^^ I guess you're right. I've only actively searched those sites for guys in NYC or LA/Orang County...




^^ I guess you're right. I've only actively searched those sites for guys in NYC or LA/Orang County...
I wanted to ask how many SD's have any of you had at on particular time?
I think I might feel bad if I pick up a second one but I really don't want to be attached to my current one since I always believe he has other SBs.
^^ Psh...fuck...I had like 5 at one time (no sex/sexual favors). Collect dem shitters like stamps, babe. They're gonna have more than one SB, and you're gonna have more than one SD. But...they don't have to know about it.![]()
It hasn't been profitable but just an update![]()
The guy I previously mentioned from SA.com was total fail.
Then, just a few days ago I was contacted by someone on SD.com. (I still had no pic up there because i wasn't
planning keep doing it much ) This guy who messaged me sounded okay saying he comes to my area frequently for business, but basically he's ugly and old in his profile pic. I messaged him back something sweet also mentioned there would be no physical relationship. THEN he replied me "You're seeking support but don't want to offer anything in return?"
....Sure you deserve some companionship without paying compensation![]()
Well, the good thing about this whole SD/SB thing reminded me that in the past there was this sweet regular customer who now lives in another country. Once, a few years ago he sent me some Christmas gift which was very thoughtful...and now I'm contacting him again and he just replied my e-mail sounds still sweet. Hopefully he will do something (and bigger) again!
I will have to re-read carefully this whole thread to learn more tips!![]()
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hahah 5 at one time?! How do you find time to do anything else?My current SD is pretty high maintenance. He works a lot & wants to see me all the time on his free time. Which I guess isn't that much since he doesn't have much free time. I feel like he's a part time bf & I'm trying so hard not to get attached.
I was thinking maybe picking up a 2nd SD will get me over it. Non the less well said. <3 <3 <3 Love the "Collect dem shitters like stamps" comment. HAHA made me lol![]()
OH MY GOD, no joke... I met the Michael dude. Same exact story, except he flew me in from Philly to Vegas, sent a limo to pick me up for dinner, talked a lot of shit about how he would give me craploads of money... ended up giving me a total of like $500, a new dress, and a hotel room in the Venetian Towers... he wanted sex and I kicked him out so he totally turned off room service/etc in the room... good thing I was leaving the next morning!! He's so orange in real life.. .seriously, way too much self tanner. He has a nice pad though, but he's definitely bullshit. One of my Vegas girlfriends also met with him... wonk wonk.
Ha!! That's so funny... Tai is one of the owners of several of the SD sites. He's asked me out a million times as well as every other girl on the site. I used to have a whole sb connection thing going on with the sites... I created an elite sugardaddy group on myspace where a lot of the girls are. Anywho... I think he recently found a wife or something, according to a mutual friend of his/mine. He's now looking to do ANOTHER reality show on the sd4me.com and my friend is the talent agent... SO... since he claims to have found the love of his life, he might stop hitting on every single female on the sites. Here's hoping!



HELPHELPHELP!!!
I recently did tons of dances for this one guy, and we've been texting back and forth, and he is FOR SURE sugar daddy material. however, i'm pretty sure he expects sex. now, i tried to hold him off, and be like "well, i'd like to get to know you first. let's go out." he's like "i'll have eaten by that point, but i'd love to watch you eat."
how the hell do i get this to a more s.d. relationship and less...hookup relationship? I haven't done anything- trust me, i don't want to! but i would like this guy for a s.d.
how would i do that? any advice would be AMAZING!
thanks, girlies!
This guy sounds like a short stint. Doesn't mean, however, that he won't be a lucrative one.
Start hinting about reasons why you can't hang out with him. You have a phone bill, your car is broken, you don't have any cute clothes to wear, you can't hang out because you just HAVE to work because you NEED to make money for ________,etc. Just don't address the sex issue. This game is all about seeing how much you can get before he realizes that you aren't going to fuck him.
I know that sounds really cruel, but let's be honest; this game is about self-preservation. Few sugardaddies (with the exception of Aubreyyy's) actually care deeply about their SB's. Therefore, you shouldn't have to care about his issues. Just like the club. How much can you get out of him without giving him anything? It's all about the hustle.



thanks! i wanted to say that, but i knew it wouldn't sound as eloquent as that! that's exactly what i need to do. so if we go out to eat monday (i feel as tho i should meet him otc to make him realize i am willing) how should i avoid it? maybe, i have to go home, i have to catch the bus cos i don't have a car? or too much?
maybe...hmmm...i have to go to a friend's. she does my nails for a discount, i can't afford to have them done in a salon...how are those?
i'm about as graceful as a drunk elephant in a china shop, so i need step by step instructions! i'm not too great at subtlety...![]()
^ Just hang it in front of him. "Well, just like in any normal relationship, we have to spend time getting to know each other first. Let's go shopping while we talk!"
If he's clearly looking for an escort in disguise or sexually available SB, then you might not be able to get past this.
It's just like being a stripper--which can be all about subtlety. Use the same stuff you use in the club except applied to real life situations. If you aren't good at conversational subtlety, then you'd probably best stick to club work. The SD/SB stuff is a VERY tenuous kind of relationship (in many cases). You have to pretend to not want his money while simultaneously prying it from him. I found it exhausting.
Charlie, I would disagree with you and say that most Daddies don\'t want to hear about your money issues.
Desparation isn\'t a good look- and it\'ll make them think you\'ll do anything for money, and get more bang for your buck.
Obviously they know the name of the game- time is money, money is time. BUT I\'ve always been an advocate of taking care of business first, then doing NOTHING on the \"date\" to remind them that you\'re hired- preserves your longevity and to be honest will make you more money. When they forget they\'re paying you is when the money really flows- thats how to get someone to actually care for you like a friend, instead of being a stripper they\'re trying to bang.
The ultimate SD/SB relationship is close- you want to feel comfortable enough with them that you don\'t feel like its a chore, and you want them to like you enough to WANT to help you, even if that means you aren\'t having sex.
I know, its a somewhat Utopian dream, but its attainable.
^^ You're right--they don't really want to hear about it. It depends on the kind of relationship you want to have, though.
I had a guy wire me $1500 after 1 (count it, one!) phone conversation where I happened to mention I was having car problems. And this wasn't an unusual guy--I've had other SD's do similar things after I subtley mentioned that I needed money.
Now, here's where you're right: a longer relationship would likely have to be based on a much more balanced give-and-take thing. But it all depends on what you want to get out of the SD/SB experience.
Charlie,
Email me at [email protected]. I have informashunz for you![]()
^^ Not sure any information would be relevant for me. My SD/SB phase lasted 1-2 months. I got out of it really, really quickly. And I'm done (with no desire to return) with all of that. I provide information in this thread based on that fact. Any of Aubreyyy's advice, therefore, is much more reliable than mine--I'm not pretending to be an expert!
However, I did interact with a fairly high number of SD's in that short time period, on a no-sexual-contact basis....so I definitely have experience off of which to base my advice. If my advice sounds sketchy to you, then that's fine: we each have our own opinions and techniques relating to this subject.
I was going to invite you to a yahoo group b/c you\'ve offered a lot of good advice
But ok, cool!
Ah, I gotcha. I assumed that you were horrified by my naivete.![]()
No! (and I promise I\'m not random either)
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