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    OK, I don't know how to put this without sounding weird. I don't like it when customers fall in love with me! I want their MONEY, not THEM. They try to force their phone number on me and I'll never call them, and they pressure me for my phone number and I don't want to give it out. I'm married, but I don't want to tell them that, because I want to prolong the fantasy that they can "get" me even though they never ever can. How do I continue to have them as customers without taking them on as boyfriends? I'm not looking for love. I'm looking for money; that's why I'm here. Help! I don't want to sound like a ... well, I don't know. There are some really nice people out there that want more than I'm willing to give. What do you ladies do in this situation?

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    1. Get an email address
    2. Make up a reason to always be busy (2nd job, school, etc)
    3.......

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    Don't take this the wrong way but it sounds like your new to dance. Welcome to the club babe. I am very prone to that happenig just stick your plan of not giving your number and be poilte it can work in your favar the keep comming back to spend. It sucks but it goes with ther terrtiory. Have fun

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    Default Re: Please don't fall in love

    No problem at all; I'm very new! Only 2 months on the scene now. I'm very open to hearing any and all advice from everyone!

    Also, I look forward to all responses, but this is my only free night this week; I work two jobs, and I won't be able to check responses until Saturday, so please don't feel as if I'm ignoring your messages. Thanks in advance!

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    Reminds me of that Tubes song, "she's a beauty." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NVm3SmyMkFU That's your new theme song.

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    This thread reminds me of the following song:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NVm3SmyMkFU

    EDIT: Doh! LuckyOne beat me by one minute!

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    Quote Originally Posted by LuckyOne View Post
    Reminds me of that Tubes song, "she's a beauty." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NVm3SmyMkFU That's your new theme song.
    Quote Originally Posted by White & Nerdy View Post
    This thread reminds me of the following song:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NVm3SmyMkFU

    EDIT: Doh! LuckyOne beat me by one minute!
    Wow. That's wierd (and funny).
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    I know a lot of people insist you should always pretend to be single. Fuck that noise. The customers who are worth your time aren't there to date you and they get the point. The ones who pressure you for your number and want to be your boyfriend never spend much anyway. I'm not saying you should chatter about your husband all night, but if they ask if you're married, there isn't a damn thing wrong with saying yes and moving on with the conversation.

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    I just tell customers who "fall in love with me" (and this is how I make most of my money) that I'll get fired if I meet a customer outside of the club. I tell them that I spend all of my weekends at the club, anyway, so if they bring up a bottle of champagne (BYO club) next weekend, they can pay about $700 and spend half an hour in the private VIP area with me. It works!

    Check your state's vice laws; you may have a really good excuse with those! You can be charged with prostitution if you meet a customer outside of the club. Different locales are more or less strict about this, and have different ways of dealing with it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LuckyOne View Post
    Reminds me of that Tubes song, "she's a beauty." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NVm3SmyMkFU That's your new theme song.
    HOLY SHIT I've never met anyone else who knows the Tubes I love white punks on dope lol!

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    Sorry, forgot to answer the op. You can't give them your phone number because you have a girlfriend. The sex is phenomenal but she's extremely jealous and she'd flip out if she found out you gave a guy your number. You share a phone.
    Last edited by LuckyOne; 04-14-2008 at 10:55 PM.

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    ^^^

    That's a good one, LuckyOne!
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    This happens. Its how guys are. I wore my wedding ring and a guy freaked out on me... I moved it to my other hand and another guy was all over it. You married? Engaged? Why the ring? Etc. I ended up just taking if off. Who the hell looks for a ring in the tittybar?

    I just tell them that I just got out of a very long, drawn out relationship and am taking a break from dating. They always relate to that and feel they can bond because we have something in common. Whatever, It works...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sarah Andi View Post
    ...I'll get fired if I meet a customer outside of the club. I tell them that I spend all of my weekends at the club, anyway, so if they bring up a bottle of champagne (BYO club) next weekend, they can pay about $700 and spend half an hour in the private VIP area with me. It works!

    Check your state's vice laws; you may have a really good excuse with those! You can be charged with prostitution if you meet a customer outside of the club. Different locales are more or less strict about this, and have different ways of dealing with it.
    Really good advice, especially about the vice laws.

    This happened to me twice last night with fairly aggressive (and one very needy) customers. I kept insisting on rules and advice I had received in interpreting those rules, and reminded them that I'm a newbie who really needs to go by the book because I love the club too much (it's true) to risk any bad behavior.
    "Don't piss off a motivated stripper."


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    In areas where there aren't a lot of Jews (most of the places I dance), when a guy asks to see me outside, I politely explain that I can only date other Jews. It usually makes for some funny conversations about how all Jewish grandmothers have mind powers and will know what their bubbelahs are up to, and somehow the guys always keep buying dances while they're giggling about my Grandma not knowing I strip.

    The point: be creative and cute about why you can't possibly see them outside, and they will spend.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Electrum View Post
    HOLY SHIT I've never met anyone else who knows the Tubes I love white punks on dope lol!
    Ahhhhhhhhhh
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jo Weldon View Post
    Ahhhhhhhhhh
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    SH: Your post isn't weird at all! There is nothing wrong with just wanting money.. that's why we go to work! It's really annoying when the conversation turns to "Do you have a boyfriend? What are you doing after work?" Usually I tell guys that we are not allowed to date or give out our numbers per the club. I tell them it's just not worth it for me to jeoparadize losing my job and not being able to pay my bills. Most guys will take the hint and stop asking or some will actually argue the fact with me. I tell them it's a small world and I run into my co-workers everywhere so I don't take customers. If you are firm about it they stop asking or move on to the next dancer.

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    Someone on this sight once suggested telling them you have a kid, and I find it works well for me. It's a great excuse as to why you NEVER have time to go out with them. One dancer says she doesn't give out her phone number because "her daugher answers her phone sometimes."It's also great for when they're trying to get you to go out with them after work- just say you have to get home because you're babysitter has to leave in half an hour.

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    Short custy POV.....

    The only way not to have some customers fall in love with you, is to be unlovable. Unfortunately, this would affect your $$$.

    I respectfully suggest that there is no magic line where you can employ a guy's emotions just enough to get him to keep coming to see you, but not enough to keep him from falling for you.

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    I agree with many of the above posts. Just be honest with the customers. I used to "beat around the bush" but now I make it clear that I am off limits. (BTW, I am single, I just have no intention of dating any customer unless I could get Lenny Kravitz to walk in). My best customers knew it was all a fantasy and were happy to keep it at that.

    And once you get good at it you will be able to change the subject of conversation almost immediately to get him to STFU about getting your number. If all else fails, simply move on to the next customers. Guys who don't STFU about that probably wouldn't spend much money anyway and are just trolling for ass or seeing how many numbers they can get to feel like "the man". After trying to explain to men like that why you can't give out your number you might have missed several dances. Time is everything in this business.

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    Never fall in love with a Stripper

    Part 1-The Encounter

    Never fall in love with a stripper son, she's sure to break your
    heart.
    You'll end up in a coiled web and soon be torn apart.
    Her beauty is amazing, her soul it shines intense, her body is a work
    of art from which there's no defense.

    She'll captivate you with desire; you'll lose your way it seems,
    Her pleasantries engulf your thoughts and permeate your dreams.
    Imagination running wild, each step she closer moves,
    Her eyes enchanting meet yours in fire; she closes on your grove.

    The sensuality extreme, the eros so sublime
    She welcomes you into her world, a fantasy in time.
    She'll placate all your questions, advise you in return,
    "You are the only one for her", your passion starts to burn.

    Enveloped by her glory, enchantedly demure,
    Anticipation takes control and spins a deadly lure.
    The club is closing quickly you realize your fate,
    You better make your move real quick; it's getting much too late.

    You've spent eight hundred dollars, perhaps a little more,
    You need two questions answered before you close the door.
    What is your real name my dear, and what pray tell your number?
    You wait for her polite reply while stifling your "hunger."

    "My real name is Vicki*, my number is right here,
    I'd love to see you real soon, from me there's none to fear"
    "I'll call you in a short time", I state in timid voice,
    "I'll take you out to dinner, and you can make the choice."



    Part 2

    Ouch

    Lunches, dinners, shopping, and times spent tenderly,
    You really feel you love this girl; she fills your heart with glee.
    You've never met a gem like this; you'll never so again,
    She's nice, she's warm, she's confident and soon you wonder when?

    When will her lips and yours first meet, when will the dream unfold?
    When will your bodies meet entwined suffice ecstatic goal?
    You need to know, you need to ask, the fever is unkempt,
    "Do I mean anything to her or should I now repent?"

    And so with courage, truth and hope you pose the query thus,
    Do I mean anything to you and what is all this fuss?
    "Do you mean anything to me? She whispers in you ear"?
    Of course you do you silly boy why else would I be here?

    "I now can pay my car loan, my boyfriend's Visa card,
    I never need go to a store, not even out my yard."
    "You're such a nice and humble guy; you've given me so much,
    And all I ever had to give was skin for you to touch.

    "I thought you knew this business, I thought you knew the game,
    There is nothing of real in this it all is very plain."
    "You mean the world to me kind man; it's ALL by my design,
    I thank you very much my dear, my little dollar sign!"

    Part 3

    Epilogue

    I still recall our moments, illusions manifold,
    and how I let my honest heart refuse to be so cold.
    I thought she really liked me, perhaps a hint of love,
    I used to think she's heaven sent, an angel from above.

    Reality is stark my friend, and sometimes hard to find.
    But one thing that I've learned from this, sweet strippers make us
    blind.
    So take my words to heart; Believe! And stop a sec to think,
    Is what you feel, the real thing, or brought on by 6 drinks.

    Have fun, enjoy, partake of life, be in control of you
    And never let a stripper in, because they are like glue.
    Never fall in love with a stripper son, she'll always break your heart
    You'll always be her ATM at whom she'll aim her dart!

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    LOL I loved that.... thanks for posting it.
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