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    So last nite at work I got a dance with this younger guy, maybe 18-21.

    He was all over me-extremely handsy which in my club isn't really allowed. I'm talking all over my breasts, all over my pussy, as much as he could-and actively resisting me holding his hands and such. So I back off and end the dance.

    But I asked him a question that I don't normally ask guys. I asked "do you treat all girls like this?" He says no, he doesnt. THen I ask him what makes him think he can treat me like a whore. He says because I'm so pretty he can't help himself. I say "so because I'm pretty it entitles you to violate the laws and my body?" He's like but you work at a strip club getting naked all night so...

    So because I work at a stip club automatically that means you can touch me anyway you so please? The logic some guys come at you with...

    Just wanted to share. Not really going anywhere with this but needed to get it off my chest.
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    There's nothing really logical about man logic. It all comes from their boner, which prevents them from thinking straight and acting respectfully. Young guys are among the worst, he was trying to "get his money's worth". You probably took his entire gas allowance for the week off of that single dance.

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    Kudos for confronting him about it and making him think about his inappropriate behavior.
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    Good for calling him out on it!! I agree. I don't care even care if you ARE a whore (not you specifically, you know what I mean) that STILL doesn't give anybody the right to touch you in a way you don't want to be touched.
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    I see and agree with you point - like fervently. But even if you are a "whore" you still get to consent and not consent.
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    He's a misogynist pig.

    And don't buy that "my penis made me do it" crap. That's crap. At no point does a healthy person's erotic response outweigh his/her rationality.

    Those guys simply have no respect for women, especially "deviant" women. And those are the first ones to call us deviants, too.

    How would they feel if someone did this kind of thing to their wife/girlfriend/mother/sister/? They think that because we're "bad girls" they can treat us however they want.

    Mad kudos to you for shutting him down. I would have had him bounced tout de suite.

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    It's called the Madonna Whore complex. Google it.

    Many men cannot psychologically handle having a sexual woman as a partner, so they chose a chaste woman for a wife. When they are not sexually satisfied with their madonna at home, they look for a "whore" to let out their horndogginess on.
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    ^^^^Yeeeeeeup.

    And guess who we get to be?

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    I read somewhere that as a woman you can either choose freedom OR respect and protection. "Whores" get freedom, but no respect or protection.

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    Freedom!! Plus.. I respect myself, and my glock is damn good protection..and I don't have to stroke it's umm, ego.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    I see and agree with you point - like fervently. But even if you are a "whore" you still get to consent and not consent.
    Yup. Even a whore can be raped. He didn't treat you like a whore. He treated you like you weren't human.


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    I love the way you called him out. These are some of my favorite moments in the club---when you're kinda like, "Ok...snap out of the fantasy just for a second and take a look at yourself." I never bother with the truly, disgustingly beyond help ones. But occasionally I'll take a moment like this with a guy and it's crazy to watch their heads explode. Like, "Wow, you're a real person and I'm abusing you." I think I've actually inspired thought and self-reflection in these strange little spaces.

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    For some reason Ive been coming across this alot this week at my home club, Im moving on to another club because the girls that are new at this club are very "open" to this kind of attention from these guys. I refuse to put up with that, I'm a dancer..not a whore or a toy.

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    Yeah I understand how frustrating that is. Some asshole every weekend asks me if his bachelor can get a blow job or something like that. Even worse they ask me if I will have sex for X amount. It's more insulting because they offer me like $100!! It doesn't matter what they would offer but at least piss me off with a big offer. Fuckers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by britneyireland View Post
    It's called the Madonna Whore complex. Google it.

    Many men cannot psychologically handle having a sexual woman as a partner, so they chose a chaste woman for a wife. When they are not sexually satisfied with their madonna at home, they look for a "whore" to let out their horndogginess on.
    Fascinating stuff!!

    Im off to google.

    As for the respect part (in another post), I dont think the chaste woman gets it either. How can cheating on her be respecting her? Also, when Iv been the `other woman` , Iv found I get a bit more respect than the g/f as he feels he can tell me stuff he cant tell her.

    Anyway, just thoughts...
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    ^^^ That's one of the many problems of essentializing female sexuality: it creates two dichotomous categories, neither of which recognize or respect the humanity of the women assigned (sometimes arbitrarily) to either group.

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    Which brings us back to the fact that all women are actually multi-faceted , and that we should stay away from men who have no respect for themselves first and foremost.

    I read the Madonna/Whore Complex explaniations on Urban Dictionary, and I know quite a few men who live by this theory to the letter!! Shocking!
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    Quote Originally Posted by la429 View Post
    Yeah I understand how frustrating that is. Some asshole every weekend asks me if his bachelor can get a blow job or something like that. Even worse they ask me if I will have sex for X amount. It's more insulting because they offer me like $100!! It doesn't matter what they would offer but at least piss me off with a big offer. Fuckers.
    haha i feel the same way about that. i mean, damn, if you're going to imply that i'm a prostitute, please at least imply that i'm not a cheap one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Darcy Foxx View Post
    haha i feel the same way about that. i mean, damn, if you're going to imply that i'm a prostitute, please at least imply that i'm not a cheap one.
    Hahaha, I just love the way you worded this one.


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    What a stupid little cunt. Im glad u ended the dance there is no need for any dancers to have to fight a guys hands off the whole dance and just put up with that shit.

    I got told by this little shit last night "oh you're really up tight about the no touching aren't you?" to which i replied "yeh no touching means no touching it's that simple do you understand?".

    I used to work with a dancer who, if a guy touched her boobs or ass she would slap them across the face and scream "don't fucking touch me". It worked really well for her. The guys would end up apologising the whole rest of the dance. One guy said "im so sorry i feel like such a cunt".

    Politely saying "no touching" just doesn't seem to work on the majority of men. Personally i wouldn't slap anyone as I dont want to get hit back or be charged with assaulting someone but I don't politely say no touching anymore I yell at them and it works.
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    ^^^ I just pin them down.

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    we've been having this problem more and more lately and like said above the newer/younger dancers accept it possibly because they don't know they can stop the dance and still collect. in the club i work in we don't have a VIP area just a few couches for LDs and its pretty much out in the open so me and the other guys can watch whats going on pretty close. when we see a dancer cant control a customer we remove him after making him pay for the inappropriateness he has caused and to apologize. unfortunately because we get so many people on any given night we cant ban any certain person but there are a few who under not circumstance are to be let back in. of course your gonna get some liquored up goober whose gonna want to touch you, if he complies when you politely say to stop the dance continues, if not we stop it and make sure he learns a lesson. unfortunately its thru his wallet and not with a good old fashion ass whooping.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AznExtasy View Post
    You probably took his entire gas allowance for the week off of that single dance.
    That's hilarious!

    Good for you for calling him out. I hope you made him feel like the douche he is.

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    he ended up buying another dance with an older dancer who is new to the club. he came out of the dance lounge looking VEERRYY satisfied with the services she probably provided.
    strippers like that make me mad. if you're going to prostitute, do it outside the club or go to nevada where it's legal. jeesh...
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    Quote Originally Posted by papillonluvr View Post
    ..So because I work at a stip club automatically that means you can touch me anyway you so please? ...
    That's the infuriating consensus I've reached through all my customer contact in the club.

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