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    Thank you Jaizaine, i appreciate that , and how it happened was i was straddling him and i took my eyes off him for a second (i like to look at myself in the mirrors above the l.d. couches lol) and i felt something that i thought were his fingers and i jumped off & to my horror i realized it wasnt his fingers...
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    im really disappointed with the posts that are scrutinising her about how it could have happened. FUCK. dancers are in a vulnerable position. i work at a nude club and even if she doesn't how is a little g-string supposed to protect a dancer?

    anyway its besides the fucking point how it happened.
    I think people analyze it this way because it means that she had some control over the situation. I don't think they are trying to imply that she is lying or that it is her fault, but trying to construct a situation where if they are careful enough and vigilant enough it won't happen to them.
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    ^ thanks Jenny, I really couldn't imagine it in my head and I was concerned because I didn't even understand that this is a danger at work. LIke, I didn't know that it is something I need to be worried about.

    And, with you in the straddling position I can now totally understand how it happened. I was just picturing a different scenario, we have a one foot on the floor rule in my town, so I couldn't figure it out. Sorry to be insensitive though.

    I would feel so fucking awfull if a customer did that to me! I am really sorry that happened. Have you been back to work since?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    I think people analyze it this way because it means that she had some control over the situation. I don't think they are trying to imply that she is lying or that it is her fault, but trying to construct a situation where if they are careful enough and vigilant enough it won't happen to them.
    exactly. I guess also, no matter how wet i am it is impossible thus far for a man to penetrate me with clothing of any sort on. It just didn't make sense in my situation i guess. I am sorry this happened to you. I will be extra careful at work because of this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by head turner View Post
    exactly. I guess also, no matter how wet i am it is impossible thus far for a man to penetrate me with clothing of any sort on.
    You are thinking of this in terms of a consensual situation where the guy is trying not to hurt you. How do u think children get raped? If a man wants to rape a woman he will be able to penetrate her, even if it means tearing her up.

    I am glad this will lead others to be more careful at work.

    Shelleybelly it's perfectly understandable that u acted the way u did. of course u would be in shock, its not something u would expect to happen.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    You are thinking of this in terms of a consensual situation where the guy is trying not to hurt you. How do u think children get raped? If a man wants to rape a woman he will be able to penetrate her, even if it means tearing her up.

    I am glad this will lead others to be more careful at work.

    Shelleybelly it's perfectly understandable that u acted the way u did. of course u would be in shock, its not something u would expect to happen.
    i hope this guy gets what is coming to him.

    FOR ME, one swift move is not gonna do it. I AM NOT SAYING FOR SOMEONE ELSE. I am into rough sex and when i am grinding on my man there is no way (thus far) he was able to penetrate me in MY SITUATION.

    Chrildren get raped in one swift movement? Wait, what- that argument doesn't even pertain to this situation. If a child gets raped it is probably not with their underwear on, they are probably not dancing for customers, they are not given one swift movement to "get it in." Let me count the ways that argument doesn't make sense.

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    Quote Originally Posted by head turner View Post
    FOR ME, one swift move is not gonna do it. I AM NOT SAYING FOR SOMEONE ELSE. I am into rough sex and when i am grinding on my man there is no way (thus far) he was able to penetrate me in MY SITUATION.

    Chrildren get raped in one swift movement? Wait, what- that argument doesn't even pertain to this situation. If a child gets raped it is probably not with their underwear on, they are probably not dancing for customers, they are not given one swift movement to "get it in." Let me count the ways that argument doesn't make sense.
    The point is that some tool raped the OP. Not how you think it could/could not have happened. You weren't there. Jaiz wasn't there. The OP was there. This isn't freaking CSI, we don't need to prove or disprove her story .

    I'm sorry this happned to you Shellybelly.

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    jesus, I'm sorry that happened! Is there any way to still get his ID from a credit card receipt or anything?

    What I wonder is why that guy felt so comfortable to rape someone in such a public situation. I wonder if he's gotten an extra-extra before, and if on some level he doesn't even see it as rape, but just an extra level of the job that a dancer may or may not be willing to perform?

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    Quote Originally Posted by RoseLeigh View Post
    The point is that some tool raped the OP. Not how you think it could/could not have happened. You weren't there. Jaiz wasn't there. The OP was there. This isn't freaking CSI, we don't need to prove or disprove her story .

    I'm sorry this happned to you Shellybelly.

    I was done with it and said it sucks that it happened. The inconsistancy here is that I was under the impression from the first couple of posts that the girl got raped through her underwear when in fact he quickly pulled them to the side. An unlikely scenerio for me maybe because i have a very fast reaction to things but could happen, esp to another person.

