Hi all!
So, after four stupid months of job searching, I have to go back to stripping in San Fran.
Dont get me wrong, I am not complaining that I have to strip, I actually feel super-fortunate that I HAVE this option especially in this time of lay-off's and all that shit.
However, now I have a boyfriend of 8 months. We are pretty close. We love each other LOTS. But It's my PERSONAL view that it's challenging to be a dancer and have a good relationship (after being in the dressing room and hearing girls on their cells arguing with their men, husbands etc it's no wonder I have that idea). He's told me he would "not be totally happy with it" but he understands I gotta do what I gotta do (single mom living in $ilicon Valley) and I let him know I would be a PG-13 dancer, but this was all said in the context of IF I HAD to go back, not along the lines "I AM going back"
so, now, I'm getting back on the saddle YEEHAW and I plan to talk to him tomorrow night...what do I say besides the obvious? (obvious being: "I'm broke as shit, buried now in debt and sick of tailoring my resume to every fucking company out there and being NOT called back after several interviews GGGRRRRR)
I want to let him know I wont be touching men, they wont be touching me...but should I avoid that topic altogether? Can those of you who are in relationships plus dancing give me advice on how you keep your men feeling ok about you dancing, or how you would approach this type of convo with him? OR, any input is appreciated.
NOTE: if you are in a "loose-r" relationship, where you two dont mind the other being sexual with other people, then I'm not sure your advice would help, cause we are not totally "loose" like that. (I'm not trying to be demeaning here, either...I say "loose" for lack of a better term...) Although reading your POV's might help, somehow, hm.
*sigh* I love dancing, a lot actually, but I am sad to think I may lose my wonderful man, thinking it may build up in his head after a couple months and it may cause him to be interested in other girls who ARENT dancers.![]()



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How, I'm not sure, but I want him to know...

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