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    this is so weird becuase i love penis more than anything in the world. but there was a new girl at work, really cute body, hilarious, such a great personality.
    she's a lesbian.
    and somewhere in between showing her around, and teaching her pole tricks, the conversation turned into how great the other's body is, and how i could "get it" whenever i wanted it. i think i want it! we flirted like crazy! she also said how she always messes with girls who arent lesbians and gets her heart broken.
    she quit tonight because the manager was acting like a bitch, and there were no customers, but i have her number, and cant stop thinking about her.
    i dont think i just like her because of the experimental sex thing (that too) but i think i actually like her.
    i cant see myself in a relationship with a girl tho. it just seems weird
    i dont know, i want to call, but i kinda dont want to open the can of worms ya know?
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    Hmmm...tough one. Given that she said that about getting her heart broken by straight girls I think it would probably be fairest to leave her alone if you're unsure. Maybe you should call her and let her know how you feel, including your doubts. If nothing else you could keep being friends.
    I think I know how you might be feeling - I crush on girls really badly, but everything I know about me indicates that that's all it ever is.

    Sorry if this doesn't make sense, I am a little drunk.

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    I would give her a call and the two of youshould go on a date, for dinner and drinks or whatever. I would be totally up front about your feelings and doubts though. Going on a date with a romantic feel to it might make it easier for you to decide how you feel about her.

    If you realize you don't want to go that route then I don't think her feelings would be hurt, it is just a first date after all.. Plenty of people don't feel romantically about each other after first dates. Good luck! Keep us updated

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    Maybe you should call her up and hang out with her. Get to know her better without the pressure of worrying about what you dont know if you want. If you call her as a friend thats all she will expect. But if more does happen then yippee.




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    Quote Originally Posted by kikidejavu View Post
    this is so weird becuase i love penis more than anything in the world. but there was a new girl at work, really cute body, hilarious, such a great personality.
    she's a lesbian.
    and somewhere in between showing her around, and teaching her pole tricks, the conversation turned into how great the other's body is, and how i could "get it" whenever i wanted it. i think i want it! we flirted like crazy! she also said how she always messes with girls who arent lesbians and gets her heart broken.
    she quit tonight because the manager was acting like a bitch, and there were no customers, but i have her number, and cant stop thinking about her.
    i dont think i just like her because of the experimental sex thing (that too) but i think i actually like her.
    i cant see myself in a relationship with a girl tho. it just seems weird
    i dont know, i want to call, but i kinda dont want to open the can of worms ya know?
    I would be carefull about overdoing it !! Call her and tell her you'r sorry that she quit. Just to get things started ...

    Maybe you can hook up with her for lunch or cafe latte or something. Being a little curious about her being a lesbian should hinting her in the right direction !? If she is biting ... Be honest and tell her this all new to you and your not looking for a serious relationship !!

    I would like to have a secret girlfriend like that to do girlie stuff with like ... shopping fashion makeup art/exhibition museums sightseeing opera litterature ... And of course some girl/girl action I would feel so emancipated

    A girl can dream !! You'r not alone !!

    Best wishes ...
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    update! totally went on a date today, and i really like this chick! we went shopping for work clothes
    and like hung around our houses. she is so fucking cool! we have so much in common! i came home all bubbly like i had been out on a good date.
    idk i kinda dont feel the need to be anything more than friends with her, but i really would like to see whats its like to do a girl.....
    i would also really like to be in a relationship right now, and she seems to be more than a willing candidate.
    dammit, why cant she just have a penis?!
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    Have you ever had sex with a female? Try telling her you'd like to try it, and if it's great, fuck get her a strap on and have a relationship already. That's not meant to sound mean spirited...E thinks it does.
    I just think you should take things at your own pace, and maybe things can work out even if SHE doesn't have a PENIS. A penis is not ALWAYS a requirement, esp. if you've never tried it the other way around
    Last edited by ajbaer; 05-03-2008 at 08:22 PM. Reason: I sounded mean

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    I say ......well, I'm a guy so I guess my opinion would be obvious.
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    What ever you do, be honest and have fun

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    Quote Originally Posted by ajbaer View Post
    Have you ever had sex with a female? Try telling her you'd like to try it, and if it's great, fuck get her a strap on and have a relationship already. That's not meant to sound mean spirited...E thinks it does.
    I just think you should take things at your own pace, and maybe things can work out even if SHE doesn't have a PENIS. A penis is not ALWAYS a requirement, esp. if you've never tried it the other way around
    no thats not mean, your right. she came over yesterday, and we like caked it all day.
    its starting to matter less thats she doesnt have one. im really starting not to care, cause i just like her so much as a person. shes actually better to me than most of the guys ive went out with
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    ^^^ I think thats a great thing.