    And for that, it sucks really bad am i am sorry for her and like i said i will be more careful at work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lilah29 View Post
    jesus, I'm sorry that happened! Is there any way to still get his ID from a credit card receipt or anything?

    What I wonder is why that guy felt so comfortable to rape someone in such a public situation. I wonder if he's gotten an extra-extra before, and if on some level he doesn't even see it as rape, but just an extra level of the job that a dancer may or may not be willing to perform?
    Who cares what he's thinking...he's obviously a pig. Everyone knows that you don't pull out your naked penis and stick it in some random girl.

    If he didn't see what he was doing as wrong though, he may come back into the club. Do you think you could recognize him if he came back in?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lilah29 View Post
    jesus, I'm sorry that happened! Is there any way to still get his ID from a credit card receipt or anything?

    What I wonder is why that guy felt so comfortable to rape someone in such a public situation. I wonder if he's gotten an extra-extra before, and if on some level he doesn't even see it as rape, but just an extra level of the job that a dancer may or may not be willing to perform?

    yea, no doubt it wasn't handled well, if at all by her managers. Why is that?
    It should be reported to the police asap. Camera's in the club should be somewhat sufficient and possibly reciepts. There are still laws in place for sexworkers. Nobody deserves this.

    Lots of victims never report stuff like this, but I think Shelly would feel horrible if it happened to another girl in the very near future. Picture the next victim has a sister, wife, cousin. That should do it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Joplin View Post
    Who cares what he's thinking...
    This is why:

    If he didn't see what he was doing as wrong though, he may come back into the club.
    Or any club. It would mean other strippers may be in danger by this guy.

    This isn't exactly the same, but...I read a study once where a lot of guys who are true "date rapists" - having sex with a known woman he's out with against her will - really did believe that the woman wanted it, and that it wasn't really rape, because the guy's sexuality had formed in such a way that force was just a natural part of sex for him, and what's supposed to happen. It's scary.

    There's a kind of porn that shows women enjoying rape, and I think it's putting women at risk more than we know.

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    I see your point but from an emotional POV if I wrote a post about being raped and looking for support, I really wouldn't want to hear justifications (even though they aren't okay) on why he did it. Getting raped was already all about him, a thread where the victim is trying to seek support shouldn't become all about him too.

    I'm not trying to be a bitch to you, and if I was watching a T.V. show about it I would want to know too, but when the victim is here I don't think it's appropriate. I know thats the LAST thing I'd want to be talking about when something similar happened to me. I guess I'm just being over protective and trying to assert some form of damage control.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ShellyBElly View Post
    okay soooooooo the ironic thing about this is this is one of the very few days i chose to be SOBER at work, so all those remarks about me being intoxicated are NOT needed......i had my bottoms on and OBVIOSLY it isnt impossible to get rapped with them on CUZ IT HAPPENED TO ME! but thank you for that ignorant comment, like one of u ladies said, it takes only a second to move those to the side & the reason management didnt call the cops was because i walked up to the doorman sobbing and the only thing i told him was "that guy whipped out his dick" and RIGHT away he ran after him, both he & the manager had a talk with me in the back after it happened and i told them the whole story and the manager was just like "oh damn, i didnt know he put it in blablabla" so obviously its my fault for not tellin the floorman right away but i was just in shock
    I understand being in shock. There was one time a man asked me to suck his penis for $100 dollars on my college campus and I was so fucking shocked that all I could think about was getting home without this creep following me. I didn't even think that the fucking cop shop was right across from me in the next building!?!? I was in fucking shock, and I wasn't even raped in this situation. Shock will do this to you. It isn't your fault! It's the flight or fight response and it's just something your body does in a situation where it feels your life is in danger. I ended up reporting the creep a week later once I was back on campus and had my head on straight.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Joplin View Post
    I see your point but from an emotional POV if I wrote a post about being raped and looking for support, I really wouldn't want to hear justifications (even though they aren't okay) on why he did it. Getting raped was already all about him, a thread where the victim is trying to seek support shouldn't become all about him too.

    I'm not trying to be a bitch to you, and if I was watching a T.V. show about it I would want to know too, but when the victim is here I don't think it's appropriate. I know thats the LAST thing I'd want to be talking about when something similar happened to me. I guess I'm just being over protective and trying to assert some form of damage control.
    Yeah, I think you're right. Sorry.

    Shelly - sorry this happened to you

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    Quote Originally Posted by head turner View Post
    FOR ME, one swift move is not gonna do it. I AM NOT SAYING FOR SOMEONE ELSE. I am into rough sex and when i am grinding on my man there is no way (thus far) he was able to penetrate me in MY SITUATION.

