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    Default I got my worst customer and I dont know how to get over the experience

    okay, this isnt about what I shouldve done, or what you wouldve done. I knew I shouldve just walked out. I had nothing to lose he had paid for just one dance with a card that was it. Ive danced on and off in Japan for 2 years and Im pretty used to the contact and dealing with wrestling persistent hands often.

    Okay so I sit down with the man and he is automatically wanting a private dance, and starts immediately asking about "finish". So im super Vague about it and tell him he gets me naked, and manage to close a deal for one dance.

    We get into the room The huge disgusting repulsive man sits down and pulls his tiny dick out. This was my first time dealing with the dreaded "whip-it-out" type. I tell him to put it back and he does, only to put it out again. I settle dancing around it like and idiot and he tries to push me on it and keeps kneading the shit out of my ass and breasts, and even tried to touch my asshole. The whole time i keep backing off but for the sake of finishing the time ("he kept saying stupid shit like theres still 3 minutes still 3 minutes") I just keep dancing around it letting this man come at me with his hands and begging me to touch it.

    It was pretty traumatic and i dont know how im going to get over CHOOSING to deal with those 5 minutes even though nothing illegal happened.
    I just feel so fucking horrible that I wasnt strong enough to just walk out . I need help dealing with finally meeting this kind of customer, I knew it was coming eventually but jesus I dont know what to do with myself, and Im prepared to keep working and everything, but how did you get over your first shitaceous moments like this?

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    Default Re: I got my worst customer and I dont know how to get over the experience

    hey girl,

    Yeah, that sucks. I've definently been there. A lot of getting over it for me is just letting myself be as angry as I deserve to be. Maybe it take a couple of shifts for me to get back into having a good attitude towards the customers in general, maybe just till the end of the night (I guess just depending on how far into said shift I've gotten). I get really hostile but I use it to my advantage, becoming the super-snotty, demanding bitch dancer who barks an order until she gets what she wants from the scum men in the room. Sometimes it works, sometimes I spend a lot of time alone.
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    What do you mean nothing illegal happened? I can see like 6. Wanker.


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    but how did you get over your first shitaceous moments like this?
    Well you learn from them. In your situation you need to define what your boundaries are. IMO once a guy "whips it out" that should be grounds to end the dance. Some dancers will give guys a second chance if they have "roaming hands." You always need to be upfront and clear about what YOUR rules are. If I have to wrestle their hands a majority of the time it's time to end the dance. Everyone in the world not just dancers experience moments of their lives where they were weak and get the "should have's." You can't change the past. Just get over it and learn to stick up for yourself.

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    learn from this experience and move on hun. u need to set boundaries. if the custie pulls their dick out ill tell them thats their last chance..."u pull it out again or touch me inappropratly again the dance is over...no second chances." it really does suck babe but unfortunatly u have to learn to be a bitch in these cicumstances xx

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    Thanks girls, I knowI felt pressured to deal with it because of time and the fact that i did play pretty vague about what he was getting.
    I would never answer yes to any of that crap to get him into private, but once there for some reason i felt obligated to roll with the position I kind of got myself into. I gaurded my personal limits the whole time, but still felt like I signed up to be a victim for about 3 minutes wayy too long.


    I guess i was afraid of management of finding out that I worded something the wrong way. But looking back i dont think he wouldve tattled. Or i wouldve gotten shit for it either.

    It was a kind of hustle where i was way in over my head, but its a very slow club and more af a wine/champagne pushing place. So if first minute of conversation you can make an instant 40 bucks, I had a reflex to at least psyche him into thinking something.

    What do most girls feel about this kind of bait and switch? Is it like a second nature, or is it seriously looked down upon. I dont want to alienate my peers by admitting I am willing to sell a dance like that.

    yeah and by the way, i can feel my tolerence and bitchability levels adjusting after this experience. for sure.

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    I'm soo sorry that you got an asshole like that to deal with. I'd like to say that I would have left hooked his moronic ass, but in all reality I may have ended up doing exactly what you did. It sucks when you fall into that mode of thinking and hopefully you can move on and realize that all you can do is learn from the experience.
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    I think it's times like these that help you to remember why boundaries are boundaries... they're not arbitrary rules, they're there to protect you from feeling this way the next day. It's like they're saying, "hey. You. Working WAYYY too hard here."

    I've worked at clubs before where it was super hard to make money if you didn't put up with some jerks trying to get "their money's worth" instead of walking away. I hate to say it, but it's going to end up wearing on you if this kind of thing is happening constantly, or if you're always trying to defend yourself against it happening. The constant feeling of having to fight for even basic respect and a little bit of money is really draining.

    Maybe look into a few other clubs. Most of them have an element of this kind of thing to them, but not all of them are going to be the same night in, night out, with rare exception.
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    Hi, buddy, thanks for your article.

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    I would warn them once and only once. The second time that happens with the same customer, walk out. You don't have to worry about them telling a superior that they were jipped. And I wouldn't feel guilty about it either. Keep your money-it isn't your fault that his character was flawed. Hun, the only way to mantain your compusure in these situations is to take no responsibility for the actions of others. Do the best you can with what you are comfortable with. Yes, it might mean making less money. You decide what it's worth to you.
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    pulling out the dick has never happened to me but i have ended the dance if the guy even starts to put his hands down his pants. guys like that arent going to buy more than one dance, its better just to end the dance asap and make them feel "ripped off" then if possible humiliate them in front of security or management and hope they get kicked out. its not worth the nasty unsanitary shit that could go on from them touching their genitals and then touching you

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