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    CRAZY new "regular"...need advice

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    so here is the thing:
    this past tuesday i was working at my home club and i met this really well tipping guy. during my set, he wasn't sitting at my stage... but when i went to collect my tips from the guys sitting at tables he handed me a $20 bill. so after i finished dancing on the other three stages, i came back to talk to him. we chatted for a while...and during our convo, he handed me $20's every few minutes...a little while later he had to leave....but he said he would come back on the next day i was working, which was thursday.

    thursday night:
    the guy came into the club while i was on stage. he sat down at my rail and tipped me in the usual $20 per song. he followed me to my other stages and tipped me there as well. after, we sat and had a drink with another dancer that he has known for a few years. when she left, he said he wanted to come back the next day to see me.

    friday night:
    guy comes back...sits at stages, tips...blah blah blah. i told him that i work at another club on saturday and sunday nights in SF and he sould come see me....that way i could give him some lapdances (because my home club doesnt offer LD's or TD's). i figured i could keep him as my first REAL regular...and having him come to my other club would be better because there is more money to be made by hustling...SOOOO i gave him my number ONLY because my schedule varies so much... and it would be easier for him to come see me if he could just call me and see which club i was going to be at

    saturday night:
    he comes to see me at my club in the city...only bought 4 $20 dances, but tipped me a $100 bill for the dances as well as another hundred or so on stage...ordered me food (because my shift was like 9 hours and i hadn't eaten) and before he left he gave me another $50 for gas because i live an hour away.

    so this guy has spent somewhere close to $600 on me this week, so i really want to keep him around, problem is...he calls me all the time and he keeps texting me things like "i'm just so crazy about you." "i was thinking about you all day" "do you like me?" you know...the works....on saturday he even asked me how much i would charge him to kiss me for an entire song....EWW...not gonna happen...i don't kiss customers. oh yea...he "claims" to have dated one of the dancers at my home club for a year...whom im VERY cool with...dunno how true that is though...

    i told him im dating somebody but i don't have a boyfriend (which is true)...i just don't know what to do to be able to keep him as a reg, but let him know i don't want to date him AT ALL...

    please help me...sorry so long...i just wanted to make sure you guys had the whole story.

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    Default Re: CRAZY new "regular"...need advice

    WOW! Interesting story. It sounds like you're just gonna have to feel this out for a bit. I'd say time and stringing him along for a little while, if you need the money. The advances and creepy texts are going to really start to work your nerves pretty quickly though if they already haven't.

    I'd just say give it some time and definately talk to your friend whom he claimed to date before. It'll be interesting to hear what she'll have to say, I think.

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    Sounds like you have an 'out' with the friend he used to date. You're so close, you don't want to make her uncomfortable, you'll have to talk to her first before deciding, etc. You know, like bros before hoes or any of those stupid sayings.

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    Default Re: CRAZY new "regular"...need advice

    This guy isn't a long term reg, once he realises he can't date you he'll lose interest, you'll be able to string him along for a bit but these guys never last long. To slove the problem with him calling you buy another phone and tell him your changing your number then keep the other phone for custys, that way you won't have him calling you every 5 mins and you can just check your messages at the end of the day and get back to him on your terms.



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    ^^I haven't necessarily found that to be true. But in general, the more hooked regulars are and the more money they spend at the beginning, the quicker they burn out. A guy who is coming to see you every time you work sounds a little obsessed, and I'm not surprised that he's already pushing for dates and such. You may be able to make excuses and keep him around for a few weeks, but more than likely he will not be a long-term regular. Don't sweat it, and don't compromise yourself to keep him. They are plenty more where he came from.

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    I think it's a really good idea if you're going to give customer's your phone number, to get a seperate cheapy pay as you go type one that you can moniter, just like PoleKitten said.

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    Default Re: CRAZY new "regular"...need advice

    thanks ladies...i've somehow managed to get him to back off a little. now all is well. he doesn't give me AS MUCH money, but he is still usually my best tipper....i think i'll be able to keep him around for a while if things keep going the way they have this week...

    just an update...
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    ^^ Tell us how you did it/what you said!
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    ^Pssssttttt, your stripper is showing.

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    ^^^ i'm really not even sure....whenever he would ask "do you like me?" i would say something like "you know i get along with everybody...you seem like a nice person." or when he would ask to go out somewhere, i would tell him i had a bunch of errands to run before work, but ask him if he wanted to come into the club later and hang out for a while...i tried to make the sittuation more neutral...by showing him that i don't have time to meet with people OTC because i have a million other things going on (which i really dont)....so the only time i have to spend with him is while im at work...but i let him know he can still call me for a quick chat...that way i can still keep him comming in to spend....

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