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    Default Alrighty - A question for the ladies on something different...

    I'm almost positive this is has not been posted as I have searched the forums more than 3 times...It is a little bit of a different situation and I want to know wtf happened?...Story Time...

    Alright - I go to the strip club 1-2 times a month. I go to the same strip club everytime, and I usually go with one particular dancer everytime - dances,vip,etc. So I guess I am somewhat of a regular ( i hate that word) for her....

    I always go with group of friends..6-7..Always guys....THIS TIME..I go with one friend and its a girl who I've known forever..very pretty...but known her too long-sister type kinda thing...Always wanted to go with me and I finally gave in...So we go!

    I walk in..Pay the door fee like normal...The dancer ____ comes up to me when she sees me and we talk...and then I'm like - " Hey! This is my good friend _______"....My friend who is very outgoing and kinda bubbly-type goes "hey! Nice to meet you..." and holds out her hand...

    My dancer-friend looks at her hand and says nothing.....WTF?!...I'm standing between looking on in horror and all I can do is what I've done recently in nervous type situations and say "awwwwkwaard" in a joking type manner....Mostly because I didn't expect this at all...

    Then she looks at me all pissed (pyscho-type stare) and walks away into the back...and I look at my friend and go "Ok shall we sit down!"...

    Now i tried to talk to her numerous times throughout the night and she wouldnt come near me...So then I was just like fuk it because she was rude to my friend for no reason..

    So in the end - I'm probably stop going with her at all because I thought it was messed up...But I want to know

    A.) Why the hell would she do that if my friend was being nice and outgoing
    B.) Have you ever encountered a regular who brought in a friend who happened to be a girl (NOT A COUPLE!) and how did you react
    C.) If not, How would you react/feel about the whole situation?

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    1. My friend wasn't wearing a skirt with no panties- She was wearing jeans. So that can't be it
    2. My friend is my age - My dancer friend notaby older so I don't understand why she would care
    3. My dancer-friend always talks about how its stupid to get jealous over customers so this is really surprising.
    4. I fully intended on spending the usual that night anyway.

    All Right - I think I covered every base here.

    The End.
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    Default Re: Alrighty - A question for the ladies on something different...

    I cant believe you need to ask. You are usually good $$$$ for her by the sound of it and you walk in with a girl so she sees that $$$$$ fly out the window basically. Whether or not girls are friendly they do not make good customers. They might want one dance but they dont extend and many of us feel awkward dancing for girls.

    If my regular brought a girl in with him I'd have the same reaction - bye bye $$$$.
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    Default Re: Alrighty - A question for the ladies on something different...

    See I can understand that if I was like - "Hey this is my GIRLFRIEND".....I mean I made the point of saying friend...

    I dunno...

    Plus the fact that I tried to talk to her 2-3 different times and she would look at me with a blank stare...If I wanted that drama - I'd get back with my Ex-gf...
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    Default Re: Alrighty - A question for the ladies on something different...

    ^^
    yes it's wrong for her to act like a jealous g/f over it. But whether or not u said it was your g/f it would be an uncomfortable situation for her.

    I'd be pissed off if my regulars brought girls into the club. I just dont like dancing for girls in the club and then I couldn't take him away for ages coz he prob wont wanna leave her sitting there alone. I dunno just not a good place to bring a female friend IMO.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    ^^
    yes it's wrong for her to act like a jealous g/f over it. But whether or not u said it was your g/f it would be an uncomfortable situation for her.

    I'd be pissed off if my regulars brought girls into the club. I just dont like dancing for girls in the club and then I couldn't take him away for ages coz he prob wont wanna leave her sitting there alone. I dunno just not a good place to bring a female friend IMO.
    so why not Pretend to be nice, and get what money you can and then jump ship??
    all you are doing is potentially burning a bridge that does not need to be burnt.

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    Default Re: Alrighty - A question for the ladies on something different...

    Is there any chance she is pretending to be jealous? The old, but "I really like you" act?

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    Default Re: Alrighty - A question for the ladies on something different...

    It's hard for some of us to pretend to be nice when you bring a girl in with you. We have no way of knowing if "friend" means fuckbuddy, girl I just started dating that isn't yet my gf, girl who wants to date me, girl I want to date, or of course just friend. Most girls are quite hostile to us, even if they start the night out nice. We don't know if she is gonna be trying to rip our hair out after a beer or two.

    It's also kinda weird dancing for a chick sometimes. They feel because they are a girl too that they can get much grabbier than the guys. I'm also afraid of hurting a girl by sitting on her lap if she happens to be tiny like me. I've often had them try to kiss me, with tongue. They are just generally much less well behaved than the guys.

