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    I have an awful, debilitating fear of spiders, and there seems to be an unusually large amount of them living in my apartment. Of course I am a nervous wreck at least twice a day, sometimes leading to panic attacks and crying.
    Tonight, nobody was around to kill a particularly large one, which was on the CEILING (the worst possible place for me to see one because I am convinced it will fall on my head) and it was brown. I thought it might have been a brown recluse but it could have been my fear making that up. I don't really know what they look like and frankly I am too terrified to research it. I called Jess and he talked me through killing it with a mop while he was at work, which was shitty for him since he had so much work to do and my call was very distracting.
    I was hysterical and woke the baby up with my crying. Eventually I smashed it to death on the floor with the mop and drowned it after it was dead. Yep.
    As you can see, this is really not something I want to live with anymore. I don't want to teach my daughter to react this way to things. She's becoming sensitive to my moods and it upsets her when I'm upset. Not good. I'm almost embarrassed to admit the level of fear I have and how much power a stupid insect can have over me.
    Has anyone dealt with a phobia, and how did you do it?

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    Um, sort of. I have always had pretty severe arachnophobia, but it as been reduced the more I'm forced to be around and learn about them. It's still one of my main fears when I go to tropical countries (yep, more than disease), but learning about them and their 'psychology' (if you can call it that) has helped a bit.

    Sorry I can't be of more help...I totally get it, and will be watching this thread.

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    I sort of have too - I wont / cant pick spiders up, but I can live with them no problem.
    Moving to Australia where the spiders are so much bigger and deadlier for somereason seemed to help. Im not sure how that worked but it did /-:

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    Nope, hate the fuckers, with a passion.

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    ^Sort of like a "you don't have a choice" thing? That doesn't work with me. Once, in college I almost got into a car accident because one was crawling across the inside of my windshield! The worst is when I'm with some Wiccan or hippie type person who won't LET me kill the spider because it's against their belief system. In the process of trapping it and setting it free, it usually gets free and then I can't rest until I find and kill it. Prolonging it's capture and death makes the panic worse for me.

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    Rational Emotive Therapy. which is also known as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

    Your thinking is completely wrong. You are in control, not some tiny bug. See, you killed it, didn't you? That tiny thing should have been so scared of you, but it's stupid and has no idea where it is or whom it's deaing with. You OK now?
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    Quote Originally Posted by threlayer View Post
    Rational Emotive Therapy. which is also known as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

    Your thinking is completely wrong. You are in control, not some tiny bug. See, you killed it, didn't you? That tiny thing should have been so scared of you, but it's stupid and has no idea where it is or whom it's deaing with. You OK now?
    Um no, I'm not okay. Because it's going to happen again. I know my fear is irrational. That's why it's a phobia.

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    Yeah and that's why RET or CBT will help.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

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    I am the SAME way, alexxa. I foudn one on my balcony today, and couldn't even kill it. I just had a panic attack, and ran back inside. Thankfully i've NEVER had a spider inside this apartment, but anytime there's been one indoors around me, its a combination of crying, screaming, passing out, and embarassment. Thats the ONE thing that makes me wish i had a roomie. I wish they could be the spider killer.
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    I used to have a fear of bees, but now I work in the garden right beside them doing their thing.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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    I kind of want to contact a therapist about this, but they are really expensive usually. Has anyone used those self hypnosis CDs?

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    Aww, I wish you didnt kill them too. Can you work at letting them be set free outside? Ive always been ok with that for some reason...

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    I'm terrified of spiders too. And I get a lot of them in my house because it's surrounded by trees. Talk about fun. I wish I had something to say that would be more helpful, but I will definitely be following this thread to see what people have to say. Good luck! If you find something that helps, but sure and let me know!

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    Quote Originally Posted by MsQwerty View Post
    Aww, I wish you didnt kill them too. Can you work at letting them be set free outside? Ive always been ok with that for some reason...
    Heh - I wish I could just let it be and not be bothered by it's existence at all. Trapping it forces me to be near it. I kill them with brooms or mops so I don't have to be near them at all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by needtodance View Post
    I am the SAME way, alexxa. I foudn one on my balcony today, and couldn't even kill it. I just had a panic attack, and ran back inside.
    That's my reaction too- I can't kill them, even though I want to, because 1. dead spider mess is about as scary as moving-spider, and 2. fear of retribution (yeah...).

