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    Smiley Post-dancing.... ENVY!

    hey ladies!

    I just have to say.... I got totally jealous of you the other nite. I used to dance when I was in school. After I graduated last spring, I took a "day" job. It's in a male-dominated field, I'm one of the few girls, ya-da-ya-da-yah, and I can't complain, so far it's going well.

    but DAMN. I miss dancing! And I didn't realize just how much until my sig other and I went to a club he frequents off and on. He didn't know I used to dance until the car ride home, cuz obviously I didn't wanna steal their thunder. heehee. guess he thought all of those g-strings, bootie shorts and teddies were just a collecting hobby?

    We got some VIP/CR time with two gorgeous girls, drank, had a blast, etc etc etc. Obviously, I'm a huge huge huge tipper.... prolly goes without saying. I miss it. I think it's a combination of missing being able to be really girly, and the ability to shamelessly manipulate guys. I can't do that anymore.... I have to be super-conservative just to be taken seriously. which is all well and good, I spose.

    maybe some of you can relate?

    I almost laughed when I got the typical "You should totally dance here!" comment. but I kept it to myself. bottom line. I miss dancing. and the other night made me seriously consider a comeback.... *sigh*. otherwise I'll just be visiting you all more often.

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    Yeah... I have an office job now (on SW at work wooo). I miss the dancing the most. I listen to songs and choreograph them in my head...

    There's a lot I don't miss any more ,which is why I'm glad I no longer dance. The schedule, the hours, the choices I had to make... it stopped being fun and the best choice for me after a couple of years.

    I'd love to go back like once a week but I value my weekends and couldn't deal with the messed up sleep schedule. So there ya go.

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    yeah.... I spose you're right. it's easier to remember the fun parts instead of the pervs, stress, and impossible schedule.

    sigh.

    it would be better to say I miss *parts* of dancing.

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    I miss it.. alot. I say I'm only contemplating comming out of retirement, but I know it's going to happen. Now that I know I can live a great life without the income dancing brought in, I will have zero tolerance and patience for disrespectful customers and managers. When I get back into the scene, I'm sure I'll be walking out of clubs left and right. But I've found gems before, and I'm sure I'll find a great club I'm comfortable at and that meets my standards again. It may take bit of searching, but that's part of the adventure.
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    I miss it..... so much sometimes. I miss nights where I lived in VIP, where I made hundreds on stage, and where I had tons of people waiting for dances.

    I miss, mainly, being in demand, and knowing that I'm worth every penny. Now, I'm so out of it, I don't think I could break 200$.

    I do not miss: being a vampire, paying housefees and tips to people who do not deserve it, not knowing what that night will be like, having custys insult me, being belittled, being surrounded by drugs and alcohol, having my contact levels pushed by girls willing to do more for less, feeling like a fraud, keeping secrets, telling lies, having to be sexy to be worth money.... the list goes on.

    It'll be a cold day in hell when I put on those lucite heels again. Well... maybe I'd do an amature contest

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    I do not miss: being a vampire, paying housefees and tips to people who do not deserve it, not knowing what that night will be like, having custys insult me, being belittled, being surrounded by drugs and alcohol, having my contact levels pushed by girls willing to do more for less,
    ain't that the truth !!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by spacecadet View Post
    I miss it. I think it's a combination of missing being able to be really girly, and the ability to shamelessly manipulate guys. I can't do that anymore.... I have to be super-conservative just to be taken seriously.
    I can relate to this. I still dance, but I have a "serious" day job also. After dancing for a few years, where you have to put your body and your sexuality on flamboyant display every second, it does feel weird to put on pants and go into the sanitized, (supposedly) de-sexualized business environment.

    I find that I do use a lot of my stripper skills, though, and I'm sure you do to. Not that I'm flashing people or flirting to get what I want... not those skills.

    More like, the skills of doing cold reads of people and establishing rapport, figuring out what they want and making an offer that serves you both. That kind of stuff. Plus never really being intimidated by anyone -- especially the males around you, because you know in another situation you could have them on their knees. Just knowing this gives us power. If a guy tries to strong-arm you at work, picture him back in the CR begging to buy your thong.

    I think I'm actually a lot better at my day-job than I am at stripping, although it's stripping that taught me to be good at it in the first place. But all the lying, blood-sucking, blatant manipulation, fake intimacy, and people constantly pushing my boundaries... that's the stuff that is shuffling me towards retirement as we speak. And I really appreciate being in a day-job environment where that stuff is minimal.

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    Grace - ooooooh yes. I do use all of those skills. Part of my job is face-to-face consultations and sales. I would have nowhere NEAR as good a close rate if I hadn't danced. It's actually awesome. doncha love it?

    I really miss the "being in demand" feeling too.... guys falling all over themselves, total control.... I know I do well at my day job now, and as you all mentioned, there are things I'm so glad I don't have to deal with.

    haha.... maybe an amateur contest might take the edge off for a while. my bf would probly be thrilled, too..... I'll keep that in mind.

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    Don't know where you live, but if it's a city of any size there might be a neo-burlesque scene you could get involved with that might take the edge off the dancing craving. I think I'm going to seriously consider that after retirement (been interested for a while, but just no time right now to get into it the way I'd like) as well as getting back into bellydance.

    I wonder if I'll miss that "being in demand" feeling after a while. Right now I can't imagine, but after a few months I might miss getting stared down all night long.

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    I think you'll probly miss (parts of) it. like the stare-downs.

    I'll work on finding somewhere to satisfy the cravings.... hmm....

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    I never realized how much I missed dancing until I got a regular office job after graduating. Like others, I don't miss the perverts, the bad nights, the being treated like dirt and the managers who thought all dancers were sluts. I do miss the nights where I made more than I did for the week at my office job. I miss the actual dancing on stage. I just found a burlesque troupe by me. I'm checking into working with them.

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