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    To the childed ones and people with extensive experience with kids:

    Are kids able to sense that something is wrong, and act out? If your marriage is bad, or if stability is shaken, or if there are problems at school, etc, are kids somehow able to detect problems even if you try to cover them up? I'm asking this because my little brother is having problems, and I seriously suspect family problems manifesting themselves in his behavior. In retrospect, I think that a lot of my problems as a kid and teen stemmed from my bad environment as well.

    Any thoughts? Experiences? Stories? Thanks.
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    Default Re: Do kids have a sixth sense about problems?

    Do kids have a sixth sense about problems...the short answer is yes; So do grown ups. There is small thing in the back of the nasal cavity called the vomeronnasal organ that allows them to "feel" that there is something wrong, even if some or all of the other five senses are telling them otherwise.

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    Yep. That's why you should always be upfront about what is going on with your kids. If Joe and I are having a "private" argument, we don't try to pretend that everything is fine. We will tell Makayla that mommy and daddy are having a disagreement.

    There's nothing I hate more than seeing an obvioulsy stressted out/angry parent yelling to their child, "Everything is fine."

    But, I'm not into hiding my emotions. When I'm sad, I say it...when I'm angry, I admit it and when I'm hormonal, I'm honest about it. heh

    I don't want my kids growing up not trusting their intuition...and by denying that there is a problem or what not...that's exactly what happens.

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    Default Re: Do kids have a sixth sense about problems?

    yes, but imo it's not so much they can somehow 'sense' it but that we just don't hide it as well as we think we can. i feel children are sometimes more observant of us than we are of them.

    does it manifest itself as a 'problem child' or 'child with problems'? sometimes. but sometimes they bury it deep down. i've seen both firsthand.

    it's actually easier when it's overtly displayed as 'problems' imo. the ones that bury it deep down people often completely miss. (again, we're not as observant of children as they are of us sometimes)

    i totally agree with vg, i don't believe in hiding my emotions from my kids and vice-versa.

    i also agree that bad environments don't help kids either. it's tough enough to grow up, period. who needs a difficult environment to add on top of that?

    good luck with your little bro, hat. it's nice to have an older sibling that went thru the gauntlet first, you may be able to help him thru a lot of the crap he might be experiencing.

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    Default Re: Do kids have a sixth sense about problems?

    Quote Originally Posted by Hatshepsut View Post
    To the childed ones and people with extensive experience with kids:

    Are kids able to sense that something is wrong, and act out? If your marriage is bad, or if stability is shaken, or if there are problems at school, etc, are kids somehow able to detect problems even if you try to cover them up? I'm asking this because my little brother is having problems, and I seriously suspect family problems manifesting themselves in his behavior. In retrospect, I think that a lot of my problems as a kid and teen stemmed from my bad environment as well.

    Any thoughts? Experiences? Stories? Thanks.
    No, kids aren't able to tell if anything is wrong with their parents unless the parents give them signals.

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    Kids don't know jack...now...get off my lawn you little whippersnappers!!!!

    Seriously, we all have instincts. This includes children. We all have the ability to sense when things are not quite right. With children these senses are a bit more acute. Primarily, because they are so young and inexperienced at life that they may not understand what they are feeling.

    They can sense something wrong, but not understand that feeling or what is actually wrong. This can lead to the development of insecurities. This is why it is important to communicate with them. It is a part of the Life teaching experience that is the job of all parents.

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    They may not have a 6th sense like a magical ability, but they are incredibly perceptive at reading body language, tone of voice etc.

    Mr Hyde, I dont think people realise how loudly they scream their signals to the world, especially for a child whos social interaction is mainly confined to the home. Who's every move is dictated to by (or hinges on) the adults in their house. I think it is very likely a kid who's family is a bit rocky, who mysteriously starts acting out is reacting to the stresses in their home.

    I think we as parents are kidding ourselves if we think we can have a toxic home environment and the kids wont notice or be affected.
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    It is not some special power that kids have and adults don't. More often it is the perception of adults that kids don't understand things at a younger age when they clearly do.
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    Quote Originally Posted by VenusGoddess View Post
    I don't want my kids growing up not trusting their intuition...and by denying that there is a problem or what not...that's exactly what happens.
    This statement should win the Quoted For Truth Award.

    Guess what my mother did when I told her I was being abused? She told me "Pretend it's not happening" and just left it at that. In fact, whenever there was a problem, my parents just went into denial and pretended that everything was fine when it absolutely wasn't. And guess what it did to me??

    My intuition got completely f*cked up. I've trusted in all the wrong people, and pretended that bad things weren't happening around me not by choice, but by the way I was conditioned. Then I had a spiritual experience that healed me, and now I pay attention to my feelings and my intuition and it never guides me wrong. Now I see things as they are, and won't let people f*ck with me.

    Yes, children are intuitive. Adults are too.

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    Default Re: Do kids have a sixth sense about problems?