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    Quote Originally Posted by scarlett_vancouver View Post
    dead spider mess is about as scary as moving-spider, and 2. fear of retribution (yeah...).
    OMG, I know! Well, about the dead spider mess and fear of retribution (like I don't get it and it comes to attack me later. Real rational, I know. ) Anyways, I had to kill a freaking huge one earlier today b/c I was terrified at the thought of it being in the house. How I got the balls to do it, I dunno. But yeah, it was with babies. I had all these little spiders crawling around everywhere after I smooshed it! You should have seen me screaming and jumping around, lol.

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    Yup girl I hate them too ....add snakes and sharks to my list .....I cant even put my toes in the water here in FLorida with out SHAKING !!!!! I ran out screaming last summer ...over some seaweed ....its awful
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    Nope, hate the fuckers, with a passion.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sindi View Post
    .....I cant even put my toes in the water here in FLorida with out SHAKING !!!!! I ran out screaming last summer ...over some seaweed ....its awful
    OMG, I'm the same way. Last summer, when a good friend and I went to Galveston we were screaming like little babies out in the water anytime something touched our legs cause we're scared of jellyfish.

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    Yup, I did. RET. I had to talk myself thru it the first time, and yes, STILL i see one on the ceiling and I freak a little. But then I tell myself, You know, self, that spider is SO much more scared of you, and raid will kill it (haha). For me, though, my fear of spiders in my hair is fairly rational since at age 5 i had extremely long hair and my dad dropped one (accidentally) in my hair. Then again, your fear is rational too since spiders can fall. Anyways, on topic... I don't have the same kind of panic attacks I used to. Retinal therapy, like a charm.

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    Please when you find yourself in a garage and there is one near the door you must go in through and you start to breath fast and sweat and begin to feel as if things are touching you and you can't move, then you see bottles of water and you toss about 4 or 5 until one tada gets the little disgusting, hairy, creepy bastard and once you see it shrivel up and die and you run like a maniac inside still shaking then you got a problem cause that happened to me not too long ago.

    This was before the giant fucker in the cat litter pan.

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    Those are the only things that I'm deathly afraid of. I immediately start crying and freaking when I see one any bigger than my pinky nail. Once, a jumping type was on my knee while I was on the phone. I completely lost it on the phone, then proceeded to take my pants off:p
    I was bitten as a kid by a large one in my shoe. I started screaming about a bee being in my shoe....that's how much it hurt! I'll never get the picture out of my head, especially the two little fang marks that showed up when we used peroxide on it. I'm not sure how much that has to do with my fear and hatred now. I don't think I was ever particularly fond of em.
    I did see a tiny spider on my bathroom wall once that I actually thought was cute. It was gray with blue eyes, just like Charlotte. It fell in the bath with me and I tried my darndest to save it:p

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    When I see a spider...I leave the room. Homie can have the whole fucking place to himself, I am waaaayyyy too terrified to share a space with even the tiniest of spiders. I just got chills thinking about it.
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    So I looked up RET and found a holistic psychotherapist in my area who uses it. I will give him a call later to see what treatment might consist of and how much it costs.

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    Alexxa. I have a little house spider living on my bathroom windowsil as Im pretty sure its helping me get over my spider phobia.

    I used to scream and panic and jump about, sometimes retch untill Im sick,then check myself after every single tiny itch on my body for hours after seeing a spider and I live alone so have to do something about this. No one is going to get rid of them for me.

    Anyway, Iv named this little spider (Trevoreenie, was Trevor, then read that male spiders are nomadic, so this ones a girl). I watch her everyday. She will grow up to be a large house spider but she is doing that very slowely. So Im getting used to her. Iv become quite attached to her. I can watch her and work out all her bits and peices on her body, as one of the things that got to me about spiders is that they just one big scurrying black mess. But not anymore.

    She has been in the bathroom for about 6 months , and in this time Iv calmly got rid of 3 massive house spiders with a glass and card. Iv even been able to set the glass down and have a look at them. This week one ran out of behind a cushion and I just `Aaah, you look like the one I got out the kitchen last week`
    So calm.

    So maybe get yourself a little (very little) Trevoreenie so help you overcome this?
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