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    So I recently quit my day job which paid me shit so I'm only stripping for money now. One of the guys I worked with--someone I regularly chatted/kind of flirted with--knew about my night job and was good about keeping it hush-hush and didn't even blink when I blurted it out one day to him while we were filing.
    Well, since I've quit we still talk occasionally online and I randomly invited him to "stop in" to my club. Then I immediately said "Or would that be too weird?" He said it wouldn't be weird, that we were "professionals" and then asked what the best time for him to come in was.

    Now I feel a little odd. This is someone I worked with in a corporate environment and now he's gonna see me completely nude on a pole. I feel a little apprehensive about that. I don't know. Has anyone encountered friends/co-workers in your club and was it weird or changed the relationship you had with that person?


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    Can't you stay off the stage when he comes in? My bfs boss sometimes comes into my club and when hes there my club lets me stay off the stage as I really don't want my bfs boss seeing my boobies.
    If you can't do this, just call him and tell him your not working that night as somethings come up and rescedual for the day time.



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    Shouldn't it be less awkward now that you no longer work there? Or is this a "small town" thing where you'll see those coworkers at other places? Did you tell him to come in with the hopes he'd buy a dance from you? Otherwise, extending the invitation is kinda pointless, no? If he wanted to come in, he knew where find you, right? Seems to me the only logical reason you extend that offer is if you want them to come in.

    I'd say the only thing that would make that experience truly awkward would be if brings the rest of the office with him when he comes in.


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    I don't really know why I invited him, it was on a whim and mostly because we never see each other anymore due to my no longer working with him. And I have no free time to just hang out, you know? So I just thought "what the hell."
    I'm probably being worried for nothing. He won't bring co-workers with him, we were pretty much the only twenty-somethings in a sea of sixty-somethings.

    I think it'd be really weird to give him a lapdance. And Polekitten, no, we're required to get on stage when we're working.
    I don't know, I'm probably over-analyzing it. Maybe he'll come in, drop some cash on my stage, and it'll be a chance for us to catch up or something.

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    can i ask you how long you've been dancing?? i dunno.... i may have felt like this in the very beginning, but after a while you don't give it a second thought. maybe it depends on the person, but i doubt i'd care. they all meld together after a while...

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    I think the awkwardness of the situation (if he came in) would be driven entirely by your reaction to seeing him. If you just did your thing, but acknowledged him in a special way, that ought to be enough to alleviate the strangeness of it. Do something that will make him laugh, that's another great way to lift the veil of awkwardness. If both of you are thinking "is this weird?" the entire time he was there, that's the only way it would actually become weird. If he comes in, and you both just get over it quickly and move on, all will be fine.


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    Since October 2007...and I've never had anyone I know "in real life" come and see me dance before, which is probably why I'm so anxious, you know?

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    Biggieman: Yeah, I see your point. If I act weird, it WILL be weird. So I'll just pretend I have the clothes I wore at my day job on, haha.

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    lol, I had my old flatmate ask if he could come see me sometime! (although he's an scjunkie so I guess that's a lil different...)

    idk - I am of the school of thought it's only weird if you make it weird..

    would you feel awkward if you worked as a shopgirl and he came and bought stuff off you? It's your job, so... yeah

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    It will all depend on you. I am very proud and outspoken about being a dancer, which has led to a couple awkward public moments but overall makes life easier. All of my friends have seen me dance. While I know this is very unusual and alot of people think I'm wierd, I know I can be comfortable with my friends. Most of my friends are guys, and I dont want to worry about them having feelings for me or hidden agendas. The only ones who acted wierd were the ones who ended up wanting more, and were pretending to be friends to try to get close. This also helps my friend's girlfriends because they see exactly what I do and usually realize I'm no danger to them or thier relationship (tho the fact that I've been happily married for several years helps alot too).

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    It'll be weirder for him than it will be for you, probably... it wouldn't surprise me if he didn't show up after all.
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    Default Re: er..potential awkwardness?

    Quote Originally Posted by Laylalust View Post
    Biggieman: Yeah, I see your point. If I act weird, it WILL be weird. So I'll just pretend I have the clothes I wore at my day job on, haha.

    Oh man, you know what would be SO funny? If you decided to do a "sexy office" theme on the day he's supposed to come in. I don't know about his taste in humor, but I were in his place, I would think it's so awesome.

    Ok, but maybe he'd also get the wrong idea. Like "I'd been dying to do this for you back when when we worked together." Hahaha alright nevermind.

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    Ive had this happen. I invited friends from school into the club.... uhm, everyone got drunk and I gave my good friends husband lapdances. No awkwardness - probably because I didnt give a sh*t. But Ive been at this 7 years... my dad could walk in and Id be all "hi dad, could you like, leave before you see my boobs?"

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    I had the opposite happen. I recognise a guy in my office in my "day job" from the club. I'm pretty sure he recognises me too, 'cos he seems to avoid my eye, but that could just be a geeky lack of social skills thing

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