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    Hi I'm new to the site and I'm looking to you for some support here. I've been dancing for almost 10 years and of course have seen and heard it all and developed quite a thick skin. I haven't stripped in 5 months due to burn out. I think I reached my breaking point when a customer pointed out, "Wow. You've been here a long time. You should be on your way out!" Other regular customers are starting to proposition me because they figure I have been there so long and I might be that desperate. And oh my god I hate being called a veteran! I have never done drugs or drank on the job and I have the face and body to prove it. I make really good money in there (that's why I want to return) but I feel apprehensive about going back. Any suggestions on how to overcome this negativity would be greatly appreciated.

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    My friend went through something similar. It really brought down her esteem too. Anyway, what she did was just move on to another club where she could be the new girl.







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    I second going on to another club. No one there will know how long you've been dancing or that you're a veteran, so you'll have a fresh start. Of course, you'll probably have to deal with THOSE club regulars propositioning you since you'll be new and they might think you don't know any better, but still.

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    an older girl at my club just came back after 6 wks with 20000 worth of lipo and body sculpting. she looks hot!

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    I think I reached my breaking point when a customer pointed out, "Wow. You've been here a long time. You should be on your way out!" Other regular customers are starting to proposition me because they figure I have been there so long and I might be that desperate.
    Do you think you would have been propositioned anyhow? That's a nightly occurrence from what I can see, whether you're 22 or 34.

    Also, it seems like the customer with that "advice" would have picked *anything* to hurt you because some assholes need to comfort themselves that they are somehow superior to a woman. If he thought calling you fat/skinny/short/tall would have hurt you, that's what he would have done. Since age/duration in this business is an issue, he went with that.

    Since you are a veteran and likely carry yourself as one (a very good thing), that might be threatening to a guy with no ego strength.

    Quote Originally Posted by ramona13 View Post
    I make really good money in there
    That's your bottom line. If you were not up for the job in some way, this wouldn't be true. the fact that you're a veteran is an asset, not a liability, and contributes to your good money.

    Another question: do you think this stuff would have bothered you maybe a year ago? Maybe you are experiencing burn-out that has nothing to do with the customers, your age, or the club. Are you due for a vacation, or is something else emotional going on that might be making you vulnerable?
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    Thank you for your replies. Think I needed some validation and I got it. To clarify, the propositions have changed character: from "how bout a one nighter" to "lets make an arrangement where we can meet three times a week so you won't have to do this" No big deal just kind of surprised me that it came from regulars who know that I don't do extracurriculars. Anyway I'm going back. Fuck em. Besides, how else will I pay for my 20000 makeover?

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    ^^Guys who proposition dancers are opportunists. They will wait till you seem vulnerable and then take whatever tack they think will be most persuasive. If I had to guess, I'd say you were a little burned out and this guy noticed and thought that gave him an opportunity. Fuck him. If you'd been 19 and brand-new, he would have told you you were "too nice to be here" and why don't you let him just "take care of you." It's always the same.

    You say you look good, feel good, and still make money, so obviously none of that is the issue. Make some changes to get your energy and confidence back (excercize is great for this, so is changing your hair, trying a new club...any kind of change to get you out of the rut) and go back and kick some ass. When you're on top of your game, the low-lifes won't proposition you and if they do you'll just laugh it off.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ramona13 View Post
    Anyway I'm going back. Fuck em. Besides, how else will I pay for my 20000 makeover?
    Fuck yeah! I love your attitude towards this situation. But if it eventually doesn't work out for you there, you can always move to a different club as others have said.
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