    Please don't take this to mean all girls are like this. I've seen a few that are perfectly well behaved, but I've probably seen a hundred that act very badly, just because they know they can get away with a lot more than a guy.

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    Default Re: Alrighty - A question for the ladies on something different...

    Maybe she does really have a crush on you?

    Or maybe she was pissed off thought you wouldn't spend money and had a temper tantrum?

    The whole not shaking hands thing is just rude tho....either way....find a new girl lol!

    I would expect that if u were my regular and you came in with a girl, I would probably be less flirty, more sit down and hang out cause I didnt know the deal...

    But WTF Ever on this girl.
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    Default Re: Alrighty - A question for the ladies on something different...

    That was very immature on the dancers part. Wow. Talk about being a bitch. Yes, dancers do get put off by female customers because 95% of the time they're rude to us. But your friend seemed friendly and outgoing. The dancer didn't even give her a chance. If I were you I wouldn't come in and spend another dime on her either.

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    Default Re: Alrighty - A question for the ladies on something different...

    In my experience, other girls (whether it's a civilian or another dancer) pretty much always throw favorites for a loop. Even favorites who aren't into you for real (meaning, almost all of them) want to cultivate the feeling of an exclusive pseudo-girlfriend type relationship...which is completely incompatible with another girl being in the mix.

    In other words, you got a fairly typical reaction....I do notice that you are younger, you have time to grow and learn.

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    Default Re: Alrighty - A question for the ladies on something different...

    In the end - it doesn't ruin my day or anything like that but basically I don't understand where the hell it came from.

    Before I went in that night - I was telling my friend that I usually spend money on one particular dancer but she is nice and everything. Then she did that and I was like "Well that's her...."...

    It mostly caught me off guard because like i said she is pretty good when it comes to me talking to other dancers...I spend mostly on her but i tip some of the other dancers I know when they are on stage or I buy a dance... and she always says how she doesn't understand jealousy and stuff like that and I'm always like Touche Touche.....

    I went up to her to see whats up 2-3 times like i said and she gave me the blank stare so then i just left it alone the rest of the night because I'm not gonna chase anyone around...

    To me - it would be like if i came in and saw her talking to another customer and was like "Whoa whoa whats going on here"...

    just stupid and I just wanted to know how some of you have handled/ would handle that situation..

    Thank you to the ones who have answered already - I doubt I'm going to spend money on her anymore...
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    Default Re: Alrighty - A question for the ladies on something different...

    Interesting scenario YBB. Just when you think you have things kinda sorta figured out as far as what to do/not do in a SC....

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    Default Re: Alrighty - A question for the ladies on something different...

    ^^^

    the funny part is i've read a few posts here how the dancers cant stand the women that come in with the skirts n no underwear because they expect more since they are a woman too...

    so my friend asked what she should wear and i was like ...JEANS - JUST WEAR JEANS DAMN IT...
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    Yeah, I agree she's over-reacting. If a customer of mine came in with a girl, I'd probably flirt less with him and more with her, until I got the situation figured out. I agree it's usually harder to make money from a guy with a girl there, but that said I've made bank from couples before. And anyway, I don't see any reason to be rude about it.

    Anyway, she lost your business. That's what she gets for providing lousy customer service.

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    Default Re: Alrighty - A question for the ladies on something different...

    Please don't spend anymore money on her. It makes me mad how someone could be so blatantly rude! One of my biggest pet peeves is people with no consideration or manners. Unless someone has insulted you, don't ever not shake their hands.

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    Quote Originally Posted by thefrog View Post
    so why not Pretend to be nice, and get what money you can and then jump ship??
    all you are doing is potentially burning a bridge that does not need to be burnt.
    Ding ding ding! Right on the money. Pun intended.

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    In my experience, other girls (whether it's a civilian or another dancer) pretty much always throw favorites for a loop. Even favorites who aren't into you for real (meaning, almost all of them) want to cultivate the feeling of an exclusive pseudo-girlfriend type relationship...which is completely incompatible with another girl being in the mix.

    In other words, you got a fairly typical reaction....I do notice that you are younger, you have time to grow and learn.
    Not necessarily. Sometimes the GFE can be extended to cover the actual girlfriend...if everyone is interested in everyone, it can actually be a lot of fun because you can play off of each other and whoever isn't directly involved gets the visual pleasure of the interaction. I know this isn't common compared to the "mostly/totally unwilling to get involved" female customers but when it happens, it can be a huge success.


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    Quote Originally Posted by youngBUTbanking View Post
    A.) Why the hell would she do that if my friend was being nice and outgoing
    B.) Have you ever encountered a regular who brought in a friend who happened to be a girl (NOT A COUPLE!) and how did you react
    C.) If not, How would you react/feel about the whole situation?

