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    Default Problem at work with ex-boyfriend :(

    Ok, so here's what happened tonight. I hope I don't sound like I'm just bitching, I really would like some input on this. Especially if anyone thinks I overreacted.

    I dated a floorhost at my club for over a year. Serious dating. We lived together, took vacations with our families, talked about getting married. We broke up a few months ago. No drama, just broke up. We have remained VERY good friends. We NEVER had a problem working together, before or after the breakup.

    One rule we had was that his friends/family could not come into the club when I was working. Fair right? Who wants to sit across the table at christmas dinner from a cousin who has seen you naked with dollar bills in your thong? We have had LONG discussions and a few arguements about this. The rule was set in stone over a year ago.

    He asked me at work tonight if I'd be okay if 10 or so of his (our) guy friends came in. Appearently it was for a b-day party, they already rented a limo blah blah blah. He said "well you can just not go on stage, right?" Excuse me? I have to sarifice not only my stage money but the chance for customers to SEE me dance? Stage is my (and most stripper's) advertising! Not to mention our lap dance room is pretty open, now that's something our friends should see me doing? And have we not gone over and over this before?

    I was dumbfounded that he even THOUGHT this would be ok. After I gave a flat out NO, I asked "well do YOU want your friends to see me naked?" He said "of course not". I told him I couldn't skip stage cuz I needed to make money. Then, with all the sarcasm an ex-girlfriend can have... "if you are ok with them seeing me naked, then I guess I have to be".

    Next thing I know, he says he called his friends in and told them "its ok to tip her on stage but no getting lapdances".

    Arrrrgghhhh!
    I flipped out. Yelled and swore the whole bit. I went home after being there 2 hours with NO money. Told him he owed me my house and tipouts.

    Now, the question is, why am I so upset? And i am UPSET. Is it just he's an idiot and can't remeber a simple rule? Is it cuz he put his friends over me? Is it cuz it apears that he doesn't care about our friends seeing me naked anymore? Is it cuz all my bills are due and by someone else's fault I couldn't even work tonight?

    And also, regardless of him working at the club, how would you handle it if your non-coworker boyfriend said his friends could all go in when you were working?

    Advice pleeeease
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    And try to find somebody whose life has given them vodka and have a party."
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    Default Re: Problem at work with ex-boyfriend :(

    Shit, that's a tough one... He really wasn't thinking about that. On one hand, since you two broke up, it shouldn't be an issue. On the other, it was still totally disrespectful.

    I'd be PISSED if my bf told his friends to go see me. Talk about awkward. Then again, I think my bf would freak out the most.

    If I were you, I'd have a serious talk with him about new relationship rules (since you're just friends, now). What's done is done, so you might as well make sure it doesn't happen again.
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    Default Re: Problem at work with ex-boyfriend :(

    IMO, I'd be pissed if my bf did that to me. However, you two broke up and I don't really think you should be that mad. I mean, if he still has to follow that rule then should he have to follow the rules of taking out the trash, walking the dog etc.?

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