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    So ladies, I need your advice. I got a message from a guy I've mailed back and forth with a few times, saying that he wanted to give some financial incentive to show he was for real, and asking if I have a paypal account.

    Can he trace me with my paypal account? I thought about setting up a second one just for the SD site, but I don't want him to be able to get all my bank account info or anything. Has anyone else done it this way?


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    Dont do paypal...if he disputes it he'll get all his money back b/c you aren't allowed to use it for adult services.

    Use Western Union!

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    Aubreyy... why don't you mention the yahoo group in the first post?

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    Aubrey, how does WU work? I'm looking on the site right now and there's so many different options!

    Can the guy dispute the money on Paypal if I've already withdrawn it? I would have thought that claiming it was for adult services would get him in trouble too


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    The thing about paypal is you can have a certain amount of money put in if you don't have a bank account or anything, but you can't withdraw hardly anything as cash unless your account has been verified with an account. If he were to dispute it, they would automatically draw it back out of the account.

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    As far as I know, the paypal account I have right now for Amazon etc is verified with my account, because when I have money in my paypal account I can transfer the funds to my bank account. If I used this type would that be ok, or would he be able to access my bank details that way? Thanks girl!


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    ...don't use Paypal! Don't use anything with your bank details, b/c if anything ever happens between the two of you, or he changes his mind, he can get a complete refund!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aubreyyy View Post
    Your questions answered!

    I use sugardaddyforme.com and seekingarrangement.com. There are other websites to use as well depending on where in the world you live.

    As far as living with people, I live with my boyfriend (err, now ex). As far as my SDs have been concerned, they are roommates.

    Asking for money? After trading pics and the usual convo starting garbage, I say "Tell me what you're looking for, as far as your expectations and budget. I just want to make sure ours are compatible :wink:". They normally appreciate this b/c they don't want to waste time on a girl that wants 10k a month when they're only offering free dinners. If they freak out over this...move on. They aren't serious about paying you. If they ask you what you're thinking- DONT LOWBALL! Say "Oh, I was thinking maybe 3-5 a month? Of course, this is completely nego. to the perfect situation". Stress that you like to get the money talk out of the way before you meet, so the face time is all about having fun, not doing business. Also call it a "necessary evil", like it isn't your driving force (even when it totally is)
    lol okay I know that this post was a long time ago but I am hoping that someone can help me with this one... I am new to the sug4me site and I have used what you said about talking about the money thing up front... I have done that but now I have an older guy that wants to hang out 4 times a month give me 4,000 cash money and shopping but wants to do the nasty yeah there is a catch of course! how can I get this guy to give me some money without giving him any goods? please help I need the cash! lol

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    Just wanted to giveyou guys a heads up about a new site. I still have my free sd4me account active and recieved an email from a guy saying to try his new site elitemeeting.com. He was on the Bravo millionaire reality show and decided to start his own site from his own experience. I created my account and recieved very few emails. It might be because it's new or just plain old guys aren't interested in me. But anyways, I just wanted to share this with you all in hopes you try it and have better results. Supposedly they screen these guys to show you that they are true millionaires. I am actually meeting with the owner of the site tomorrow to discuss my experience and provide any more feedback as to how he can improve the site to our advantage. I told him I am part of a forum where we discuss these types of sites so your feedback will be relayed to him. Don't worry, I will not give him the name of this forum. I will post the details of my meeting with him here.

    UPDATE: There was no meet. Long story short, I had a small girls night out with a few members from here before the meet. They suggest he come meet us. I told him and he began to toy with me. Then when I mentioned details about him to the girls, one of them knew of him! It turns out he trolls all the sugar daddy sites like SD, SD4me, wealthy men, etc. So we all began to toy with him to get him to come meet us. He even texted the girl that was with us! He wasn't having it. I feel like an idiot for initially planning to meet him where he was. He should have come to me, to US! LOL Oh well, we had a blast anyway. Try his site if you want but you've been warned about this guy here. His name is Tai.
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    I've had no luck with the free sugardaddy sites. Well, I was stupid and didn't follow up with the gold members who initially contacted me. I think gold members can only talk to you for a short time before you have to pay? No way in hell am I giving those sites any of my money lol. So the search for a sugardaddy begins in the club for me. I've met a couple of potential guys but I'm just not sure of what my price should be. I don't want to go too high but I certainly don't wanna go too low. I met a girl who was meeting her SD after work and she said one night with him she makes 500 dollars. I don't know if it's because I have low self esteem but I'd feel akward asking an old guy for that much money when they probably don't even last more than 2 minutes LOL. *shrugs* For those who do do the deed with their SD's is 500 a pop sound about right? It sounds a lot more appealling than dancing my ass off for 7 hours straight and only coming home with 100-200. Give me 10 minutes with a guy who can barely get it up anyway, take away 500 dollars and that sounds awesome to me LOL. *shrugs* I have to figure... 2 or 3 nights a month that's an extra 1500 or so a month from an SD... that sounds about right?

