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    Hi laides!

    It's my first post here and I just need some advice.

    I work at this club that I have been at for years. I try to leave it as much as possible and travel, but when Im home, it's the busiest club so I always return. The club has been getting increasingly dirtier as time goes by. What used to be an air dance club is now becoming a contact club. This really upsets me because I dont like to grind and I dont like having even my leg touched by creeps. Ok so, there is this girl lets call her Veronica. Her and I had a falling out years ago at another club, it was my first day there and she was jealous of my stage show and told everyone I stole her pole tricks (silly, being there for one day that is impossible, not to mention we have two totally different shows)

    so, needless to say she is a couple years younger and very immature. Yes she is beautiful. and she is at the club I am at now. She walks around like she is the queen, she is ALWAYS in the vip, she is very beautiful and seems to feel the need to be a total whore in the back. This upsets me, if you are pretty why do that? Even if your not its a no contact club, go somewhere else to be a whore.

    I make great money when she is not there, I start at 7, she at 9. I am on a roll before she gets there but my business seems to stop when she arrives. I also cant seem to shake the thought of shaving her head bald or the thought of her falling off stage really entertains me. I know this is TERRIBLE to think but I really just hate her so very much.

    I get along with every single girl in that bar, Im a nice girl but just cant seem to shake my hate for this one. It doesnt help that she is a total bitch to me after I tried so many times to be nice. I dont know what to do because I feel my hate for her is affecting me making money. I have considered moving clubs just so I dont have to see her.

    I am not the only one who hates her, everyone complains about her, but I keep my mouth shut because I try to to put the negative energy out there.

    I need help getting over this and letting go or I know I wont make any money.

    HELP!
    Stop talking. Start spending! lol

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    Get over it. Sorry to be so blunt but that's life. Even in a "regular" job your not going to get along with everyone. Just put your blinders on and make your money.

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    The more she pisses you off and she knows it, she'll have won. Just kill her with kindness and do your thing.

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    Thanks girls, Ive tried the killing her with kindness thing. It hard and doesnt work. I need to just get over it, but she makes it damn near impossible.

    *big breath* ahhhhhh..........

    I need to meditate or something.
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    It's definitely the hard part of the business. Always the undeserving whores get the best money/customers. And all the deserving girls have to sit back and watch it go down as we hope for that $1 tip.

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    Aint that the truth!
    Stop talking. Start spending! lol

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    You havn't really mentioned anything terrible that she has done. She hasn't really directly insulted you with the exception of that one time with the pole tricks, she hasn't robbed your, started lies about you, or defaced any of your property. You say that she is a "whore" in the back but what exactly does that mean? Have you ever seen her? If not than it is only a rumor. I had plenty of rumors of myself being the "whore in back" simply because I consistently made more money than others.

    Even if hypothetically she is breaking the rules or doing something unethical she can not possibly make that much of a dent on her money. It's impossible for one dancer, no matter how beautiful or whorish to monopolize all of the customers. You are letting her looks and attidude blind you from making money.

    My suggestion: stop focusing on her so much and focus on yourself and the customers.

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    She talks about everyone behind their backs. She does little petty vindictive things to upset people, hiding their stuff shoes, bags etc.., telling other customers that a girl had crabs (lie) and when she is in the back she is doing contact dances. What's worse is that she is sweet as pie to the boss so he doesn't know other wise. I know all I have to do is brush it all off and forget about it, its just very hard. Thanks girls for the words of encouragement Ill try my best.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ghostinpa View Post
    Get over it. Sorry to be so blunt but that's life. Even in a "regular" job your not going to get along with everyone. Just put your blinders on and make your money.
    For real. If your hustle is down theres nothing she can do that will affect your money unless you let it. You need to stop putting the blame on others and figure out what the issue really is.

    Not to mention - From my experience - when dancers talk shit about other dancers to customers it hurts them.... guys dont believe that crap.

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    Don't let another girl mess up your hustle. If you think she's going to mess you up, she will. It's a self-fulfiiling prophecy. Just walk around like you are the hottest woman alive...

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    Quote Originally Posted by veronicavale View Post
    Don't let another girl mess up your hustle. If you think she's going to mess you up, she will. It's a self-fulfiiling prophecy. Just walk around like you are the hottest woman alive...
    Thats what I do and Im sure there are girls that hate me at my club but ya know, oh well...

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    Quote Originally Posted by AudreyLeigh View Post
    Not to mention - From my experience - when dancers talk shit about other dancers to customers it hurts them.... guys dont believe that crap.
    Not if you play it like it's a big secret you're not supposed to tell. You get the guys curious and they'll be begging for more info, then you tell then she has crabs or whatever and they do buy it. If you say it just to try to hurt the other girl you do end up hurting yourself though. (No I don't talk bull about other girls but when something's a fact and I have a trustworthy customer down, yea I oblige. Because it makes them feel like they're on the insider circle of the club.)

    But on the original topic... Just keep what's your locked up so she can't hide it and try to ignore her the best you can. Your money dries up because you get insecure/hateful/whatever it is you're feeling, not just because she's there.
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    I believe lots of men have the flip side of the coin when it comes to the "white knight" fantasy. They'd LOVE to be a white knight. But they usually don't really have it in them.

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    ^^ Whoa. Some girls put way too much energy into putting others down. Energy that would be better spent I dunno, making money...

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    Delvina, I've been there. The same situation happened to me. I had to fight really hard to get over my own insecurity and get back to what was really important. Making that cash!!!

    Cliche' as it may sound, this is really in your head and you are being your own worst enemy.

    Take it from a girl that has gone through the very same situation. Don't let it bog you down, don't repeat MY mistakes. Shake it off, block it out, and get back to working smart.
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    ^What Sophia said.
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    I wish there was an "auto-like" setting that I could just have applied to all of your posts Sophia....

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    I sympathize, but if you keep thinking of her as a whore and stuff, it's only going to fuel your hate. If you want, feel sorry for her, or confused by her...or even happy for her when she does well. I know it might sound crazy, but changing the way you look at her might benefit you the most -- and that's what matters, right?

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    There's a girl like this at my club. It used to get to me and I used to feel just like you did...then I turned it around and made it into a competition instead of a defeatist thing. I started always making it my goal to "beat" her--do more dances, sell more rooms, look better, be thinner and in better shape, get more attention and $$ showers onstage, make more money than her...I started letting it bring out my competitive "game on!" side instead of just wallowing in frustration, and that worked wonders for my attitude and my $$. Competition brings out the best in me.

    Of course, now she hates me even more because nowadays, nine times out of ten I run circles around her. And the competition was always all in my head--I never said or did anything to her, I never talked about her to other girls or custies...I didn't have to. The proof was in the work.

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