    The End.
    I guess I could try really hard to explain her reaction to what you did (sounds like some of the other SW girls have good ideas about this), but in the end, unless you're withholding some critical piece of information, I'd have to say that she acted inappropriately.

    As long as you didn't say something sleazy ("I can't wait to see you two get it on!!") or do something crazy, it sounds like she was creating drama for you.

    God that must've been awkward. You show up expecting to have a good time (it is a strip club, after all)...you probably even talked the dancer up a bit to your friend, and then she treats you like an asshole? Gah...I cringe.

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    She's being extremely stupid. I can see how maybe she would feel a bit shocked if she thought the chick was your gf or something and maybe be a bit miffed. Who knows, maybe she even has a little thing for you. But she's being really stupid and rude and I would not spend anything else on her.
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    Default Re: Alrighty - A question for the ladies on something different...

    I just don't like females ITC tbh. They kill the atmosphere and generally behave much worse than any of the guys - dancing, attn whoring, screaming etc.

    I would be happy if they didn't let girls in anymore even tho that would mean when I occasionally wanted to go as a custie I couldn't.

    I missed the part about her not shaking your friends hand tho, that is rude and made her look stupid imo.
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    Default Re: Alrighty - A question for the ladies on something different...

    Charlie -

    Nope, I didn't leave anything out. I definitely didnt say anything sleazy about them two because 1.) It isn't my thing and 2.) I wouldn't put my friend in that position to begin with.

    Yeah - the bad part is i did talk up the dancer before we got there.
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    Yeah, not shaking hands was rude---but i agree with all the girls who said she is seeing this girl drive her money out hte window.

    Have you ever had htat moment, at a table iwth a ncie girl and her guy friends, all flirty and happy and nice, and hten you go to take one of htem for a dance... and she says.... "twenty dollars? Hell, MY tits are better!" or something. Happened COUNTLESS time that even NICE females who AREN'T romantically attached to a group member sabotage your money, encouraging the customers to spend less, not get VIP, etc.

    In her position, I would have shook her hand, said "you guys have fun now- let me know when i get to take you in back!" and went on to hustle the rest of hte floor.

    But yeah, bringing your lady friend DOES really screw the dynamic up.
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    ^ That would have been perfect if she handled the situation like that...

    Now I'm not even looking forward to the next time I go with my guy friends simply because I know she'll be there and either I have to endure the stare again or she'll come up and have to talk about the whole situation...which i'd rather not do......We only go on Saturday Nights - She works Saturday night which = uncomfortable situation...
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    I think this dancer was behaving like a complete psycho and that there's nothing that can be said to save any face for her. You pay to go to the club and have a good time, not to be made to feel awkward for walking in the door with a friend.

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    Quote Originally Posted by needtodance View Post
    Yeah, not shaking hands was rude---but i agree with all the girls who said she is seeing this girl drive her money out hte window.

    Have you ever had htat moment, at a table iwth a ncie girl and her guy friends, all flirty and happy and nice, and hten you go to take one of htem for a dance... and she says.... "twenty dollars? Hell, MY tits are better!" or something. Happened COUNTLESS time that even NICE females who AREN'T romantically attached to a group member sabotage your money, encouraging the customers to spend less, not get VIP, etc.

    In her position, I would have shook her hand, said "you guys have fun now- let me know when i get to take you in back!" and went on to hustle the rest of hte floor.

    But yeah, bringing your lady friend DOES really screw the dynamic up.

    i think it is the guys responsibility to
    1. know the girl you are bringing into the club, and not bring one thats going act like an -ASS- with in reason we all know how are friends/girlfriends are going to act,
    2. decide befor you go what kind of night you are going to have. as in if its going be fun and games just like with the boys, then its up to the GUY to set that mood --chat up the waitress Tip her good, start right away Tipping the stage, grab a table dances soon as possible- etc.. or if its going be more laid back, make sure to Tip the stage but dont sit anywhere near stage, politely explain to any dancers that come -no thanks to the dance that you are just chilling out tonight and you will be tipping her on stage.

    i just dont it should all fall on the dancer or the girl.

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    Quote Originally Posted by youngBUTbanking View Post
    ^ That would have been perfect if she handled the situation like that...

    Now I'm not even looking forward to the next time I go with my guy friends simply because I know she'll be there and either I have to endure the stare again or she'll come up and have to talk about the whole situation...which i'd rather not do......We only go on Saturday Nights - She works Saturday night which = uncomfortable situation...
    like loaning money to a friend only invest what you can afford to lose and still be friends.

    you gotta decide what you have invested in this club/dancer -are the good times and dances worth giving up because of one bad night?
    or did you feel disrespected enough to move on to another dancer or dancers ?
    or even another club till you feel the drama has calmed down.

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