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    The new club I'm at is very strict. You have to follow the rules perfectly or you get told off, for every little thing. There are also unwritten rules regarding tipping. When I first got there, the DJ went over all the rules with me, and I haven't broken any except for ONCE I was a minute late to stage because they were doing a bachelor party and I didn't know if I went on the back stage while they were doing it or waited until it was over- understandable.

    The tipouts at the club are as follows- House- 10 dollars. DJ- 10 minimum Bouncers- 5 minimum each. The DJ does a lot of stuff for me, he plays me rock music, he gets me water, he exchanges all my 1's for larger bills, and he's a generally nice guy, so I tip him minimum 20, but have tipped him up to 40 dollars depending how much I made. The bouncers carry my bag (a small reusable grocery bag) and make sure the guys are in line. They're really nice and attentive. I always tip them at least 10 dollars, maybe 7 or 8 if I didn't make so much. On Friday and Saturday nights there are 3 bouncers, so you have to tip out three times as much. If you tip the minimum, or in my case, twice the minimum, apparently that's the wrong thing to do.

    Tipping twice the minimum isn't good enough?? This dancer has talked to me twice about tipping the bouncers and dj's because she says that whenever management has a problem they go to her to tell the new dancers so they know. She said she would tip the bouncers minimum 15 dollars a piece (3 of them), but usually 20 (60 dollars total) and the DJ at least 40 when she makes over 500 dollars. That just seems a little high to me. I think that tip outs should be 10 percent of your total earnings, not 20 percent! Is tipping out 100 dollars the norm?? On top of that she told me that I should tip out the waitresses and barstaff, even though I don't drink. The only thing that barstaff does is give me my ID back at the end of the night, and the waitress does occasionally get me a bottle of water, and i always give her a dollar or two for that.

    Am I being unreasonable?? This dancer tell me I gotta "hook it up"... but I just think that me tipping out 10 dollars minimum to the bouncers, and 20 minimum to the DJ should suffice.. right? It's twice the real rules minimum, and when I have a really good night of course I'll tip more.

    tonight I made 527 dollars and went home with 420.

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    I think that's BS and I don't know if i'd listen to that dancer. It sounds a little fishy that management would have a dancer relay issues to other dancers. Also if they have a minimum they shouldn't bitch when you tip minimum, and I WOULD NEVER tip out 100 out of 500, maybe 50-70 depending on what each person does. Stick with what you were doing that sounds generous enough.
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    ^I agree. Why would management be telling this other dancer to tell you? Keep doing what you're doing, which is already very generous, and if management really do have a problem, let them come to you.

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    NO way. That is just plain greedy or fucked up on somebody's part. When I make $500, I tip out the DJ $20-30 (minimum is 10) and a housemom tip of $15-20 (minimum is 15). Total $35-50 in tips and that is ENOUGH. There is NO WAY you should make 527 dollars and go home tipping out almost $100 (minus your housefee that is). I'm sorry but that is BULLSHIT.

    Yes, its nice to tip, but its greedy on their part to expect that much, 3 TIMES as much as minimum. Like in the movie Office Space...."If you want me to wear 30 pieces of flair, then why don't you make the minimum 30 instead of 15?"

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    Oh hell no.

    If the DJ told you how much to tip him has a problem with how much you're tipping him, I'm pretty sure he'd say something. Not some girl who's apparently way too nosy! Why the crap would management know how much you're tipping? Why would they tell someone else? Smells fishy.

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    This girl is not your boss

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    Why don't you ask management directly and see what they say? You already act like this club has you over a barrel because it's the only one where you want to work; maybe the greed is part of that, where they extort tips for that very reason. So, perhaps they talk you down to management if you're not coughing up the cash. If you ask straight up about this, at least they know what the deal is.

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    There is no management to talk to- the manager only comes in occasionally and I've never gotten the chance to talk to him because I can't be on the floor and he's always on the floor at the bar talking to the customers/bouncers.

    If i was making 800-1000/night and the bouncers and DJ were going above and beyond, tipping 100 total out of that might make sense.

    But if I'm making 300/night, tipping 100 total is UNFAIR.

    Either this girl is lying to me about how much I should tip, or she is making a ton more than I am- but i don't see how this can be true because she doesn't do that many dances offstage, and the stage tips seem pretty much the same for everybody, give or take 10-20 dollars at most. Sometimes I feel like I'm making more than the other girls because I'm doing a lot of dances in between sets, and always come back to the dressing room with piles of ones and they stare at me or make comments like "wow, you're really banking tonight" or stuff like that.

    So I'm tipping 20 minimum to the DJ like I've been doing, on nights when there is one bouncer I'll tip 15, on nights when there are 2 I'll tip 12 each, and on nights when there are 3 i'll tip 12 each as well. I also have to pay 26 roundtrip for taxi, so if I tip out the bouncer each 15 dollars and the DJ 20 on a friday night, I'm giving out 91 dollars!

    Idk... what would you guys tip if you made 150?? 300?? 500?? 800??

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    Default Re: Question about tipping.

    If I made 150 I'd tip 15. 300 I'd tip 40. 500 I'd tip 100. 800 I'd tip 150. 1000 I'd tip 200. Total to everyone.


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    You know, it's really relative. I agree that for Portland, tipping a third of what you make is out of line. If I make $300 before fees at the D2, for instance, and I then pay a $25 house fee, I'm not tipping another $75 out to the staff. More like another $30-$40. Generally, I don't expect to pay out more than 20% of my gross in this town. In other cities and clubs, paying out a third (or more) is commonplace. I do not care for those kinds of clubs, though.

    Perhaps talk to some of the other dancers and ask? Honestly, I would go straight to the staff and ask them, because I'm blunt like that. "Are you unhappy with what I'm tipping you?" Hah.

    Anyhow, there might already be an accepted way of doing things at that club, so whether or not we think it's cool or jibes with where we work has little bearing on the situation. Hopefully you can find out if you're being messed with or if everyone really does expect bigger tips. Many of us have worked in clubs where totally undeserving managers or DJs expect big tips and will make you miserable if you don't take care of them, so you're basically paying protection money.

    I am skeptical about staff going through a dancer. That sounds more like one malcontent using his buddy to try to get you to pony up.

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    Sounds like she's friendly with staff and trying to get you to pay more outta your pocket to keep on good terms with them/screw you over.
    I wouldn't listen to her. If it's that big of a deal then the manager or DJ or housemom (if you have one, I dont) will speak with you. That's how it is at my club. I take every word out of my coworkers mouth with a grain of salt.
    That said, I'm sure I'm on the low side of tipping. However, I know that the people working at my club are making good money with their paychecks. I tip the DJ nearly everynight. It is not expected and once a DJ demanded I tip him because I was doing well (asshat wait till I'm done doing dances at least..I'll tip you if you don't beg for it) and he got an earful. He is now SUPER nice to me if I tip, or trys to give it back.
    I only tip the barstaff if they're getting me drinks. Doesn't matter what it is I'll tip. Last night I tipped $2 for a free cup of ice water.
    The bouncers only get tipped if they're helping me. A lot of times they're fucking around. But, if I have a problem and it's taken care of appropriately and promptly and/or they lead me to paying custies I will tip.
    I gather no one tips the bouncers. I've never seen it happen, and when I did it the first time he didn't want it. He was just doing his job he said, and was already getting a paycheck. I told him if someone hands you money never deny it. Since then he is very protective of me with customers. A person as much looks at me wrong and he's got his watchful eye out for me.

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