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    Hi everyone, well first of all i apologize if this has already been posted but I just couldnt find it anywhere. Ok heres my problem I have no clue on what to talk about with these customers. I go up and hi I'm mya blah blah blah could I join you more blah blah, whats your name, where your from and with that im ok but after that WHAT???? Pls help, I've been a housemom for 5 years now and just started dancing not too long ago so all I know is diapers, toys, kids stuff lol, the two world are completly different. I see the other girls having conversation with customers like nothing, is there maybe a certain approach to use (fun, sexy, myself, or other). PLS PLS PLS HELP

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    I would suggest you could talk to them as you would if you weren't in a strip club. I've never been one to fall for the "you're so sexy and I'm so horny" sales pitch. Talk about the things you are comfortable talking about whenever you meet someone new, keeping in mind that you need to be at least as protective of your safety and privacy as you would anywhere else.
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    Hi everyone, well first of all i apologize if this has already been posted but I just couldnt find it anywhere. Ok heres my problem I have no clue on what to talk about with these customers. I go up and hi I'm mya blah blah blah could I join you more blah blah, whats your name, where your from and with that im ok but after that WHAT???? Pls help, I've been a housemom for 5 years now and just started dancing not too long ago so all I know is diapers, toys, kids stuff lol, the two world are completly different. I see the other girls having conversation with customers like nothing, is there maybe a certain approach to use (fun, sexy, myself, or other). PLS PLS PLS HELP
    I would say, after the introductions just ask him if he wants to go have fun/get a dance. Why waste your time? Find out right away if he's interested. If not, move on. You're not really there for conversation are you?

    I would bet that the other girls who are having conversations with the customers would prefer to be in the vip/private dance room.

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    Small talk works best. Avoid politics and religion. Sports is good, even if you play the "I'm just a girl, I really don't understand sports" card. The trick is not so much what you talk about but to appear comfortable doing it...I know, that's the hard part.

    Try and control the flow and keep it light. Guys who start whining right away about their jobs, their wives, their kids, the economy, politics etc are probably going to bend your ear for a half an hour and then buy one dance. Guys who are at the club to spend really just want to chat for a couple of minutes and then get to the private dance area.
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    Small talk is an art form, and essential to many professions. For example, politicians have to master small talk while at the same time blatantly lying through their teeth. And smiling sweetly the entire time. Now that takes practice.

    If it doesn't come to you naturally, you need to practice.

    In the clubs and even outside social occasions, make the other person your focus. This allows you to set the direction. Always lead with a compliment or kind observation, or something funny. Make the conversation about him or her.

    The smaller, everyday topics are best. This allows you to learn their interests so you can graduate to sports, hobbies, favorite movies or restaurants, etc.

    It's a little different for men and women. In the club, as a customer, I'd lead with something like, "You look fabulous in that outfit -- it really works for you. I don't think I've seen you in it before,' or if it's my home club maybe, "is this place as dead/hopping as it looks?," which opens the door to a discussion of how their day is going.

    The other dancers here will give you much better answers on what to say to men in the clubs, but the objective is the same. Make the person feel special. This in turn makes him more likely to buy from you.

    Girls sometimes overshoot with the first words out of their mouth ("I'd like to molest you," "God you are so hot," "I need to take you in the back and have my way with your right now") Sometimes those are good final sales lines, but not always conversation starters.

    OK, small talk with men: smile always; use endearing terms like "sweety," "hon," "baby," etc. (yeah, totally obvious, but often forgotten, trust me), compliment them on their scent, the color of their eyes, favorite drinks, what they like in dancers, what they think of the club ("Is this your first time here sweety? I'll take you on a little tour."), what they do for fun, any great trips lately? It's usually best to avoid work unless he brings it up to vent or discuss. Most guys come to the clubs to escape work so it's not high on their convo wish list. There are venters, of course, but they will bend your ear and you won't even get a word in edgewise.

    Also, use body language to the extreme. In convo, it's about 80% of what you are communicating. Look directly in his eyes, have your legs and body turned towards him, play with your hair, make light physical contact, hold his hand, if the club allows it, sit in his lap, make him think he's the most interesting guy you've ever met. Yeah, I know, but that's why dancers must be at least 50% actresses.

    I'll yield to the dancers on their best convo game here.....

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    thanks sooooooooo much for all the help i'll be at work tomorrow and let you know how it went. Thanks again

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    You can be known as a good conversationalist without saying much at all.

    Listen.

    No, really. Listen.

    Generally, Person A hears what Person B has to say just long enough to launch into Person's A's issues. Then it becomes a duel. "Well, I had this experience." "Well, yeah, but I had this experience." "Sure, but then this experience is even bigger." And so on.

    The lesson is that people want to talk about themselves. Listen, and let them. Nice clothes? Nice haircut? Nice taste in booze? Bored? Attentive? Energetic? There is a story behind all of that. Get the story, and listen to it. Follow up, and it will launch into other stories.

    Being a good conversationalist is being a good listener. There are plenty of people who fancy themselves good conversationalists, but it's only because they consider themselves interesting enough that other people can't get enough of it. Noooo. The person that you're talking to is interesting. Sacrifice some of your own story to let them tell theirs. It'll pay off.

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    Reflecting - it's when you summarize what you just heard. Not always applicable, but good especially for situation where you're doing a longer hustle during a slow time (or if you have no idea how to interject something new or where to go next topic-wise). If a person seems like his day has been full of frustrations, it can be a nice way of letting him know he's actually being heard (i.e., you aren't just thinking of what you want to say next).

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    Me: "Sounds like you knew how to change the business model and set new standards to get results."

    Him: "Exactly! Blah blah elaboration blah blah."
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    check out hustle hut.
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