Yeah... I thought "opening" the relationship seemed a little vague, but it seemed like a generic suggestion easier said than done, so I figured I would see how it evolves (if ever). It might just be a psychological tranquilizer, that dissolves once he feels more adjusted.
Recently we talked about our emotional bonds with each other, and it was established that, though we care about each other a lot, and really enjoy our time together, we're still in a gray area when it comes to "love" and "partnership" (we've been dating casually about six months). He made it pretty clear that it takes a while for him to grow into it, and that we need more time together to tell.
So... I'm trying to consider these things as learning experiences for us as a couple, to learn about each other. I figure that, he's getting used to this aspect of me, and how it affects (or how it doesn't affect) us; he might change his mind in a week or two, and we might find a better comfortable mode of operation. In any case, neither of us will know until i begin, and at least I can start with a peace of mind now.
On the other hand, I am still continually tracking the things he says and does, the way he thinks, and as I am learning about him (and Us), I will try to pass best judgment in terms of whether or not we should sustain the relationship.
I did think about whether or not other problems would arise, if he came up with new things that bothered him, etc. We might need to start over with new proposals, etc, but yeah, separating and just being friends is definitely always an option, especially if it's the least stressful one of all.
The past few days with him have been like the usual, if not better. I am pretty content with it... so far!




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