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    How do you handle depression at work? I get depressed when guys are rude to me or when I get a ton of rejection. I don't take the rejection personally but I get upset because I need money, I'm trying hard and I'm not making it. Usually I do pretty well but Sunday was brutal.

    Also, I have started "visualizing" my income on the way to work and I find this is making me more depressed if that income doesn't happen.

    Any suggestions?

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    It can be hard. I usually go to the dressing room, bitch about it to the other girls and then have a laugh about the asshole(s) and then go back on the floor.

    Do u have other nice girls at work who u can do this with? usually most dancers can empathise coz we have all had our share of asshole custies. alternatively you could be a bitch back to the guy, that always gives me satisfaction

    I think a positive outlook is good. So tell yourself that u are gonna make X amount of dollars tonight. If it doesn't happen don't internalise it - it may be external factors - the club might have been quiet, tough crowd, too many girls on. But don't think things like it's you coz no one wants a dance from u etc. thinking of it like that is depressing.
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    When they are rude or reject me I think it must be something out of my control, and move on. Getting depressed doesn't do anything but spoil you for other customers who WILL like you. Just move on, smile and forget it.

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    I'm not sure what to say, except that I struggle with this too. I've always had anxiety and been shy, but for the last 6 months I have been severely depressed because of my life outside of work. Dancing is still my best way to escape and be happy for a moment, but I am not doing well at LOOKING like I'm happy. I thought I was trying so hard to look pleasant at all times, and then last week the floor host came to me and said "what's wrong? what happened?" so I now suspect that this is effecting my money.

    It's especially hard because it is dead in the club right now, day and night, so I don't have much to distract me...

    Just remember that when you get rejected, there is nothing wrong with YOU, there is something wrong with THEM!

    Don't make money goals, make behavior goals, like trying a new hustle or making sure you use a certain strategy on everyone you talk to, because this is something you can control.

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    When I get rejected over and over again, I sit with one of the regulars (the guys who are always there, always tip at stage but don't normally buy dances but knows all the girls) and talk and vent to them for 10 minutes and then try to make rounds again.

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