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    I’m soooo upset.. I got FIRED last night for some crazy misunderstanding! I love the club that I work at, I’ve never had any problems before and I’ve been there for about 7 months.. I barely slept last night because I’ve been so upset…
    Here’s what happened: Okay, so last night I go into the CR at about 3 am. The guy I was with was really cool and really drunk. So was I. We were having a great time. The customer wanted another hour at about 3:45. The club will let customers stay in the champagne room until after closing time on the weekends. (they have to pay extra.) My best friend (she’s also my roommate) works with me sometimes and at about 3:45, (our club closes at 4) I went out onto the floor to find her and to tell her that I was gonna be in the CR until after closing and that she should come in and say hi to my customer.. I knew it would be cool with the customer, he was so drunk and happy. So, she comes in, and the guy was so unbelievably drunk and happy that he wanted her to stay. The champagne host orders more funny money for us. We party and dance a bit, but the guy was so drunk that he eventually passed out. We were being really crazy and rollin around on the guy and messing with him, poking at him. We say, lets look at his wallet… So my friend takes out his wallet and we look at his ID. He had absolutely no cash in the wallet, which I already knew because he had given it all to me already. In our club we usually ask for tips on top of what we get for the CR especially if we get paid in funny money because it sometimes takes a month to get the funny money check. Anyway, I think the waitress saw us looking at the wallet, even though the whole wallet thing only took about 1 minute. It was pretty stupid of us to take out the wallet, but keep in mind that the other dancer is truly me best friend and we were fucking around with the guy and being stupid in a way that I never would have done with another dancer. Okay, here’s the other stupid thing we did. We just up and left the guy passed out in the room. Usually you wait until the Champagne host tells you the time is up and then you can leave. It was really dumb of me to leave like that.
    So we go into the dressing room and get dressed. The house mom says that we have to wait and talk to the head manager. We had to wait for about 30 minutes and the champagne host and manager come down and were so serious and pissed. They didn’t ask us at all what happened in the champagne room but just say: “Did you go through the guy’s wallet?” We were so shocked and scared and we both say “No.” He says, “I’m going to give you one more chance to tell the truth, did you look through the guys wallet?” We say, “No.” Then he says that we’re both fired and tells us to clean out our lockers immediately. He won’t talk to us at all and just leaves. I KNOW how stupid it was to lie but it was all so shocking, and I don’t know why I didn’t tell him my side of the story. I really don’t know why we both said no, we were just so shocked and scared and drunk and it was like an interrogation!! As soon as he leaves we tell the housemon what really happened, that we looked at his wallet and IDS because we were just messing around but didn’t take anything. I start crying hysterically because I really love this club and am wildly popular there. I’ve worked in quite a few clubs and this one is seriously my favorite.
    I really don’t know what happened up there after I left.. Maybe the guy forgot that he gave me all his money because he was so drunk. Maybe the waitress saw us looking at the wallet. I know how dumb it was of us to leave the room early and to lie to the manager. Honestly, leaving the room was, in my mind, more fucked up than looking in the wallet. We really are the kind of people that would never steal money. Other girls have left rooms and not gotten fired, but we got fired for looking in a guys wallet, and I’m sure that they think we took his money.
    I’m just so upset because I really loved that club and have never had a problem with that manager before. I did do some dumb stuff, but Its all just a big misunderstanding and I just don’t think that we should have been fired . Stripping is just so crazy and dramatic sometimes….Fuck!!!! This is sooo unfair. I am gonna try to go in and talk to the manager, but… I have a felling that I’m never gonna be able to work at that club. I feel sooooooo shitty. DAMN IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thoughts??? Advice???.

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    Gosh,,that really sucks. Maybe it will work when you talk to the manager..you should give him a little while i think to get over it, so hes not so pissed when you talk to him.

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    all u can do is try and talk to the manager hun and explain your side of the story. tell him u r SO sorry for wat u did and it will NEVER happen again. im sure if u have never had a prior problem then he just may give u another chance all u can do is give it a go. how does your friend feel is she as upset over the whole thing as you? i would try and go in together if possible for moral support

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    I would just talk to the manager. Be sincere and tell him the truth.

    Hopefully he will give you guys another chance.

    Good luck!

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    First that sucks...but fear not I have been fired from OGs like 3 times and I still work there...seriously...

    You two need to email him an apology or go talk to him in person. Explain the story just like you did to us. Apologize profusely for being so drunk.....Explain you lied because you were so drunk and scared... it will be okay!! I bet you he will let you back in.
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    wow, i don't think this is an instance you can use damage control.

    Looking for any reason or even touching anyone else's belongings not to mention a wallet is just out of bounds. Like stripper moral code.

    I know you didn't mean to but take this as a lesson. Eyes could always be on you at any time and never risk your job.

    If you think you can go in and have a rational conversation with the owner then by all means try but if i was him i would think not only did you lie, but you are a thief for two reasons. 1) leaving the room early and 2) opening his wallet.

    Obviously there are extenuating circumstances and I don't personally think your are a thief or anything but I cant see him taking the chance to hire you back. Your actions were too much of a risk to the club.

    so sorry and good luck.

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    You guys are right, there's nothing to do but try to talk to the manager. The thing is that its my word against the customer or the waitress... And he totally believes that I stole that guy's money... This is the craziest thing that's happened to me in my dancing career.. There are other clubs in Manhattan, but I'm a creature of habit... I like my (former) home club.... I know how to make my money there!!!
    How DUMB am I???
    UGH..
    Yeah, my friend's really upset, too...

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    Quote Originally Posted by head turner View Post
    wow, i don't think this is an instance you can use damage control.

    Looking for any reason or even touching anyone else's belongings not to mention a wallet is just out of bounds. Like stripper moral code.

    I know you didn't mean to but take this as a lesson. Eyes could always be on you at any time and never risk your job.

    If you think you can go in and have a rational conversation with the owner then by all means try but if i was him i would think not only did you lie, but you are a thief for two reasons. 1) leaving the room early and 2) opening his wallet.

    Obviously there are extenuating circumstances and I don't personally think your are a thief or anything but I cant see him taking the chance to hire you back. Your actions were too much of a risk to the club.

    so sorry and good luck.
    No, you're right, it was totally stupid to touch the wallet....

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    I don't really think it's unfair that you got fired for looking through someones wallet, leaving the room and then lying about it...I would fire you. Even if you were just looking at his ID, that's an invasion of privacy. I'm sure you wouldn't want customers looking at your ID when you're passed out...

    Either way, you can probably get rehired if you apologize. Strip clubs generally have a very short memory for things.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Joplin View Post
    I don't really think it's unfair that you got fired for looking through someones wallet, leaving the room and then lying about it...I would fire you. Even if you were just looking at his ID, that's an invasion of privacy. I'm sure you wouldn't want customers looking at you're ID when you're passed out...

    Either way, you can probably get rehired if you apologize. Strip clubs generally have a very short memory for things.
    Yeah... I can totally see where the manager was coming from when you put it that way.... God, I can't stop beating myself up over this.... I'm usually so responsible....

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    ^^^

    Everybody makes mistakes. Just go apologize.
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    Give it a few days to calm down., then go back in and say somethign along the lines of
    " I wanted to apologize for my actions the other night. I am truly sorry and I know that I cannot excuse my behavior, I was wrong. I have learned my lessona dn will not be drinking anymore at work because that caused my irresponsibile and rash decisions. I really love workign here and value my job. I just wanted to say I am sorry and would love a second chance to prove to you that I am an honest and trustworthy person, I just made a stupid mistake."

