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    Hi all, according to this thing I am new... I was on here a lot a good while back (so it must have eaten my convos lol)

    Anyway, there are two clubs locally that I go to occassionally. I am not a regular by most people's standards. I usually tip the same or a little better than the other folks sitting at the stage, and when I get my fairly infrequent lap dances I usually tip $5-$10 (laps run $20/1 song at the one place and $25 for 6 mins at the other). I don't think I am a big spender, I don't dress or look like a sugar daddy, and I am don't think I am the type that a dancer would try to take home (mainly because of what you all say on here)...

    I don't think my looks even particularly stands out. I chat a little with the girls as they dance from time to time, but am not one of those guys who dominates the dancer's time while she's on stage trying to earn her living.

    So here is the question (and I am sure you all can't give a 100% accurate response since you're not there...) A sizeable portion of the dancers (maybe 25%) recognize me (or claim to) when I go into the club. I took a 6 month hiatus (my wife was issuing forth a child and money has been a lil tight), but when I went tonight one of the dancers remembered me pretty well, she even said it had been a long ass time since she saw me last...

    I suppose that it could be an upsell technique, everyone loves to be remembered... Or do you think they legitimately remember me... and further if they legitimately remember me, why do you think they do?

    I've worked in retail and other customer service operations... so in my world, remembering a client is usually a bad thing (the normal people tend to be forgettable, we remember the a-holes and the really kick ass people...)

    Any ideas? or am I just clueless?? lol How often do you remember custys? And why?

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    I think a lot of what you are asking depends on the club. for instance, if it is a very small club where a lot of the customers are regulars, and you come in only occasionally, maybe they remember you because you're NOT a regular.
    Honestly to me it sounds like the clubs might just be small. I remember when I was working in a smaller club that got less foot traffic, I'd remember people just because there were less of them to remember.
    Or, honestly, sometimes our memories are quite random...

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    LOL well the one is small the other one is Al's diamond cabaret in reading... not that small who knows. I like it, tho lol

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    I try hard to remember custies and when I do, I always tell them so they feel special and spend more on me.

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    Well, yeah.... what else would them remembering me mean other than that they remember me??

    I wasn't asking what it meant... sorry if it was unclear. I believe the question was WHY?

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    I sometimes recognise customers i have danced for only one time. I just have a good memory. There is no hidden meaning to it. Esp if the guy was respectful and I got along with him well. Then I am glad to see him back in the club again.
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    I never forget a face. I even rememebered a custie from my old club that I danced at years ago. Some people are just good with faces.

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    I'm really good with faces. I always remember people.


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    I've been floored, often, by how well dancers remember my details, even if I haven't been in their club for months and months. I appreciate this (do they use contact software back in the dressing room, I wonder?) but I've never taken it to mean more than excellent salesmanship. That said, it does the trick and they definitely make more money off of me than they would otherwise.

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    Why would anyone remember you? This doesn't seem like a stripper-specific question.

    Some people don't remember me...some remember me because I do have a pretty unique look, for better or worse (big and bald -- about 6'2" 260 with a head like Charlie Brown's) -- and others just remember me.

    This applies to anybody I meet though...not just strippers.

    Maybe they remember you because you're super-attractive! (Or, super-ugly). Or were a great spender. (Or, a super-cheapskate).

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    Of course we remember our customers. Six months is nothing as far as an absence from the club.

    I'm more amazed when teachers remember their elementary students years and years later.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris View Post
    I'm more amazed when elementary teachers remember their students years and years later.
    Its easy for elementary teachers to remember names. They get 25 students per year. HS teachers get 130 at any one time and it changes constantly. I forget some students' names over vacations. But that's alright, because they generally only know me as Mister. That being said a couple of dancers who were former students recognized me in the club in the last year. I did not recognize them at all, though only one was ever actually a student of mine. And before anyone asks, "no, of course i did njot dance with either of them". Though one did ask, I just paid her tip out for her.
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    I recognize custumers after a long time too, just because I just remember them. Even though I have lots of converstions with lots of custumers. They are still individuals. That's not to say that there are sometimes that I do forget.

