Results 1 to 10 of 10

Thread: How do I tell my mum?

  1. #1
    Newbie
    Joined
    Apr 2008
    Posts
    11
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default How do I tell my mum?

    Hey guys! I'm 20 and living at home with my mum. I auditioned about a week ago for a club and got accepted so now I just need to sign some papers and then I can start anytime. I am really excited and I like the look of the club and everything is super duper except I feel like a total bitch for not telling my mum about any of this. We have a really good relationship and I see her as a friend and in some ways she's really open minded but... I just have no idea how she'll react. I have tried to test the waters a bit by randomly bringing up stripper related topics in conversation (I think I've "casually" mentioned that Diablo Cody used to be a stripper about a million times) but her responses are so vague and unreadable. I could lie to her and tell her I'm working in a bar or an all night cafe or something but then if she ever did find out I think she'd be really hurt that I kept it from her. If anyone has any stories about their own coming out or general advice about it, or cures for guilt, it would be sooo wildly appreciated. Thank you!

  2. #2
    Featured Member desavirsire's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2005
    Posts
    868
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 4 Times in 4 Posts

    Default Re: How do I tell my mum?

    You could start out by telling her you bartend or waitress at a stip club, test the waters a bit. Then once you feel she is ready to hear it tell her you switched to dancing. This will give you time to break any misconceptions about dancers and strip clubs (If she has any.) By the time you tell her you have started dancing she will probably will have asked any questions or voiced any concerns she may have. Good luck!

  3. #3
    God/dess pookie's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2006
    Location
    Germany
    Posts
    3,508
    Thanks
    6
    Thanked 36 Times in 6 Posts

    Default Re: How do I tell my mum?

    I would either tell her the truth or dont say anything at all




  4. #4
    Member
    Joined
    May 2008
    Posts
    13
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: How do I tell my mum?

    If you two have a good relationship, why wouldn't you be honest? Just let her know why you are doing this.... and what benefits you forsee from dancing. Mention that you love/trust her enough to even bring it up, and you could have just concealed it. Is there any chance she'll disown you or something if she finds out?

    I just flat-out told my mom.... she was shocked, and didnt want to know many details. I told her if she was ever curious to come poke her nose around here, and when she did (because mothers are damn nosy) she seemed to feel a little more at ease with the situation. With me, honesty goes a long way.... but I never had a fear that someone would actually want nothing to do with me once I was honest about *attempting* to dance. Parents love unconditionally....

    If things go sour, you could tell her that you could be doing herion, and molesting cattle... and try to show her that things could be much, much worse. Good luck!

  5. #5
    God/dess shasta's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2005
    Posts
    2,175
    Thanks
    778
    Thanked 658 Times in 317 Posts
    My Mood
    Breezy

    Default Re: How do I tell my mum?

    imo, you don't.

  6. #6
    God/dess carmen_b's Avatar
    Joined
    Apr 2007
    Location
    the mountains ....
    Posts
    14,201
    Thanks
    15,165
    Thanked 21,344 Times in 9,307 Posts

    Default Re: How do I tell my mum?

    ^ With Shasta for me too.

    Since you live there .... I'd say move out with roomates or something before you dance.

  7. #7
    Featured Member pinkpvc's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2006
    Location
    UK
    Posts
    1,012
    Thanks
    130
    Thanked 252 Times in 117 Posts
    My Mood
    Angelic

    Default Re: How do I tell my mum?

    \I am not dancing at the moment because my mum found the phone number of a club i was thinking of moving to in the phone and confronted me. I tried to bs my way out but in the end we had a showdown where i only said i was *thinking* of dancing and she was in tears. I felt guilty the whole time i was dancing too.
    I never did tell her that i was already dancing.
    I am moving out soon and think i will be starting dancing again but i just will not mention a thing to her. Hopefully the guilt will be less because there will be less sneaking around but i also think what she doesn't know cannot hurt her.

    I would test your mother, tell her a friend of yours has thought about dancing at a strip club and gauge her reaction. If things are going well say you had thought about doing it too. If she acts badly don't tell her but just be aware yu will feel VERY guilty for a long time.

  8. #8
    Veteran Member Electrum's Avatar
    Joined
    Apr 2008
    Location
    If I was up your butt you'd know, Michigan
    Posts
    738
    Thanks
    16
    Thanked 38 Times in 30 Posts
    My Mood
    Daring

    Default Re: How do I tell my mum?

    It really depends. Would she kick you out if she was too offended? If not, I don't see the harm in telling her the truth. Honestly, I have a great relationship with my parents and I've found out the hard way that it is SO much better to tell them the truth than to get caught in a lie, or even worse, have the truth come around to them via someone's loud mouth. If she has a tendency to kick you out or freak out, don't tell her. I thought my mom would freak out about it, but now she's actually freaking out because I'm taking my sweet ass time "preparing" to audition, or whatever the fuck I'm waiting for. She keeps on telling me to do it already! hehehe.

    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Lysondra
    I had previously stuck the bananas and cucumber in my cooter, yes.

  9. #9
    Newbie
    Joined
    Apr 2008
    Posts
    11
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: How do I tell my mum?

    Hey everyone! Thank you all so much for the advice. I told my mum just a little while ago, just flat out, and she responded so well. She screamed in shock at first and then started laughing a little hysterically but then told me that if it was what I wanted to do and as long as I was safe, she didnt think there was anything wrong with it. Hahaha I am so happy! Thank you!

  10. #10
    Veteran Member Electrum's Avatar
    Joined
    Apr 2008
    Location
    If I was up your butt you'd know, Michigan
    Posts
    738
    Thanks
    16
    Thanked 38 Times in 30 Posts
    My Mood
    Daring

    Default Re: How do I tell my mum?

    Awesome news! My mom is glad that I had a fun time at my first amature night. Apparently she was really worried that I'd become emotionally traumatized or something lol. Nope! She's happy for me. Good luck!

    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Lysondra
    I had previously stuck the bananas and cucumber in my cooter, yes.

Similar Threads

  1. friends mum
    By gamergal in forum Newbie Board
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 11-28-2010, 10:24 PM
  2. my mum is gay!
    By sexy_celeste in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 13
    Last Post: 11-30-2008, 12:01 AM
  3. bf hitting on mum
    By tinadancer4u in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 29
    Last Post: 06-13-2007, 04:10 AM
  4. costumes and mum
    By tinadancer4u in forum Body Business
    Replies: 13
    Last Post: 06-10-2007, 08:05 PM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •