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    Let's say you're sitting with a girl and having a conversation and another dancer takes it upon herself to butt in and say, sit on your lap and proceed to steal you away from the dancer you're sitting with.

    A. How would you feel about that? Do you like that aggressive approach?

    B. How do you think the dancer you're sitting with should respond to that? Should she sit there and wait it out? Or should she just get up and leave?

    Just curious because I'm going to a new club where situations like this may arise and I don't know how to handle them. My current club has something called "dancer etiquette" where behavior like that isn't tolerated.

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    I'm curious to see how ppl respond. My club has dancer etiquette too but if I ever switched I would like to know how to handle said situation without offending the custy
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    Quote Originally Posted by kaiarose View Post
    Let's say you're sitting with a girl and having a conversation and another dancer takes it upon herself to butt in and say, sit on your lap and proceed to steal you away from the dancer you're sitting with.

    A. How would you feel about that? Do you like that aggressive approach?

    B. How do you think the dancer you're sitting with should respond to that? Should she sit there and wait it out? Or should she just get up and leave?

    Just curious because I'm going to a new club where situations like this may arise and I don't know how to handle them. My current club has something called "dancer etiquette" where behavior like that isn't tolerated.
    First, no one can "steal me away." I either want a dance from you or I don't, and if I don't want a dance, there is nothing you can either say or do to get me to do one.

    There are times when I am politely talking to a dancer I have no interest in and she effectively cockblocks me from getting a dance from a dancer I am interested in and I wish you'd steal me away, but having a dancer interrupt another just doesn't happen with any regularity at the clubs I have been to in southern California and Phoenix.

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    Call me old fashioned but dancer etiquette is not something that should have to be regulated by the club you are working in. If I'm sitting with a dancer I don't want to be disturbed by another dancer. This is simple common courtesy. How I would handle it I guess would depend on how drunk/stupid/obnoxious the offending dancer was.
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    I don't appreciate rudeness. It's not an attractive quality to me and it puts me in an awkward position. I'm at the club to relax and have some mindless entertainment so if she detracts from it, she's not going to get my business.

    I would hope the other girl doesn't just pick up and leave. I'd take it upon myself to point out we were in the middle of a conversation and ask for a moment to ourselves. For guys who don't do this though, I'm not sure what to suggest. If the guy makes eye contact with you with the "save me" look, I'd stick it out. If you're being ignored, probably better to move on.

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    Seems pretty self explanatory. Thanks for the responses..

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    Quote Originally Posted by kaiarose View Post
    Let's say you're sitting with a girl and having a conversation and another dancer takes it upon herself to butt in and say, sit on your lap and proceed to steal you away from the dancer you're sitting with.

    A. How would you feel about that? Do you like that aggressive approach?

    B. How do you think the dancer you're sitting with should respond to that? Should she sit there and wait it out? Or should she just get up and leave?

    Just curious because I'm going to a new club where situations like this may arise and I don't know how to handle them. My current club has something called "dancer etiquette" where behavior like that isn't tolerated.
    Well, for starters I should say that's never happened for me. I've been temporarily cock-blocked a few times, but have wriggled out of that pretty smoothly so far.

    I wouldn't be favourably impressed if a girl muscled in on me like that. I would consider it discourteous, and a total deal-breaker for current and future patronage.

    I don't think the first dancer should just up and leave. She should wait, unless she determines that there's now no chance of getting dances. Really, just asking the guy "do you want me to leave you two alone?" is probably the most decent way to handle it. If the guy knows what he wants, he should state it then.

    I'd avoid drama though if you are new. Just be courteous even if the other girls aren't. Be the example for the others.

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    I'm the introverted sort. I really don't like small time chit-chat, and I despise being hustled. When I go to a club I prefer to be left alone to enjoy my first couple of drinks in peace. By the way, the same applies to shopping in general. I don't need help from sales people. If I need their help, I will come get them. Same with dancers. I know what I want. After a couple of drinks and some time to see who is working, I will go and get the dancer I'm interested in.

    I almost always send dancers away who approach me although I will make exceptions if the hustle factor is low, and/or her personality seems likable to me, but generally speaking it is the quieter, introverted types who I am more comfortable with in the club and IRL.

    In many clubs I'll go to the stage and sit there and tip, effectively hoping to buy some peace. I think it's rude if I am watching the stage show, tipping, and a dancer interrupts that, though many do in some clubs. Boo on that.

    The situation you outlined I'd see as rude, and would probably send her away. But I'd think the same in any other sales situation as well. If I was at a car dealership, talking to a dealer, and another dealer interrupted, I'd see it as lacking in common sense professional courtesy.

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    A. Big turn-off. I'm not impressed by how rude you are UNLESS you and I know, get along, and have fun with each other. If that is the case, very likely the second dancer is there on a rescue mission.

    B. She should ask, "Do you two want to be left alone?" If I say "No" in any form or fashion, the dancer can try to then include the new dancer into our conversation. If the new dancer tries to freeze out the previous dancer, by all means, send the bitch packing. If the new dancer is drunk or stoned, the handling at this point usually tends to get very blunt.

    Now I have never had this problem at a high-end club, but, unfortunately, the lower class the club, the more it happens. Maybe I'm just getting old but this is one of the reasons why I only frequent high-end clubs now. Not a major reason though. More beautiful women who know what they're doing is the biggest reason, but not having to deal with rude and/or drunk/stoned dancers is another.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kaiarose View Post
    Let's say you're sitting with a girl and having a conversation and another dancer takes it upon herself to butt in and say, sit on your lap and proceed to steal you away from the dancer you're sitting with.
    it means the money was never meant for the first dancer.
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    If you think the customer has had his eye on you by I'd say go for it. I typically consider it to be rude but usually a girl who is sitting with me isn't my type and just hasn't gotten the hint yet. Which can be annoying if one I'm interested in is nearby but not approaching because another dancer is there.

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    I, too, think it's rude to approach a customer who's already with a dancer. Doing this to me, even if I was sitting with a dancer I wasn't interested in, pretty much guarantees you won't get any dances from me.

    The only exception would be to just say "hi" as you walk by... if you know me already and just want to let me know you're there.

    The situation described has never happened to me. The closest situation was when a dancer I'd gotten a dance from previously innocently spoke to me when I was on the way to the VIP with another dancer---and that resulted in a major verbal cat fight. My experience by and large is that dancers just don't do this.

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    I think the level of inappropriateness depends on the relationship among all the parties involve.

    All strangers = very inappropriate.

    All familiar with each other and cognizant of where each fits in = not so inappropriate.

    In my case, as a regular visitor to the club, it is not at all uncommon for a 2nd or 3rd girl to join the table or spot at the bar, but it is never seen by any involved as an attempt to steal business and therein lies the difference.

    In response to the OP, it would seem to be a good situation for a new girl to avoid, unless of course the customer invites her to do so.
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    Before I answer that, I find that the strip club environment itself breaks a few of the commonly accepted "Rules" of pleasantry and good manners. But hey, Girls ARE dancing naked here, where else am I going to go to see that?

    A. I don't go to a strip club for conversation, that would seem (to me) to be an illogical location to practice the fine art of exchanging tales and wisdom over your beverage of choice. I actually went to see... *drumroll*... Naked Women Dancing!!! *fanfares and applause* So that Aggressive bitch that just rescued me from the promise of 30 minutes of life wasted discussing "OMG, It's like so Hot outside today" when I Should be getting a dance, is going to be rewarded (as am I) with an exchange of services and cash tendered.

    B. I would expect that the person NOT dancing would leave without much of a Fuss. (read without ANY Fuss)

    Now you may think I'm being a Butthole, and I am, but also, I came here looking to give you money to dance for me. I'm not going to be bringing you home with me or asking you for a date or even asking you for personal information other than "Will you wait while I hit the ATM, I seem to have spent all my money on you." Small talk is uneeded for this transaction, I'll say "Yes, Dance for me."

    And one last thing, some Ladies seem to have NO IDEA how much money they stand to lose by plopping down in a busy club and chatting up a couple of guys (or gals) that end up not buying a dance. If I see you sitting with someone, then you're *busy* as far as I am concerned and the sharks prowling the water are going to get the money I would have gladly spent on You.

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    A/ Wow, really? None of you guys would like it?

    I think I'd be more inclined to feel obligated to tip/pay for dance if a girl put that much effort into acquiring my attention. If you're a stripper I think that would be relevant here.

    It's like, this girl must WANT an interaction with me if she'll risk rudeness just to fake flirt with me. WOW MAYBE SHE REALLY LIKES ME! And then the money comes out, boom boom.

    Plus my puny man ego loves the attention.

    B. She should either compete further in a playful way ("that's MY man!") or, if she sees the guy is smitten after a while, just move on.

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