    People can't chose to be born male or female. But its more important who they are on the inside rather than what genitals they were born with. When people discriminate against such things they are cutting out a lot of great potential partners.




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    I'm seriously really, REALLY excited for you! Don't discredit a potential amazing partner just because of her sex.. Go for it!

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    From this lesbian's POV as a dancer who works with alot of bi-bicurious girl who flirt/play/are friends with me there is a big difference between wanting to date a person becuz you love them as a person, find them attractive, are sexually curious about them and really wanting a realtionship. If not I would asked out my BFF when she 1st started dancing at my club and us having a realationship seemed to always somehow be behind all our causal conversations.

    However I let the ball drop on that idea (denied it 100times)and I'm glad I did becuz it's nice that we click, it's great I love the girl, it's great we are best friends and yes I know her well enough to know as much as I thought sex would have been hott between us--which I'll never admit as I always tell her that I'ld never chase her cuz she's so str8 she would be a really lame lay for me (which is the backhanded way we have always flirted with eachother) I truely believe sex would ruin our realtionship and then I would want more and be it sooner or later the toll of her figuring out her sexuality would either put me thur her coming out issues or bring her to decide she was bi but wants to be with a man again at some point which I would not be open to/crushed by or that she was completely str8 and just hurt by guys confused by our friendship becuz she liked the attention and treatment I give her. I would have taken the risk, but really as much as she wanted to convience me she was bi at 1st becuz she was questioning her sexuallity becuz of me I pretty much have it figured out that if I had a dick she would have been my girlfriend(she would have seen me as prefect for me becuz of my personallity) the way if she was gay or even truely bi i would have made her my girl even if she's not really my type(and I just don't care that she's not the hottest in my book as I just am really attracted to the kind of woman she is/the chemistry we have)--but that it's not that type of love we have for eachother as really I love her as a person don't feel the need to be anything more then friends with her.

    Unlike the realtionship I want to have and have always had where I felt I wanted that person and had to be with that person which is how I want my g/f to feel about me--not if only I had a dick (aside from the box of them I have at home).

    I only shared that (even though either of us really ever talk about it unless she drunk and we are fighting about it in publix where she's embrassing me and I laugh it off the next day when she aplogolizes for it)but becuz of how you worded your post much the way I feel things went when I met my BBF before we figured out where we stood with eachother and why I advise to take your time and really think before taking it anywhere. Not that you and her are me and my BFF just I see the simularity in story and wanted to share.

    Now i do mess around with the bi/curious girls that I just have hott sexual chemistry with and I don't see it as anything more or get hurt/jealous w/them as I'm not emotional invested in them even though I'm friends w/them and we have ongoing casual flirtations/flings.

    There is just a big difference in situations and I always try to avoid heartbrake and confusion exspecailly when I feel I'ld be the 1 hurting another person's feelings, but if you don't feel that way and you really feel you might be bi and she might be the 1 for you then go ahead, but keep sexual exploring on that level and don't get yourselve involded deeper if that is all it is as ussually some1 gets hurts if that's not what they were wanting.
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    she is pissing me off right now because as much as she likes me, she keeps coming up with all these excuses and reasons why she doesnt want to start something with me. (which are obviously bullshit because she keeps making plans with me, and slips up all the time telling me how much she likes me)
    all her gay friends keep telling her not to fuck with me becuase im straight, and im younger than her, so dont take me seriously
    which is pissing me off because i have done a complete 180 since my first post, and i could care less that she is a chick
    now the problem is not me. it is def her that is holding herself back.
    sigh.
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    ^^^^ I think you should exactly that to her. Maybe if she hears something like that she will know how serious you really are. And hopefully she will not listen to what her friends say because anybody who would date their same sex in not completely straight.




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    omg hang in there as long as possible -- the lesbian friends are the hardest to win over; they will label you as straight even as your lip locked with "her" continue to show your unwavering interest in her and tell her you'll prove them wrong but only if she gives you the chance

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