    What do you girls do about security? The dancer I was talking to mentioned she meets her SD in a hotel and instantly I flashed back to CSI episodes where hookers are slaughtered in hotel rooms lol. Do you all carry mace? Have a bouncer? What do you do?

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    ^^^

    I had a sexual relationship with my SD (well, he was honestly just more like a bf that paid me) but I made a HELL of a lot more than that.

    If you're fucking, $500 a date should be the STARTING POINT. I'd ask 2x what a hooker would get in your area. They're looking for an SB b/c they dont want a pro...and they're gonna have to pay for that!

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    ^^ Thanks for the advice. I'm not really sure what hookers get in my area lol. Probably not much! I've heard rumors (just rumors mind you) that the extra girls at my club only give it away for 100-300 dollars, that is if they even charge extra for it... so I'm not sure if that qualifies as hooking. I get confused about all of the subtle differences between extras, prostitutes, and sugar babies. I'm not sure if it really matters, it's probably just the difference in price?

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    For me, the biggest thing is that hookers really don't care who they're fucking...they deal in quantity. Call girls deal in quality. A sexual SB only has sex with one person for money.

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    ^^ That makes sense! I'm glad you weren't offended by my confusion. Lines start to blur sometimes.. I found one fellow who I would love to have as a sugar daddy but once he came to see me at the club I just felt so nervous I never asked him about it. It's funny, I hardly ever get nervous around men so I must really like him lol. I'll see him again I'm sure and I'm going to somehow ask him about an arrangement. He even told me he's not interested in sex, just good times. So that's a definite plus!

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    So, I signed up for one of the free sites, and I don't want to put myself in a dangerous situation, and of course I'm nervous. I put on my profile "I am a very attentive and caring companion, as long as it is understood that our time together is respectful and non-sexual." Do you think that's clear enough that I'm not going to hook up with the guy? Of course I've gotten some responses from the guys saying that I'm stupid for thinking I can have something without sex, but screw them.

    Why I'm writing is that one guy wrote me, and I don't know how to check up on him, or if it's stupid to let him fly me to where he is. This is what he wrote:
    "I'm a Dallas attorney and would like to be your sugar daddy. Obviously, there would have to be mutual attraction and chemistry. Perhaps I could bring you to Dallas to meet and discuss in order for you to decide, covering travel, hotel, allowance etc. I'm looking for an ongoing routine with one person, meeting up as schedules allow.

    I'm 6' 0", 190lbs, brown hair, hazel eyes, caucasian, attractive, educated, full head of hair and all my teeth;o)

    If you would consider, provided everything meets your approval, write me at (his email address)"

    Should I be worried that he's an attorney? Should I let him fly me out there, or should I put him off for a while and try to just email? Any advice, please, I would REALLY appreciate. I feel like I'm trying to learn how to swim, and I've never been in the water before... Thank You :-D
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dancing Girl View Post
    So, I signed up for one of the free sites, and I don't want to put myself in a dangerous situation, and of course I'm nervous. I put on my profile "I am a very attentive and caring companion, as long as it is understood that our time together is respectful and non-sexual." Do you think that's clear enough that I'm not going to hook up with the guy? Of course I've gotten some responses from the guys saying that I'm stupid for thinking I can have something without sex, but screw them.

    Why I'm writing is that one guy wrote me, and I don't know how to check up on him, or if it's stupid to let him fly me to where he is. This is what he wrote:
    "I'm a Dallas attorney and would like to be your sugar daddy. Obviously, there would have to be mutual attraction and chemistry. Perhaps I could bring you to Dallas to meet and discuss in order for you to decide, covering travel, hotel, allowance etc. I'm looking for an ongoing routine with one person, meeting up as schedules allow.