    Main Point------> If your worried about me recognizing you in public, I probably will, but I won't call you out. I might not even make eye contact with you.

    p.s. One of my custumers who come monthly wont get dances unless I pass his verbal quiz prooving that I remeber him and what's he about
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    I generally don't remember a customer if his last visit was more than a week or two prior. That is, of course, unless I consider it in my best interest to remember details (i.e. he spends an absurd amount of money). The guys who buy one or two dances I'll forget by the end of the shift.

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    Thanks for the responses

    My main point I suppose was that in customer service the people I remembered were usually because they were idiots, or because they were awesome to work with. Since I find it hard to believe that they wouldn't just avoid me if I was an idiot. And I don't think I stand out enough to be an awesome customer.

    I guess it just boils down like some of u said, that they have good memories for faces.

    Oh and brain synapses, lol.

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    It is a club.

    Much like in a normal bar, there will be people who recognize you when you come in even if your visits are infrequent and you do not do much to stand out from the crowd. It is just how bars and clubs work. Plus it is good business for dancers to remember customers since it makes the customer feel special, etc etc etc ... so it is really just the club dynamic plus good business etiquette working together.

    Or something.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HunterMaestro View Post
    LOL well the one is small the other one is Al's diamond cabaret in reading... not that small who knows. I like it, tho lol
    I know Al's, spent early life in Reading, went back once and gav Al's a shot with some old friends. Not bad, especially for Reading.

    As to you other question, it's a business, it pays to remember the customers. Who doesn't want to have a hot stripper, (who you probably remember for sure) plop down in your lap and say "hey been a few months!". For the most part they try and remember you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bem401 View Post
    Its easy for elementary teachers to remember names. They get 25 students per year. HS teachers get 130 at any one time and it changes constantly. I forget some students' names over vacations. But that's alright, because they generally only know me as Mister. That being said a couple of dancers who were former students recognized me in the club in the last year. I did not recognize them at all, though only one was ever actually a student of mine. And before anyone asks, "no, of course i did njot dance with either of them". Though one did ask, I just paid her tip out for her.
    I dont think there would be anything wrong if you did. I would be laughing my ass off to dance for a teacher from my HS, haha!

    But good point about the name things...
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    I remember a lot of peoples' faces. I'll have customers that come in like once a year and I recognize them.
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    Quote Originally Posted by HunterMaestro View Post
    Hi all, according to this thing I am new... I was on here a lot a good while back (so it must have eaten my convos lol)

    Anyway, there are two clubs locally that I go to occassionally. I am not a regular by most people's standards. I usually tip the same or a little better than the other folks sitting at the stage, and when I get my fairly infrequent lap dances I usually tip $5-$10 (laps run $20/1 song at the one place and $25 for 6 mins at the other). I don't think I am a big spender, I don't dress or look like a sugar daddy, and I am don't think I am the type that a dancer would try to take home (mainly because of what you all say on here)...

    I don't think my looks even particularly stands out. I chat a little with the girls as they dance from time to time, but am not one of those guys who dominates the dancer's time while she's on stage trying to earn her living.

    So here is the question (and I am sure you all can't give a 100% accurate response since you're not there...) A sizeable portion of the dancers (maybe 25%) recognize me (or claim to) when I go into the club. I took a 6 month hiatus (my wife was issuing forth a child and money has been a lil tight), but when I went tonight one of the dancers remembered me pretty well, she even said it had been a long ass time since she saw me last...

    I suppose that it could be an upsell technique, everyone loves to be remembered... Or do you think they legitimately remember me... and further if they legitimately remember me, why do you think they do?

    I've worked in retail and other customer service operations... so in my world, remembering a client is usually a bad thing (the normal people tend to be forgettable, we remember the a-holes and the really kick ass people...)

    Any ideas? or am I just clueless?? lol How often do you remember custys? And why?

    Thanks!
    It behooves a dancer to remember a face and some details to go with it.



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    Quote Originally Posted by VegasPrincess View Post
    I dont think there would be anything wrong if you did. I would be laughing my ass off to dance for a teacher from my HS, haha!

    But good point about the name things...
    Its not always easy to separate them from the 14 or 15 yr old HS girl I remember. I don't think there is anything wrong with it but it just wouldn't work for me. I know other teachers who have done dances with former students and they seemed OK with it. It was easy for me to pass on it anyways because I didn't find any of these girls particularly attractive to begin with.
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    It's good business to remember customers. I know that whenever a dancer has remembered my name it's been an instant tip.

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