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    "So what...You don't find me attractive?"

    Sometimes I want to just up and ask customers this. This is usually the guy who seems so unsure about the dance. I know for alot of dancers it's looked down upon to typically beg and plead for a dance...so when is it ever ok to ask for a dance by asking the above question?

    I know for me, whenever I get a "no" or "maybe later" from a customer, by the 2nd round of asking I simply tell him "hey if you really don't want a dance from me, it's ok. Just tell me no thank you and I won't waste either of our time" Usually this gives the guy relief of saying thank you..or he'll be like "on no I really do want one..then he usually buys multiple.

    So is it ever wrong to just ask a guy (after hustling him) if he finds you attractive if he seems unsure to buy a dance?







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    Default Re: "So what...You don't find me attractive?"

    You could, but they'll probably lie or just say "you're not my type" and where does that really get you? If they're wavering it's probably them thinking about money, not you. If you were ugly they'd just say "no".

    I just don't see how their answer would do anything but make you're night more negative then it has to be. You're always going to be ugly to some one, hell tons of people, why get yourself deep into it?

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    Default Re: "So what...You don't find me attractive?"

    For me..i'd rather have someone tell me that I'm not their type. I can't change that no matter HOW hard I try..But I do want to kinda gauge how he views me..







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    Default Re: "So what...You don't find me attractive?"

    Quote Originally Posted by Joplin View Post
    I just don't see how their answer would do anything but make you're night more negative then it has to be.
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    Default Re: "So what...You don't find me attractive?"

    Quote Originally Posted by cinammonkisses View Post
    For me..i'd rather have someone tell me that I'm not their type. I can't change that no matter HOW hard I try..But I do want to kinda gauge how he views me..
    Why does it matter if he doesn't like you and isn't going to spend money on you?

    I think it's more effective to find things that people LOVE about you (for me it's my eyes, hair and ass) and play them up. That way the people who love eyes, hair, or ass can all see my best presentation of it.

    Assuming you would actually change something about yourself depending on what the guys who say "no" respond with (too fat, too thin, too brunette, too many highlights, too many piercings blah blah) you're going to end up in the "jack of all trades, master of none" situation. I'd rather attract people serious about loving my ass, hair or eyes and spend lots (because the other girls don't) than just looking okay everywhere and getting guys who just think that I have just okay eyes, ass or hair (just like all the other girls).

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    Default Re: "So what...You don't find me attractive?"

    CK, it's a time-wasting, self-deprecating question. I forbid you to ask that (LOL, by the powers vested in me?)!! It will only bring negative results, and what you need at work is 100% positivity. Trust me on this, instead of asking WHY he doesnt want the dance or IF he doesn't find you attractive, try the ultra sexy, "I think that now is the perfect time for my hot naked boobies to be all over you. Mmm, I just want to take off my clothes, and you should benefit!"

    If he says no, or hems and haws, to that, well, he's a waste of time (and maybe gay too), so don't bother coming back to him.

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    Default Re: "So what...You don't find me attractive?"

    OK, maybe u girls are right. I was just tryin to think of ways to be a bit more assertive. I feel like I let guys off the hook to easily sometimes...







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    Default Re: "So what...You don't find me attractive?"

    ^^^

    I don't think anything positive can come out of that, and I think it wastes your time.

    I mean, if he says no, that would make anyone feel bad, or maybe by anyone I mean me.

    Then if he says no you're attractive but I don't want a dance, you could waste so much time trying to hustle him and he still says no.

    Unfortunately the truth is not all guys in the club buy dances; some simply don't have the money, some don't enjoy them. You're a beautiful girl and it would be so much better for you just to target the men that do like you then waste your time fucking around with every Tom Dick and Harry in the club.
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    Default Re: "So what...You don't find me attractive?"

    I don't think there's any good way or reason to do it. I mean I understand I often want to do the same but they're probably either going to lie or make you feel bad, either of which is most definitely not going to help at all.
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    Default Re: "So what...You don't find me attractive?"

    Yeh, I agree with everyone else. Youre just setting yourself up to be dissed. Youre never gonna like the answers and custy is going think youre insecure.

    How many times has a guy said to you, "I dont want a dance, Im soo sorry cuz youre soooo booty-ful...blablabla"

    While I suppose you can occasionally guilt a guy by saying, "Dont you like me/think Im sexy? ect" Ive found that it rarely works unless you are ugly, lol.

    Before they even have a chance to say no, stick your boobs in his face and drag him away! haha!
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    Default Re: "So what...You don't find me attractive?"

