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    Default STD: Getting tested on the regular !?

    My BF has been fooling around a little too much lately. I'm OK with that. So that's not the issue here.

    I don't mind having safe sex that much. Except when it comes to oral ... I see absolutely no idea of giving him blowjob when he is wearing a condom !!

    How do I break the news ?? It's like he really don't get it ... Maybe he isn't really enyoing me blowjobs That's a mood/killer !! Maybe he is plain out stupid !?

    Ladies ... and/or guys ... What do you do ?? Do you go check for HIV on the regular ??

    I called an HIV/Hot/Line about it. They told me chances that you get HIV from recieving an ejaluculation when you'r giving blowjob is almost non/existing ...

    Still ... It doesn't feel right ??

    I like been down and dirty But I also like to feel respected !?

    Does that make any sense ??

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    Default Re: STD: Getting tested on the regular !?

    There is nothing better than peace of mind. Go get tested. Yet again you're bringing this stress on yourself by staying with a man that has cheated on you numerous times. Given his history, those are the times you KNOW about.

    As far as being respected...you have to respect yourself to gain the respect of others.

    I get tested for HIV twice a year. I have no reason to suspect I have it. It just feels like part of a check up and its just something I do now.
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    Default Re: STD: Getting tested on the regular !?

    yes please get tested,
    and even if you use condoms, but give him head raw you can catch chylmdia and gonnorhea in your throat damaging your vocal cords, and digestive system, or even herpes on your mouth.
    a stripper with a herpes bump will not make a lot of money honey ( and he can pass herpes with no visible bumps) ( and guys often dont show signs of chlymdia or gonnorhea, so there is no way for you to tell)
    thats what flavored condoms are for. if he cant stand to be faithful, he doesnt deserve raw head. ( or any head for that matter, but thats up to you)
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    Default Re: STD: Getting tested on the regular !?

    Get tested.. but unless you're going to get the STD tests every day (who knows when he's been doing what), make him wear a condom (and a dental dam for him). Tough shit for him, you don't need any diseases. Your bf's pleasure is not worth your health or your future.
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    Default Re: STD: Getting tested on the regular !?

    is it worse the stress? ditch the guy!!!

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    Default Re: STD: Getting tested on the regular !?

    break up with him. I know you're not okay with it, you pulled a girl off of him just for kissing!

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    Quote Originally Posted by TigersMilk View Post
    There is nothing better than peace of mind. Go get tested. Yet again you're bringing this stress on yourself by staying with a man that has cheated on you numerous times. Given his history, those are the times you KNOW about.

    As far as being respected...you have to respect yourself to gain the respect of others.

    I get tested for HIV twice a year. I have no reason to suspect I have it. It just feels like part of a check up and its just something I do now.
    A couple of years ago I really fooled around but I was really anal about getting tested every month. Me doc told me getting tested twice a year was more than sufficient according to my life/style ...

    I told me BF that we need to get tested no matter what !!! He pretty much accepted and acted like it was his own idea So now we are going to get tested. A biannual BF/GF/bonding thing

    I'm 99.99999 % we are in the clear. But it is a big principle for me. I like sex !! I like fun !! I like feeling free !!

    But I also like to feeling respected and takin care off ...

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    I dont think biannual testing will make much difference if he has various sexual partners unless you guys are using protection.... or did I miss something? My brain is a bit slow this morning.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kikidejavu View Post
    yes please get tested,
    and even if you use condoms, but give him head raw you can catch chylmdia and gonnorhea in your throat damaging your vocal cords, and digestive system, or even herpes on your mouth.
    thats what flavored condoms are for. if he cant stand to be faithful, he doesnt deserve raw head.
    Couldn't agree more.

    I insist on HIV and HSV 1 & 2 testing; plus I'm regularly tested for HPV, and I share those results.
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    Default Re: STD: Getting tested on the regular !?

    that doesn't even make sense. It only takes one person to have an STD and give it to one of yall, that person could be someone who he/you has fucked before, the person you fucked the day after your biannual testing or the week before.

    If you're not having safe sex you and you're partner should be getting tested BEFORE you fool around with each other, EVERY tIME, otherwise have safe sex...

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    Default Re: STD: Getting tested on the regular !?

    Thanks all for your advices and concern !!

