(I tried sifting through old threads for advice, but I couldn't find any that applied... Sorry if this is old horse.)
We had an argument that thwarted my attempt to start dancing this week. He has the typical complaints- whining about how stripclubs are "bad" places with dirty and crazy men who think i'm nothing but meat and trash, and that they'll follow and hurt me somehow. It makes him sick to think about me naked and grinding on strangers, displaying myself for other men to fantasize about.
He thinks its naive that my friends and I think it's okay.
To summarize- He thinks its a really "bad" environment, that there are "better" things to do, and he doesn't want to "share" me with other people.
We tried to talk it out. I told him i still wanted to do it, but that I would think about it. As grating as it is to him, he's willing to try to understand- I recommended that he read some topics on Stripperweb.com to gain some insight about dancers as real and normal women, to see different sides of the topic, and he's also already asked around about talking to local strippers (who are friends) for advice.
We went out on a date yesterday, and I can tell he's trying SO HARD to improve our relationship. He's been a lot sweeter and wanting to spend a lot of time with me, probably thinking that if i'm "happier" with him, I won't start this job. Obviously, i want to be happy together, but i also want to start this job.
He is a good boyfriend, just a little square and stubborn around the edges sometimes... I'm not sure if "DUMP HIM" is the best solution here.
I'm pretty confused about what my options are. I want to start working this upcoming week. Am I supposed to give him more time? Should I ask for a "break" so i can start with a peace of mind? Should i go Taoist and just totally ignore him and these "problems" and start anyway, letting things happen however? How can i know this problem is deep-seated and whether or not I should accept our differences and break-up for real? Do significant others typically start out iffy on accepting it, then turn out okay over time?
Are there ANY better approaches to this issue?



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