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    Yeah I agree you should apologize and explain why you know looking through his wallet was wrong. Avoid saying its just a misunderstanding. Its not a misunderstanding. You violated his personal privacy. Wallets typically have a lot of sensitive material in them, and nobody but you knows what you're going to do with that info. I would be pissed if a dancer went through my hubbys wallet. Don't just say I'm sorry, make sure you tell the manager you understand the ramifications of your behavior. Let some time pass, and if you don't get hired back in, let this be a lesson for you. The club may take this seriously if they think you took his money. Don't even bring up the issue of the missing money in your apology, as they will not believe you, and unfortunately you already proved yourself as dishonest by saying you didn't look through his wallet. Leaving the CR early is wrong but not that big of a deal especially if the guy was passed out drunk. I know you didn't mean anything, and didn't really think about when you did it. Cheer up we've all done something really dumb. Sometimes we're forgiven sometimes we're not. All u can do is apologize and move on.
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    We've all made mistakes and done things that we shouldn't have, had we thought through them better. It could have been worse - your mistake could have been driving drunk, and someone got killed. Whatever happens, this isn't the end of the world.

    Sometimes I have not been forgiven for things that are much less severe than what you did. I think it depends on the personality of the person doing the forgiving - some people are all about "no second chances."

    But I am a big believer in second chances, if someone is really contrite, and this employer may be too. The best you can do is go in and express how sorry you are, and that you learned a lesson, and hope you can be given another chance.

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    great advice from the above posters.. i have def had some issues with clubs i've worked in and the best thing to do is wait a few days to let the situation die down, go face to face with the manager and apologize for the incident.. everyone makes mistakes, nobody is perfect.. we have all done dumb things, especially when drinking is involved.... you just weren't thinking and we're being silly and nosy and the waitress happened to see it.... i think you'll be fine.. as long as your honest and tell your side of the story.. if your track record at the club is good, then i don't see a problem of you being rehired...

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    I just wanted to say Thanks to everyone for their replies and advice.. it really means a lot to me. There's no other place that I could have gone for support on an issue like this. Its a crazy thing that happened, incredibly stupid of me, but I am taking it as a learning experience and moving on. I'm usually really good about not getting too drunk and crazy, but I realize after this that I need to be even more conscoius of my actions. It can get to be such an extreme environment we work in, especially late at night and I've gotta be more responsible.
    And as for an update, they don't think that we stole money, they were just pissed that we even touched the wallet, and the housemom is upset with the way the manager handled it. So, we'll probably be able to work there again after some time but I'm going to take this opportunity to try out some other clubs..
    Which I'm excited about...
    Thanks again ladies...

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    ^You have learned from this experience. You will just be a better stripper now!

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    Just for clarification, did they see you guys on camera, or did the waitress tattle on you? Just curioius.

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    Honestly, I think you deserve it.

    You looked through someone's wallet, and left before your time was up? And lied about it?

    I'm failing to see how thats a misunderstanding...stop kidding yourself. You got fired b/c you broke 2 rules.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aubreyyy View Post
    Honestly, I think you deserve it.

    You looked through someone's wallet, and left before your time was up? And lied about it?

    I'm failing to see how thats a misunderstanding...stop kidding yourself. You got fired b/c you broke 2 rules.

    I totally agree with you but it seems she has come to terms with the being wrong part later on in the post.

    I was actually waiting for her to try to defend herself more but she sucked it up and knows she was wrong.

    Now its the consequences she has to deal with.

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    I've always taken getting fired super personally. The worst time was when I got fired for taking money someone set on the tip rail near me when I was on stage; there was a misunderstanding (he didn't mean it as a tip -- I thought he did) and when I called the bartender/bouncer over to tell me what to do, he got mad and I got fired.

    So, yeah. Shit can happen. Strip clubs are the one environment in which acting crazy and being drunk is often part of the job, part of the experience that customers come in for, which makes it easier to screw up. Best thing anyone can do is let it go and move on...
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    I wish I could delete this post. Its embarrassing. I know what I did was wrong, and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of me, I would never steal money. It happened to be the one time when I got completely drunk I did something stupid. I do take it seriously and even if they would take me back, I don't know if I'd ever work there again. And to answer your question, the waitress saw us look at the wallet. Ugh... MOVING ON, I actually don't feel that bad about it anymore because its not the end of the world nor is it the most scandalous thing a dancer in that club had ever done.....

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    It's o.k. You know who you are. Just move on and be extra forgiving when others screw up and are contrite. We all make mistakes

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    Not a big deal. Lesson learned the hard way - Id bet that youll have your job back within a month.

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