    When a guy doesn't want a dance from me, it's because he has poor taste. OBVIOUSLY! Same thing in your case.
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    Default Re: "So what...You don't find me attractive?"

    I think it's incredible rude and embarrasing when a dancer says something like this.
    You will not appeal to every man who walks thru that door and u should not expect to.

    It makes u look pretty pathetic to turn around and act all insulted when they dont want a dance.

    Example:
    My bf is in a SC - the one i work at. I was in the dressing room buying an outfit for the grand prix (i wasn't working) and he was waiting for me in the club.
    a dancer came up and hustled him. he said nah im waiting for my girlfriend she is in the dressing room buying her outfit.
    so this dancer starts saying "oh you're just scared to get a dance" blah blah.
    he told me he almost told her to fuck off coz she was being so annoying about it.

    I wouldn't embarrass myself by acting all butt-hurt by getting turned down on a dance.
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    Default Re: "So what...You don't find me attractive?"

    NEVER ask this question. I know and I do NOT expect to be every custie's type. That's just the way it is. When the custy enters the SC, he is in an icecream shop. Almost everything looks sweet and yummy to him. You have to charm yourself into his wallet and convince him that YOU are the exact flavor he is looking for.



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    Default Re: "So what...You don't find me attractive?"

    ^What all these ladies said. It's uncouth, it wastes time, and there is no "right" answer. Don't do it.


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    All you need to know is if he will spend money on you or not. If not, just move on. Doesn't matter the reason why.

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    Default Re: "So what...You don't find me attractive?"

    If I were the customer, that would PISS ME OFF. I would probably just say no to be an ass, because you were being an ass to me.

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    Default Re: "So what...You don't find me attractive?"

    Quote Originally Posted by cinammonkisses View Post
    So is it ever wrong to just ask a guy (after hustling him) if he finds you attractive if he seems unsure to buy a dance?
    It seems intrusive to me; plus, it seems like it's setting the stage for the guy to fling some horrible abuse, especially if he thinks you're being passive aggressive. I also feel like you're giving up your power, especially as there's nothing productive that they could say. You'll hear their preferences - maybe, and those preferences may have something or nothing to do with your selling points.

    I can understand wanting to know, of course, though Sat. night I sort of got an answer. A guy said no to me each of three times I swept by him, but he bought dances from two other dancers. I thought about that and realized that I have zero curves compared to those girls and also lack a certain interpersonal "softness" that they have.

    But did I get the guy who wanted abs? Yes.
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    Default Re: "So what...You don't find me attractive?"

    Nah. So many guys have complained to me about girls who do this, and when I've witnessed it myself, it's just embarrassing for everyone. It comes across really clearly as an insecure question from a girl who's not having a good night.

    I have been known to tell a waivering "no" guy "Are you crazy? I'm HOT!" Said in the right way, it always gets a laugh and sometimes a dance. But even if they don't want one, you can come across as confident and leave on a funny note. You never know what other customers are watching you, and they can tell so much from your face and the face of the guy you're talking to. If people around you are laughing, you look fun. If people around you are hemming and hawing and looking uncomfortable, you look like someone who makes people uncomfortable. So even if you're not going to sell a dance to the guy you're with, you can start selling dances to the other guys before you even get up from the table.

    Joplin's right, too, in that it's just not a productive question. If a guys says, "No, sorry, I only like goth girls with lots of piercings" or whatever, what are you going to do? Run out and get a ton of piercings so you can sell one $20 dance to one dude?

    Don't worry about "letting guys off too easy." You can also look at it as figuring out as quickly as possible that someone doesn't want a dance, so you can move on. I spend very little time trying to sway guys who make it clear they aren't interesting. I don't care why they aren't interested, either. I just want to find the guy who IS.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mily View Post
    NEVER ask this question. I know and I do NOT expect to be every custie's type. That's just the way it is. When the custy enters the SC, he is in an icecream shop. Almost everything looks sweet and yummy to him. You have to charm yourself into his wallet and convince him that YOU are the exact flavor he is looking for.
    Please pardon a once-every-four-years reading/posting in HustleHut, but this was a beautiful analogy. Perfect. 31 delicious flavors, and they just can't fit 31 scoops on a single cone, even if it is one of those big waffle cones. We're forced to pick but a few, and walk out wondering how tasty the pistacio might've been. Or the coffee. And oh my god, did you see the size of the chunks on the mint chocolate chip!?

    Now I went and made myself hungry.
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    ^Hehehehe. Thanks, lestat. A customer actually taught me that when I was a newb.



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