    I'm 6' 0", 190lbs, brown hair, hazel eyes, caucasian, attractive, educated, full head of hair and all my teeth;o)

    If you would consider, provided everything meets your approval, write me at (his email address)"

    Should I be worried that he's an attorney? Should I let him fly me out there, or should I put him off for a while and try to just email? Any advice, please, I would REALLY appreciate. I feel like I'm trying to learn how to swim, and I've never been in the water before... Thank You :-D
    There is some stay-safe trick about calling a guy like this at work and making sure to speak with a receptionist and then the guy, to kind of verify his legitimacy and real name. I can't remember the details about it but maybe someone on here knows what I am talking about?
    Also, I would feel a little sketched out having him book the hotel--I would ask for money to book my own, so he can't get a room key. Also make sure you have money to fly back on your own in case something goes bad and he flakes out on the return trip.
    It almost seems to good to be true and I think he is going to expect sexual things, but you never know, so keep talking to him for now!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dancing Girl View Post

    Why I'm writing is that one guy wrote me, and I don't know how to check up on him, or if it's stupid to let him fly me to where he is. This is what he wrote:
    "I'm a Dallas attorney and would like to be your sugar daddy. Obviously, there would have to be mutual attraction and chemistry. Perhaps I could bring you to Dallas to meet and discuss in order for you to decide, covering travel, hotel, allowance etc. I'm looking for an ongoing routine with one person, meeting up as schedules allow.

    I'm 6' 0", 190lbs, brown hair, hazel eyes, caucasian, attractive, educated, full head of hair and all my teeth;o)

    If you would consider, provided everything meets your approval, write me at (his email address)"

    Should I be worried that he's an attorney? Should I let him fly me out there, or should I put him off for a while and try to just email? Any advice, please, I would REALLY appreciate. I feel like I'm trying to learn how to swim, and I've never been in the water before... Thank You :-D
    This sounds to me like he's definitely looking for a sexual relationship. He's asking you to fly out there to meet him before you definitively "decide." This screams "we only fuck after we establish mutual attraction" to me. If you're fine with this, then this is what you can expect. But it sounds like you're genuinely looking for a 100% NO-SEX SD relationship, and he's looking for a "but once you see that I'm good-looking and generous, you'll give in to me" relationship.

    This will set you up for a very difficult situation. Despite whether or not you take safety precautions, it will definitely put you in a "do it or don't get any $$" situation. These kinds of relationships are VERY difficult to navigate and maintain, because he IS looking for a sexual connection that you AREN'T willing to provide. Unless you send back "Just want to make sure you definitely aren't looking for any kind of sexual contact...ever" and he says "Yep, that's right! Never!" then you WILL end up having to deal with this (with this specific person).

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    can someone tell me how to delete my SD4M profile please? I cant figure it out..i've tried everything!

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    kiki that guy tai messaged me too and i saw him on that show so i check it out a bit. it seemed like all hype to me so i never joined. glad to hear hes a flake.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Electrum View Post
    For those who do do the deed with their SD's is 500 a pop sound about right?
    I would say more like $1500. Living expenses are also something he should offer to cover IMO (rent/bills).
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    If you're fucking, I'd expect at least $1k per every visit. that can be cumulative at the end of the month, or in an envelope every date.

    Most guys aren't going to cover every little living expense... they'd rather just give you the cash.

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    Quote Originally Posted by abadvi View Post
    Also, I would feel a little sketched out having him book the hotel--I would ask for money to book my own, so he can't get a room key.
    This is good, but don't meet him in your room ever, be sure to meet him in his since it will be in his name, verified with a credit card so that there's a paper trail, just in case he's a sketchy bad guy and tries anything...

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    I'm meeting up for my first SD meeting next week...the guy is one of the verified diamond club whatevers from Seeking Arrangement, so I'm not as worried about the 'is-he-wasting-me-time'. I'm really nervous! I don't know what to wear, or do, or any of that. :S I would've thought I'd be more self-assured in this situation, but I don't want to mess it up or anything and cost myself a good sugardaddy.

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    ^ I wouldn't worry too much about this. It's easy to forget who you're actually dealing with--he's just a person! Yes, he has money. But he's an older (probably not very good-looking) person. Just look good (look like how you look in whatever photos you've handed over). I doubt he'll see any imperfections you notice in yourself. You're a hot SB (presumably). Men don't usually see in detail. They see "hot" or "not."

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    anyone?

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