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    I don"t have much to say to the guys at work. SOmetimes, if you catch me in a good mood Ill be able to talk your ear off, but most of the time its lame... "what's your name?" where you from" bla bla bla broing crap. What are some good questions you guys wanna be asked? what do you want to hear about me? Please help. I need to learn the art of conversation.
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    talk about sex. men like to talk about sex.




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    But what do I say? Im kinda shy when it comes to stuff like that. What are some good questions to ask them about sex or what should I talk about. Id probablly blush!
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    If you have a sense of humor - you are a winner in my book...

    Talk about anything - in the end, can anyone hear shit with the music blaring?...It is very awkward though if there is a silent period...I just find it very easy to talk to a girl if they can take jokes ...Then conversation is very easy then...

    I usually begin to mumble when a girl asks me questions about sex...
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    ask them if they have ever used toys or dont it in the booty. or ask them their craziest story!

    All you should focus on is getting them to talk. the more talk the better, one they feel connected and trusting they usually want dances.




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    EVERYBODY, male or female loves to talk about themselves. Within the first few basic questions you ask everybody he'll probably mention a hobby or whatever.. Just find something he likes to talk about and let him talk about himself. Men are champs at that

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    ^^^^ Lies!!..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Delvina View Post
    I don"t have much to say to the guys at work. SOmetimes, if you catch me in a good mood Ill be able to talk your ear off, but most of the time its lame... "what's your name?" where you from" bla bla bla broing crap. What are some good questions you guys wanna be asked? what do you want to hear about me? Please help. I need to learn the art of conversation.

    I'd talk about trolls. Guys love hearing about mythical characters.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Delvina View Post
    I don"t have much to say to the guys at work. SOmetimes, if you catch me in a good mood Ill be able to talk your ear off, but most of the time its lame... "what's your name?" where you from" bla bla bla boring crap.
    Quote Originally Posted by loveandluxury View Post
    EVERYBODY, male or female loves to talk about themselves. Within the first few basic questions you ask everybody he'll probably mention a hobby or whatever.. Just find something he likes to talk about and let him talk about himself. Men are champs at that
    I think we have a winner folks.

    Most people (male AND female) do like to talk about themselves. The tricky thing is the first few seconds of the conversation - finding the questions that start the ball rolling. After that, listening carefully should enable you to ask follow up questions to keep the conversation moving.

    Some topics are probably best avoided. Asking a guy if he's married is probably a no-no: means he got to explain why he's in the club and not with his wife.

    Safe topics can be gleaned from that days newspaper. Unusual stories from around the world or upcoming sporting events are a good bet.

    Also helps if you ask the guy his name early in the convo, and add it into a few questions:

    "So, John, who's going to win the game on Saturday" is far better than calling him "hey you".

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    After the obvious introductions, I get a lot of "so are you from around here" that can start off a lot of topics if they are actually from somewhere else or even if they are from around there. What kind of work do you do, may give somebody a chance to stretch the truth... Music, movies, vacations, maybe some sports... etc. Anything that can be talked about for a bit of time that isn't too personal. A few lines can get each of those topics going "Man I like this song" or "Man I hate this song"

    Everything Phil said above is good to use too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by loveandluxury View Post
    EVERYBODY, male or female loves to talk about themselves. Within the first few basic questions you ask everybody he'll probably mention a hobby or whatever.. Just find something he likes to talk about and let him talk about himself. Men are champs at that
    This approach has my vote. It works in life not just in an SC. Get them to talk about themselves and they will like you. most people will.

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    Others have given general approaches. Here are some specific questions that can start conversations.

    1. "Tell me the 2 most interesting things about yourself."

    2. (Look around room). "Who do you think is the spy?"

    3. "What do you like in a girl? What's your ideal girl?" (be prepared that it may not be you)

    4. "Are you a tit man or an ass man?"

    5. "What's your favorite sport/sports team?"

    6. "Did you/do you play?"

    7. (Look around room). "Who do you think is hot? What's hot about her?" Tell who you think is hot. Be a lesbian (faux or real).

    8. "What do you usually drink?"

    9. "What's the weirdest thing you've ever eaten?"

    10. "What do you think of my hair/outfit this way?"

    And....talk a lot about yourself. The "people like to talk about themselves" advice is probably generally true, but IMO most guys in clubs would rather talk to strippers about the strippers' lives, not about themselves.

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    Last night we all started telling cheesy jokes. It was fun and it can easily be turned to sex jokes then talking about sex.
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    My current fave and I talk about Renaissance Fairs and the Society for Creative Anachronism, of which she is a member. She told me about how she became a dancer (she is a third generation dancer) and told me stories about what it was like when her mother danced. She told me about her year old daughter.

    I always enjoy hearing stories about dancing and how a dancer got started. Maybe this comes from all the stories I read here on SW.

    Another dancer was in the army reserves, and we swapped military stories.

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    Wow. lol - I so get flung off the bell curve here. I'm shy so I usually don't have much to say about my life. I dislike the sex questions because they lead to me feeling bad about myself pretty quickly (you can only say, "nope, never done that" so many times before a depressing pattern emerges). I'd rather hear funny customer stories, jokes, or observational-type conversation about our surroundings.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lestat1 View Post
    Wow. lol - I so get flung off the bell curve here. I'm shy so I usually don't have much to say about my life. I dislike the sex questions because they lead to me feeling bad about myself pretty quickly (you can only say, "nope, never done that" so many times before a depressing pattern emerges). I'd rather hear funny customer stories, jokes, or observational-type conversation about our surroundings.
    Very important point, ladies. I guess it falls under the "know your customer, read him" category. I don't like talking about sex (or really, myself at all) either. If I felt all great about my life (or sex life) to the point I wanted to talk about it, I probably wouldn't be in a club anyway.

    "Observational-type conversation about our surroundings"....perfect. Forms the basis of many of the 10 sample topics I suggested above.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Delvina View Post
    I don"t have much to say to the guys at work. SOmetimes, if you catch me in a good mood Ill be able to talk your ear off, but most of the time its lame... "what's your name?" where you from" bla bla bla broing crap. What are some good questions you guys wanna be asked? what do you want to hear about me? Please help. I need to learn the art of conversation.
    I can relate but from a customers POV. As much as I blah blah here I am fairly reserved in person. I've always gotten along best with dancers who have the gift of gab and are willing to do enough talking for the both of us. My fav is a perfect example. Maybe you can scout out the more vivacious talkative customers and hone in on them. I would think they would be pretty obvious. That way you can contribute a bit here and there to the conversation but not worry about having to be the main driver. And I bet those yakky guys would be just fine with you contributing some sexiness, smiles and a few words once in a while.

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    Talk about the other girls. Ask him which ones he finds hot, what he likes in a girl. Be coy about whether you like the girls yourself - if you must, just say "I think she is kinda cute, but I prefer guys"

    If there's a girl with big implants and you don't have them, ask his opinion. Asj about hair, lips, nails ...

    Guys love talking about girls, but I'd keep them clear of direct sexual stuff because it may embarrass them and you.

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