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    Default How do you fight the burnout?

    Hey everyone. I've been reading on here for awhile but I finally decided to sit down and make my first post.

    Okay, here's my problem. I am a personal assistant three days a week, and I dance three to four nights a week at my club. I don't dance on nights when I work at the office, since I just physically cannot handle it. That said, I work a minimum of six days, but usually its seven because I feel bad for not working.

    I know there are other girls on here that work just as much as I do. How do you keep yourself motivated and positive and energetic?

    My last shift that the club sucked, and thats mostly because I was feeling so burnt out and exhausted.

    Any thoughts?

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    Default Re: How do you fight the burnout?

    Frequent breaks and treats to yourself.

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    Default Re: How do you fight the burnout?

    Everyone seems to be getting burnt out lately. If you can afford to take a week off for a mini vacation, go for it. Even if you go dance on those days, knowing you don't have to be there can take off the pressure. I went through it too, here. Just pamper yourself and relax as much as you can.

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    Definitely take time off. Maybe only work 2-3 days a week dancing. I dance and go to school. I'd only dance 1-2 nights a week but ultimately it screwed up my health and FORCED me to take time off.

    Now, I'm broke. But I feel better every day. It's probably best to take care of it before it becomes a problem.

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    I don't drink or smoke and haven't for many years. It really helps with your ability to heal and rejuvenate.

    Exercise, especially cardio, can help with your stamina. That doesn't mean you have to join a gym, but keeping yourself in shape beyond dancing helps with self-care and looks.

    It's tempting to slip into sugary, high fat, high carb treats for an energy boost and psychological pick-me-up, but in the long run, they'll sap you. I have literally a bag of good food and water that I bring with me.

    Be careful you get you time, even if your friends and family are guilting you.
    "Don't piss off a motivated stripper."


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    Default Re: How do you fight the burnout?

    Time off, definitely. Also positive social interactions with friends outside the club. Go out and have a night to yourself where you get dressed up but you aren't working. That helps me a lot. And yeah, take the pressure off yourself when you do go into work.
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    Definitely suffering from burnout as well at the moment, although I'm not quite in the same situation since I don't have another job. But remember, don't be hard on yourself - the economy sucks, competition is getting fierce, and the stress of normal day to day life + dancing can be excruciatingly physically and emotionally draining. What keeps me going is constantly reminding myself, I'm here to make money, I need to make as much money as possible so I can achieve X,Y, and Z, I know I know how to make money, and it will all pay off in the end once X, Y, and Z are falling into place.

    On another note, I went through a period awhile ago where I was going through a rough time and worked constantly like some kind of stripper psychopath to avoid all the crap in my outside life that was bringing me down. I was permanently burned out but kept going - but I noticed I slowed down my hustle significantly, which in many instances also slowed down my income for the day. The upside, though, is that all of a sudden, because I was building a stronger relationship with customers, I had tons of regulars whereas before I never had any because I simply bounced from lap to lap getting what I could and ditching the guy. The money was about the same as when I was working the floor, but you can't beat having a room full of guaranteed moolah just waiting for you.

    The only advice I can give is to make sure you keep up your personal appearance. Get some exercise, even if it's just push ups and sit ups in the morning and a brisk walk. Tan. Get your nails done. Pluck your eyebrows. Apply lotion every night so your skin is silky smooth. Make sure your hair and make-up look absolutely irresistible. The better you look, the less work you have to do to get customers' attention. More importantly, though, the better you feel about yourself, the more you'll enjoy going to work.

    Lull yourself to sleep by fantasizing about how you're going to make your next shift awesome. Imagine yourself going in there like you own the place. You'll spot a custy who's been oogling you, invite yourself over to his lap, take his hand in yours, and slowly slide it up your stomach and stop until you're just below the titty. Turn your gaze toward him. Look him right in the eye. Go through the standard stripper small talk and as soon as the drool starts piling up on his chest....$$$$$$$$$$$$$$

    Ok maybe that's just my fantasy but in my little money-obsessed world I think I might just have to spend some time with mr battery operated boyfriend (BOB) under the covers.

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    Default Re: How do you fight the burnout?

    When I get a lil down, I like to make or focus on my goals. Currently I'm saving for a down payment on a home, so I like to browse realtor.com and imagine how awesome it'll be, then I feel like RAH go get em!!

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    Well for one, you're working 7 nights because you "feel bad' for not working, so you obviously have relaxing issues. You can't relax because you feel your time could be more productive. You need to drink plenty of water and NOT FEEL BAD to relax. Obviously the second you do take time off you're just nervous and stressed you didn't work.. and when you work you're nervous and stressed you didn't take time off.

    Take time for you. Relax. DO NOT FEEL GUILTY. Destress. Calm. Calm. CALM I TELL YOU!! Calm. Honey. Tea. Milk. Zen. Ohm.


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    I have to say, I'm so tired that I read the title as "How do you fight the burrito?" The advice given is really good, I hope it helps!


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    Oddly enough, I've always made about the same working 3-4 days wk as working 5-6 days. So I only work the 3-4 days. The very slight increase in income working 5-6 days instead of 3-4 isn't worth the burnout, imo. Also I think someone brought up excercise and not drinking and doing drugs. Take your vits and pamper yourself. Every 2 mths or so I take a week or two off. It really does wonders. Keeps me real fresh. HTH

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    Quote Originally Posted by SundayMorning View Post
    I have to say, I'm so tired that I read the title as "How do you fight the burrito?" The advice given is really good, I hope it helps!
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    Stop feeling bad about taking a day off! Everyone deserves a break, and you're no different. You really need to take a day or two off now and then and take frequent breaks while on the job. Throw on a pair of earphones and have a snack at work. You'll find you'll do better the more rested you are

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    Personally, I make more money by going in to work relaxed from a day off then if I go in stressed out and burnt out.......so really, you're not helpiong yourself by going in more....
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lysondra View Post
    Calm. Calm. CALM I TELL YOU!! Calm.

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    Default Re: How do you fight the burnout?

    Thanks for all your help, comrades.

    I guess its just that I worry about money a lot.

    That and I hate the idea of my roommates or boyfriend thinking of me as irresponsible and/or lacking proper work ethic.

    I'm rarely home, and when I am, I run around trying to catch up on my housework, taking care of my two baby rats (and yes. . . rats. they are cuter than you think, i promise), doing legal research, and trying to do nice things for my boyfriend.

    I miss having time to myself.

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    I feel you. I also have a demanding dayjob in addition to dancing. I find 2-3 shifts a week at the club is what I can do and stay sane. Even then, I need the occasional week off.

    I'm like you, and tend to value my ability to make money really highly and undervalue my health and sanity. I feel guilty if I dont work, imagine that my boyfriend thinks I'm the laziest person in the world, spend my time off fretting that I'm taking time off, etc.

    Masochists like us need to make chilling a part of our discipline. I MAKE myself take time off during the day to nap or sit quietly, no matter how desperately I feel like distracting myself. I try to give myself props for taking time to rest, eat well, excercise, and do good stuff for myself. I'm not being self-indulgent -- I'm giving routine maintainence service to my body and mind, which are the most important thing I have. The only thing of any importance, really.

    So yeah, like everybody's saying: Chill. Even if it's hard. Learn to chill.

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