    Maybe I worded the situation a little wrong so allow me to correct some misunderstandings.

    It's not like we are planning him to fooling around here there everywhere all the time and being unprotected.

    He is supposed to do it only once in a while and always use protection !! When I read this it's sounds a little funny. I know

    We will still use condom for real sex regards to birth/control/issue !!

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    Default Re: STD: Getting tested on the regular !?

    i would also like to point out that getting tested does not prevent you from getting diseases. you can get tested but if he goes out and fucks someone raw the next day, then fucks you, you will be diseased and vice versa. getting tested, then stopping risky behavior is what keeps you std free.

    im starting to get pissed off because it seems like you are a dumb girl who deoesnt want to catch shit, but aren't taking precautions to make sure you don't

    stop doing dumb shit! stop doing dumb people! i feel like you will be catching something soon because you want to "feel free". im done posting because i think its a lost cause.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nini Nieb View Post
    He is supposed to do it only once in a while and always use protection !! When I read this it's sounds a little funny.
    Do you really want to compromise your health and sanity this way? It doesn't sound like it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kikidejavu View Post
    i would also like to point out that getting tested does not prevent you from getting diseases. you can get tested but if he goes out and fucks someone raw the next day, then fucks you, you will be diseased and vice versa. getting tested, then stopping risky behavior is what keeps you std free.

    im starting to get pissed off because it seems like you are a dumb girl who deoesnt want to catch shit, but aren't taking precautions to make sure you don't

    stop doing dumb shit! stop doing dumb people! i feel like you will be catching something soon because you want to "feel free". im done posting because i think its a lost cause.
    Do you have a problem w/ reading ... he goes out and fucks ... Do you have a problem w/ reading ??

    No !! I'm not !! I'm not a dumb girl !! Thank you for asking !?

    So you are done posting ?? Thanks !! I really appreciate that

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    Default Re: STD: Getting tested on the regular !?

    My advice would be to use a condom for oral, every time. And don't let him talk you out of it. No condom, no head.
    If he truly does respect you he will understand.

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    Um, so you're totally over THIS?
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    I like them large and cut. Sort of like strawberries.

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    ^Yeaaaaa... That's why I didn't even broach that part of it.
    If you think school is hard, try being stupid.

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    trolltrollttroll
    Quote Originally Posted by alessandra View Post
    I like them large and cut. Sort of like strawberries.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nini Nieb View Post
    My BF has been fooling around a little too much lately. I'm OK with that. So that's not the issue here.




    Does that make any sense ??
    So you're ok with your BF fooling around unprotected but get pissed when he kisses random girls? Do I have that right?

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    I googled HIV from blow job and struck gold at Gay Health :

    "Your mouth leads to the back of your throat, and together they are called your oropharynx. But it is so much more than a cavity to stick a penis."

    And then this gem:
    In addition to that bothersome gag reflex and hygiene, some men have difficulty performing fellatio. Sucking a penis can be psychologically troubling for many reasons. Perhaps your partner was sexually abused or assaulted in the past. Take it slow; hopefully, in time he will learn to enjoy sucking your penis. You might find that you can gently move his head further south from your lips toward your groin. Teach him to enjoy your chest and lower abdomen with his tongue (less threatening areas of your body) as he works toward your penis. Your thighs are also often less threatening than your penis. Getting a nervous partner to kiss and lick them can also help make him more willing. (It can also drive you wild.) Licking your penis is also far less nerve racking to a skittish partner than taking your entire penis into his mouth. Let him lick the shaft and head and as he relaxes he just might open his mouth.

    To answer your question, bjs are "low risk," not risk free. Go get tested, and use condoms if you are not monogamous.

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    Default Re: STD: Getting tested on the regular !?

    Yes you can get it but I have to make point...

    What can you lose from not getting tested?

    What can you lose from getting tested?


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    Quote Originally Posted by lizlizliz View Post
    trolltrollttroll
    I second that motion.

    Who cares how much you THINK you love someone? If he isn't being honest with you, why are you still with him? OMG HE'S A BIG FOOTBALLER?! OMG! WOW! Bitches amaze me.

    But, this smells of bullshittery.

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    Thanks all !! Now I got all what I need to know ...

    No more advices please !!

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