I struggle with amateur nights terribly. I just went through my second one after working a month at my club. It took a lot out of me. I wind up feeling rattled afterward - I can't easily articulate specifically how, but it's draining. [Clarification: I'm employed there. I'm not talking about doing these contests repeatedly.]
My hustle didn't work, even when I adapted as much as I could for the younger, drunker, more hyper crowd typical of amateur nights. I had guys flat-out ignore me to the point of turning their backs on me. Each time, they were very young and/or not the type I would approach successfully anyhow, but hey, that's who was in front of me.
My first month of stripping has taught me that I do consistently well in conversation and financially with men who fit a certain profile:
- mature, whether they're 35 (which is quite young to me) or 75, as long as they don't have the "party hard, dude, let's get fucking trashed" sensibility; usually they're definitely over 45.
- usually have their own business or have some position with a lot of independence; they may or may not be loaded as a result, but I noticed this kind of mindset in most of the guys who are most willing to spend on me.
- have a primary partner with whom the sensuality (not necessarily sex), understanding and appreciation have gone downhill, or the partner is deceased (if any of these stories are true - who knows?).
- want relaxation and nurturing, not "Hey, baby, SHOW ME YOUR TITS - WOOOO!"
I've only had one guy who fit that profile skeeve me, and I could have controlled that situation better. Anyhow, these aren't the guys showing up to amateur nights, unless I'm missing something, so I'm at a disadvantage.
Last night, it was frustrating not to sell even basic $20 topless dances (only three in a six-hour shift, and repeated variations of, "But I came for the show"/"I can't miss my friend on stage"/"I don't buy dances"/"I'm broke") when the place was truly packed. It was draining to notice the jackass behavior level definitely increased (nothing too terrible, but different from the vibes on most other nights), so I had more armor on and hung back more than I normally would on the floor.
Does anyone have any tips, or can you see where I'm approaching this setting wrong from the start?
We're required to work on amateur nights, so there are more in my future. I might as well try to make the most of it, especially if there's some way to turn it into a money night.
I went into last night with lowered expectations as a buffer, but I'm not sure that's such a great approach, since I could be setting myself up for failure by thinking like that.
The lemonade from lemons portion of this post:
- Admittedly, I had more success this time than during the first amateur night I worked the floor, so I must have gotten better at my game.
- I did relatively okay with stage tips. If nothing else, folks came prepared with ones, though it was definitely not a spendy night, even from folks I know by name who normally would buy.
- I found an "oasis" with a few guys who tipped me for my time sitting with them and watching the show. Even though it made me feel lazy, getting some money while comfortably chatting with someone was better than getting no money while hustling hard (and yes, I tried to sell to the oasis guys more than once with no luck, though maybe I laid the groundwork for a future visit - le sigh). They came (apparently) with money for the stage as much as possible, but nothing one on one. For what it's worth, I noticed they didn't get dances from anyone else (I think).
- One of the dances I got was from a guy with whom I spent a good chunk of time during the last amateur night, so I guess that finally paid off lol. I don't see him except for those events.



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