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    Default Never really knew how good I had it when I stripped

    This is way harder than I thought it would be.I retired from dancing after a long 13 years.I just burned out totally.I was traveling 2 hrs each way to atlanta.I bought a house in macon so I chose to travel,after a couple of years I got an apartment and would just stay up there for 3 or 4 days or until I had my bill money.I had a hysterectomy about a year before I quit,and I really gained alot of weight so money wasn't that good anymore plus burning out,over the years I tried a couple of different biz. to make money after dancing but they didn't work out for one reason or another so..I left dancing with no back up.Broke. Except for buying a house I totally blew it all thinking okay I'll go back next week and make more money...ya know how that goes.I really felt like I had atleast a few more years to get it together...not.I really let myself down when I walked out all dramatic(after a slow day and a few cosmos) threw my shoes,dress,and garter in the trash and walked out.Yay for me right...yes and no. I did't work for a few mo. then I got a bartending job a a bikini bar.Got to look at it from the otherside.Girls were mean and cheap. I was always good to my bartenders.In atlanta they would have kicked my ass if I acted like those girls.Anyway,that lasted 11 mo. I sold ins. for 5 mo. spent more trying to sell than I ever made,then my latest job was the easter bunny for three weeks at the mall! I had some real thinking time inside that hidious suit! Didn't matter how much I used to make or how popular I was in the club,or even if I looked "pretty" that day.I was making 8.50 an hr. and glad to get that! I worked 59 hrs. each week for 450 bucks.Though that was bad but now I have no job! put in sooo many aps over the last few weeks.Every time I go out I wanna cry.My husband makes barely enough to cover the main bills,I've had to go to food banks and ask for help. no nails,no shopping,staying home every weekend,no vacations. My daughters sweet 16 id next month she wants to go to myrtle for a few days,don't know how I'm gonna pull that one off.We don't have cable,we live in the city so luckily I can get "free" signal for my p.c. I never knew it would be so hard!!!!!!!I just can't seem to get this flubber off,I've been walking and trying to watch what I eat,I soooo want to go back,I look way younger than I am and I think I can go back for a couple more years,I am really sick of being broke.So here goes ladies I'm gonna post my weight monthly.I am sickend by looking in the mirror! I am now 174 ! I am 5'3 and have d size implants so I look like a jelly bean! I just had to turn down a private party for people I danced for every year for 6 years.Dam I needed that money.Any encouragement would be great,I want to find a club with an open schedual,willing to drive up to four hrs. or maybe fly. I'm sure on of the local places will hire me sooner or later so I need the club to be flexable,I'm also gonna take classes online to get a degree for the next time I quit. any advice would help.Thanks for you time ladies.

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    Default Re: Never really knew how good I had it when I stripped

    No advice but lots of support and encouragement. Things may not look so great right but but they'll get better. As long as you're out there looking for work you're bound to find something eventually! Just keep sending out your resume and maybe even look on online job posting sites?

    Maybe even just try out a few of the local clubs. You won't have to pay for transportation (at least as much as driving for so many hours or flying) and it'll be some sort of income coming in. A lot of the time people are their own worst critics and think they look worse than they actually do, so it's worth a shot.

    Don't worry girl. Just keep your head up and keep on going. Everything WILL be okay.

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    I don't think the answer is going back to dancing. I actually think this struggle is a normal part of leaving the job. Stick it out! It will be ok!

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    Default Re: Never really knew how good I had it when I stripped

    have you tried getting a job throuhg a temp agency? they will hire damn near anyone, and i know its not idea but itll be something to put on a resume...

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    Default Re: Never really knew how good I had it when I stripped

    Would it be possible for you to take financial management /life coaching classes? I found that after quitting stripping, the money was a really hard part for a while.

    This is a really good program and is completely non-profit.

    Good luck in everything you choose. I hope that you always feel like you have a *choice* in what you do in life. It's important.

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    Default Re: Never really knew how good I had it when I stripped

    Have you considered doing phone sex work? You can turn on your stripperific charm, but no one can see you.

    In the mean time kick your own ass back into shape. I'm there right now, too. I've been an ex-dancer for about a year now, and the pounds have been creeping on. I went for a run this morning, have been eating low fat/ low sugar/ low carb. I'm signed up for a yoga/ Pilates class this summer, and I'm getting my bike fixed so I can use it to commute.

    You can do it! We're all pulling for you!


    Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!


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    Girl, you've already done the hardest thing when it comes to loosing weight- deciding that you're sick of that shit! I was rail thin in highschool and could eat anything I wanted (me and one of my gfs were notorious for wolfing down a 50 piece at mcdonalds, no problem) and then one day I woke up and was chubby. The freshman 15? Try the freshman 24!

    One day I woke up and said "FUCK THIS!" I stopped eating garbage, chose salads over burgers and stopped grazing all day. Clif bars helped me, b/c they are so good I could trick myself into thinking I was really eating a brownie or choc chip cookie.

    Once you start seeing results, you'll be a fanatic. A quick way to burn fat is to do cardio early in the morning, before you've had a ton to eat.

    Keep at it girl! Like it was said before, we're all pulling for you!

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    Default Re: Never really knew how good I had it when I stripped

    hey,
    don't get down about yourself. You danced for 13 years..that is way past the normal. You say you are broke BESIDES A house... a lot of girls leave stripping with nothing.

    I am in atl too. I wouldnt hope for the best with money--most everyone i know at every club is suffering with money, the economy is just bad. I know people with degrees and great jobs that are losing them. Its just a sad situation, and dancing is not the quick easy money that it used to be. I finally left because of school and i started really just hating stripping.

    I think you should try other avenues because its more consistent and dancing is so competitive it can be really hard on ur self esteem. Be proud of yourself!!

    Good luck!

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    Default Re: Never really knew how good I had it when I stripped

    You have a house, which is fantastic. You are very concretely aware of your issues, and you are actively seeking to change your situation. So many people never get that far.

    Do you think the weight could be connected to hormonal changes brought on by the hysterectomy? I'm wondering if maybe there's something medical that could be corrected before you knock yourself out with dieting. I know that sometimes a hysto can bring on some weird changes in other systems for some folks - rare but possible.
    "Don't piss off a motivated stripper."


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    Default Re: Never really knew how good I had it when I stripped

    Anything you can do as far as being self employed ? Work on a commision ect. ? Anything that would keep you with that natural built in motivation of being an independent contractor ( harder you work , the more you make concept ) ? Any hobbies , interests, ect. you could pursue to make some cash ? This is brainstorming for a long term idea to produce reliable income. Dancers wind up being excellent independent contractors in all kinds of other fields. Sales skills ....self motivation ..... perstistence .... you've spent years building thoes skills , so use them .

    Just throwing ideas out :

    Sell outfits at local clubs ?

    Do makeup / tat covering / hair at local clubs ?

    Be a house mom at a club ?

    Bartend somewhere ( non-SC ) ?

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    Default Re: Never really knew how good I had it when I stripped

    It sucks to struggle, but at least you have a couple years left in you to make up for lost time. Good luck, you can do it! Have you considered doing phone sex or maybe working some midwest bookings until you get your weight down? I've never worked the midwest myself, but it seems from some of the past posts that they aren't too picky.

    I'm haven't worked the past few months because I burned out and started having all these self-esteem problems. But now I'm enrolled back in college and am getting my life together outside of stripping. This time next year, lets be back on top again : D

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