
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    Its acting. You can act slutty but thats not you as a person. Its also ok to like your job too. I do have those wtf am I doing here moments but then I go count my money and realize why I'm there.
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    ^^I agree with TM. That's what I meant to say, but b/c I am on cold medicine, I couldn't express it as eloquently.
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    Maria Callas said it best: "When my critics stop hissing, I shall know I'm slipping."

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    Default Re: Sometimes I feel "slutty"

    I don't ever feel "slutty" but more like "what the fuck am i doing here" sometimes on the way to work I will look at people walking around looking all "normal" and wonder how much I have changed. Some times when I am on stage I get that panicky feeling like "What am I doing!" I'm not ashamed but sometimes I feel like I took a wrong turn.

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    Maybe I'm reaching but if you feel skanky than you're probably going beyond your comfort zones, right?

    I found mine and while mine are further than most (I can do toy shows but get creeped out with spending hours with the same guy, ha) I never feel skanky UNLESS I'm doing something I feel is too far (I can squirt, I tried doing a squirting show and...cannot. do. Too intimate).

    Once you develop your levels and how to stick to them, you might feel less skanky?


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    Quote Originally Posted by curvycutie817 View Post
    Does anyone else ever feel like this....

    Some days I feel fine about being a stripper. I like going to work, and I'll feel all hot and confident and I get excited about all the money I can potentially make, and everything sounds great...

    But then other times I think "I can't believe I'm a stripper...." and I just feel so skanky, ya know? I'm not being skanky at work or anything... but I just "feel" that way.... cuz I'm a stripper.

    Ya, that kinda makes no sense, but does anyone understand what I mean?
    That's what I went through...and the negative feelings definitely started to outweight the positive feelings as time went on, more time passed since I obtained my college degree(i.e., I should have found a "real" job by then), and the earnings got smaller and smaller. I especially felt this way because my family was really conservative and would never approve, plus all of my former classmates from my hometown wouldn't think too highly of it either. I mean, to be a college-attending A student with a scholarship and high career goals, and then end up being "some stripper" in a job that doesn't require my obtained education, all because I couldn't find a decent "real" job...I was self conscious of this and didn't want anyone to find out what I did jobwise. (nothing wrong with stripping if you CHOOSE to...but for me, I only did it because I couldn't find anything else and I had to pay bills somehow) These feelings are what led to me getting out.


    Quote Originally Posted by TigersMilk
    I do have those wtf am I doing here moments but then I go count my money and realize why I'm there.
    Yeah I can relate to this, and after a while when my earnings seemed to get smaller and smaller(a combo of my city's clubs getting less busy + me not liking my job), I was no longer able to count my money and realize why I was there. That was the point when I said "to hell with it" and got out. If I was still making consistent good money like I did at one time, I probably would have stayed a little longer but this was not the case.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lysondra View Post
    Maybe I'm reaching but if you feel skanky than you're probably going beyond your comfort zones, right?

    I found mine and while mine are further than most (I can do toy shows but get creeped out with spending hours with the same guy, ha) I never feel skanky UNLESS I'm doing something I feel is too far (I can squirt, I tried doing a squirting show and...cannot. do. Too intimate).

    Once you develop your levels and how to stick to them, you might feel less skanky?
    This is spot on, for me at least. That skanky feeling was my brain's way of telling me I was overstepping very important boundaries. When I stay within my boundaries at work I feel fine, hot, sexy, goddessy and all that, but if men are trying to violate me all day long and I'm not standing up for myself, I get that nasty slutty skanky feeling. It's my self-concept rebelling against abuse.

    I don't know if it's the same for you at all, but that's definitely right on the mark for me!

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    Quote Originally Posted by la429 View Post
    I don't ever feel "slutty" but more like "what the fuck am i doing here" sometimes on the way to work I will look at people walking around looking all "normal" and wonder how much I have changed. Some times when I am on stage I get that panicky feeling like "What am I doing!" I'm not ashamed but sometimes I feel like I took a wrong turn.
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    Quote Originally Posted by zxcire View Post
    This is spot on, for me at least. That skanky feeling was my brain's way of telling me I was overstepping very important boundaries. When I stay within my boundaries at work I feel fine, hot, sexy, goddessy and all that, but if men are trying to violate me all day long and I'm not standing up for myself, I get that nasty slutty skanky feeling. It's my self-concept rebelling against abuse.
    This is true for me, too. If I'm staying within my own boundaries and not accepting any abuse, I feel OK. If I overstep boundaries, I get unhappy at work. It took me a while of trial and error to figure out what feels OK to me and what doesn't.

    It could also be that you're letting other people's ideas about strippers affect you. For the first few days I danced, I was blown away by the "skankiness" of what I was doing. I had to get over a bunch of crap other people had told me about stripping before I could start to see it for what it is, and most importantly what it is TO ME. Remember, people who foster that whole stripper=skank idea have no idea what they're talking about. THEY don't know anything about stripping. YOU do. Your informed, educated, first-hand experience opinion tops their hearsay, ignorance, and gullibility.

    For the first year I danced, I wouldn't feel skanky, as per se, but I would be out among normal people at the grocery store or on the bus and keep thinking "Whoa...I'm a stripper!" It wasn't a bad feeling...I felt like a ninja, or a secret agent. After several months, the idea of being a stripper got normalized in my brain and those feelings went away.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lysondra View Post
    Maybe I'm reaching but if you feel skanky than you're probably going beyond your comfort zones, right?

    I found mine and while mine are further than most (I can do toy shows but get creeped out with spending hours with the same guy, ha) I never feel skanky UNLESS I'm doing something I feel is too far (I can squirt, I tried doing a squirting show and...cannot. do. Too intimate).

    Once you develop your levels and how to stick to them, you might feel less skanky?
    QFT. I'm the same way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by la429 View Post
    but sometimes I feel like I took a wrong turn.
    Pretty much. I think a lot of it is that only my boyfriend and two best friends know about it, and everybody else (family in particular) would be shocked and disgusted if they knew.

    I love stripping, but sometimes that feeling hits me too.
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    Quote Originally Posted by xoxoGracexoxo View Post
    For the first year I danced, I wouldn't feel skanky, as per se, but I would be out among normal people at the grocery store or on the bus and keep thinking "Whoa...I'm a stripper!" It wasn't a bad feeling...I felt like a ninja, or a secret agent. After several months, the idea of being a stripper got normalized in my brain and those feelings went away.
    This is exactly how I felt too.
    Walking around school with a smirk on my face thinking "none of these people know I'm a stripper..."

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    I only feel slutty after a night where I drank alot and got a little too friendly with a customer. So pretty much what some of the other girls said, over stepping my boundaries. I hate the days I wake up and know I went too far. Ick.

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