    Chrildren get raped in one swift movement? Wait, what- that argument doesn't even pertain to this situation. If a child gets raped it is probably not with their underwear on, they are probably not dancing for customers, they are not given one swift movement to "get it in." Let me count the ways that argument doesn't make sense.
    My point was you are no more immune to being raped that anyone else. Just because u think even if u are wet u r not gonna be able to be penetrated....that doesnt make sense. the reason i mentioned the child is because obviously a child is not going to be wet, they are virgins yet they can be penetrated by a rapest. No one is immune to being raped if the guy is determined.

    Anyway as Roseleigh mentioned it doesn't matter whether u are skeptical as to how this happened, this thread is not about u. Im out as I think it's insulting to the OP to argue the issue.
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    holy shit... i'm so very sorry. i understand how you feel- i have had this happen to me (though he didn't succeed) as well. fucking shitty feeling. i hope you heal & do what you feel it'll take to recover.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    I think people analyze it this way because it means that she had some control over the situation. I don't think they are trying to imply that she is lying or that it is her fault, but trying to construct a situation where if they are careful enough and vigilant enough it won't happen to them.
    The only reason I was wondering how it happened was to avoid it myself. She certainly is not at fault. Thank you Jenny and jizaine.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    My point was you are no more immune to being raped that anyone else. Just because u think even if u are wet u r not gonna be able to be penetrated....that doesnt make sense. the reason i mentioned the child is because obviously a child is not going to be wet, they are virgins yet they can be penetrated by a rapest. No one is immune to being raped if the guy is determined.

    Anyway as Roseleigh mentioned it doesn't matter whether u are skeptical as to how this happened, this thread is not about u. Im out as I think it's insulting to the OP to argue the issue.

    Your point was executed poorly but if that was what you meant your point to be then i must say it still doesn't prove anything about what i was trying to say.

    The likelyhood of me being penetrated by a rapist in one swift move WHILE WEARING UNDERWEAR is unlikely given MY OWN circustances. Twice, three times a movement the likelyhood is far greater. I am not immune to rape, that statement is a laughing matter.

    I never made this thread about me. When rape situations arrise that you hear about you put yourself in this other person's shoes since we are all dancers. I couldn't do that in order to portray sympathy but given the NEW CIRCUMSTANCES of which Shelly explained I can.

    This thread is not about me, BUT jas guess what it is not about you either. You want to keep this going because you could have stopped as well. If it is so insulting to the OP why did you feel the need to get the last word in?

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    Quote Originally Posted by NewMoon View Post
    The only reason I was wondering how it happened was to avoid it myself. She certainly is not at fault. Thank you Jenny and jizaine.

    EXACTLY... also, i never called her false EVER. It didn't make sense and shelly cleared it up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NewMoon View Post
    The only reason I was wondering how it happened was to avoid it myself. She certainly is not at fault. Thank you Jenny and jizaine.
    I mean more... like when I read I started thinking of all the way "that couldn't happen to me" because that means that it couldn't happen to me. I didn't post it, but I was privately reviewing the facts. I mean, we feel a lot more comfortable if the rape victim could have done something. Some people reject vulnerability because it frightens them, not because they disbelieve the person, you know? And as someone else said here - we are, at least at times, vulnerable, all the more so because of the number of customers that view us as subhuman. I think people are reacting out of distaste for their own vulnerability, not actually because they disbelieve the OP or hold her responsible.

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    babe you can still fiel charges. if the club doesnt help you then they can be held liabel i would assume.

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    you still go to the police and make a report.....just like any rape even if you dont knwo the dude you still file a report and the cops will ask the club questions.

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    Quote Originally Posted by head turner View Post
    Something just doesn't sound right.

    Were you drunk? It is just impossible to slip it in unless you had no underwear on and like the minute i felt anything touch me there it is "damage control" in which i move in a hurry. No swift movement like that can get past me unless i was somehow intoxicated. I doubt even intoxicated.

    I am sorry if it did happen and you were messed up and im sorry if it wasn't expained correctly but there is just no way I can get the story you said in my mind to make sense.



    Ok, so a lot of people automatically hush hush, "i am sorry, let's not ask questions because it sounds like it was a horrible situation." and thats cool and all. It also doesn't sound completely valid and i guess my sympathy factors get turned off if the story is fake. Maybe its not fake, could you possibly explain in depth a little more? I mean, you already put it on the internet for everyone to see, I don't think a little more explanation would hurt?

    Yes, she was raped, clearly it is her fault. What an awful thing to say. I have had similar things (nowhere that bad) happen. I am a little girl, a big strong man can easily overpower me.

    And, not to ve perverted, but my boyfriend does this to me all the time, it takes two seconds.

    And I know another girl IRL that this happened to.

    And BTW even if she was wasted it doesn't make it right.

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