So I returned to dancing after an almost 9 year hiatus last week and after two shifts I realized I just couldn't do it anymore. I don't have anyone in my life right now that I can talk to about this so here I am. (There's the boyfriend or a select *few* girlfriends that are really baffled by the industry in general, so...)
I took my costumes and shoes out of storage and washed 'em. I was super nervous at first and shocked that I couldn't immediately walk in my heels (!!) but it didn't take long for my body to just click back into place and remember everything very vividly and with ease. In less than an hour, I had everything down pat and had completely forgotten that I had even stopped.
I came back because I thought I could make some quick money but I found the stakes were just too high. Things are just...well...different. While I harbor absolutely no judgment on any women there or anywhere on what they do, I couldn't personally get to the point where I was comfortable.
When I used to dance, there were places I worked in the Northeast that you could seriously bank and grinding was strictly forbidden. You got close to them and all, you put your tits on them, got between their legs, but it wasn't really full on grinding. And you didn't have to FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT to keep their hands off you! (Plus the tipout was $20 or they would pay YOU and you just had to tip the dj. And house moms were not as common.)
You just didn't have to work that hard.
I mean, yeah, I know, things were different before me, too. But back then it seemed "nearly" enough to be an incredibly sexy chick who had hot moves and knew how to make a customer feel special. I haven't worked in a ton of places other than in the NE and Florida, but it's obvious to me from this experience and from other threads on this board that this is the new direction of the work. And it's also obvious to see how this leads to extras, everywhere.
I don't want to go on and on about this because I think its a pretty common lament. I guess I just want to figure out how this happens, or maybe more, how does this make sense? Like, why do these men pay oodles and oodles of money to go into the VIP where they want you do shit that you don't want to do as a dancer when they could go to a prostitute and get what they want for possibly much less? (I don't claim to know anything about that, I am just imagining...) The original concept of the VIP is that the guy wants to hang out with the girl more privately to drink, talk and dance for a long time, not in front of the whole club. Maybe that's sounds totally Pollyanna of me, but that's what used to happen!!!
I don't know. I feel mildly devastated by this, but glad I could figure it out quickly. Anyone want to weigh in?



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) I was also really surprised to find out at this place, you make literally *zero* money on stage. I remember coming off stage back in the day with so many singles, you had to carry a big purse.

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