    Hat:

    IMO, most appropriately bonded kids have spent their lifetimes observing their parents closely and have become experts at anticipating parental moods and actions. Even when adult issues lie beyond their comprehension, many children may experience the emotionally radioactive verbal/nonverbal fallout of the problem(s) intensely...

    Children are naturally wired to take their cues regarding the environment from parental behavior, and they learn to trust/mistrust their surroundings based on what's modeled for them.

    "Dysfunctional families" and their "problems" seem to promote maladaptive behaviors in their children that are magnified by the distance between the family's conceived ideals and their children's perceived realities.

    Just my

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    That's what I was trying to say... but you made it sound much more intelligent!

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    IMO, most appropriately bonded kids have spent their lifetimes observing their parents closely and have become experts at anticipating parental moods and actions. Even when adult issues lie beyond their comprehension, many children may experience the emotionally radioactive verbal/nonverbal fallout of the problem(s) intensely...

    Children are naturally wired to take their cues regarding the environment from parental behavior, and they learn to trust/mistrust their surroundings based on what's modeled for them.

    "Dysfunctional families" and their "problems" seem to promote maladaptive behaviors in their children that are magnified by the distance between the family's conceived ideals and their children's perceived realities.

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    ^^ I think that you stated it more concisely, Flick6...

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    Not to get too much of topic, but I feel that dogs (and monkeys) definitely have a 'sixth' sense and know when something is up with the humans they interact with. That's why I love them so much!!!! If animals could talk...
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    Yes. When I was younger, I knew one my mother's boyfriend cheated on her, before she found out...she found evidence of it. I could just feel that he cheated. I don't really know why, but I have always been in tone with other peoples emotions even when they don't say anything. Always have.
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    Oh hell yes kids have a sixth sense! I think some of them learn to ignore it, but if thre's one thing I've ever learned it's that you can not hide a problem from especially an emo kid. Since emos like dark and sad, their sixth sense is overdeveloped and they can read the problems of anyone on the street like a book.
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    Yes. I've seen tons of situations in which the parents think "Johnny doesn't know what is going on" when certainly he does.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hatshepsut View Post
    To the childed ones and people with extensive experience with kids:

    Are kids able to sense that something is wrong, and act out? If your marriage is bad, or if stability is shaken, or if there are problems at school, etc, are kids somehow able to detect problems even if you try to cover them up? I'm asking this because my little brother is having problems, and I seriously suspect family problems manifesting themselves in his behavior. In retrospect, I think that a lot of my problems as a kid and teen stemmed from my bad environment as well.

    Any thoughts? Experiences? Stories? Thanks.
    Yes, children feel these things. Because children are less likely to "rationalize" away their emotions, they pick up on this stuff and behave accordingly. So yes, they detect and behave based on those emotional issues.....without convincing themselves that they're wrong....a handy adult tool that we all have.
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    Thanks for all your stories and responses. When I said 6th sense, I didn't mean it as ESP. I did mean more like intuition.

    I agree with everything, especially the part of one's intuition getting messed up. VG, it's great that you don't try to act like everything is okay for the kids. It's crucial to know that life isn't always perfect, and learning how to argue is a valuable skill. Mojo, you're right. Kids don't try to second-guess themselves and have less capacity to rationalize.

    Like I said, I greatly suspect that my brother is going through what I went through. My parents have a rocky marriage, which they blamed it on me, saying that my antics were causing friction between them. After I moved out at age 15, they still had problems. My dad learned not to divert the blame from the main problem, but my mom still loves to shift the blame elsewhere. My brother is reacting to this home drama in many of the ways that I did. I can only hope that my mom realizes that her actions and constant scrambling to keep up appearances while ignoring the real problems is only making the situation worse. I'm trying to help, but my brother is too embittered and closed off and my mom doesn't want me talking to him. She's just throwing drugs at him and doctor-shopping for people who will concur with her skewed attitude. I feel sorry for the kid, but there's not much that I can do at this point.
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    Absolutely. Sorry to chime in so late. All human beings are hard wired to knw when things are not right. It's an evolutionary adaptation that prevented us from getting eaten or killed by neighboring tribes. All of us still get "gut feelings" which we are only taught to ignore through years of social conditioning. Body language is another huge red flag that is hard wired into all of us. As strippers, we are masters at both reading and giving off our own desired body language.

    I grew up in a dysfunctional home that wasn't openly dysfunctional. They never talked/complained about money in front of me. My parents never had screaming matches in front of me and everyone acted as if everyone else were their BFFF. I was a model student, very quiet and shy growing up but by the time adolescence moved around it was a completely other story.

    I was seeing shrinks by the time I was 12 and getting antidepressants thrown at me which often only made things worse. That's pretty much how my entire teen-age life was. Now that the ugly period is over in my life I can look back and see how messed up everything was. You're brother will probably get out of things ok as long as he doesn't get into anything that is too destructive (drugs, criminal activities.) I am still healing from a lot of the crazy things I went through but it isn't unsalvagable.
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    Quote Originally Posted by snoopy View Post
    it's actually easier when it's overtly displayed as 'problems' imo. the ones that bury it deep down people often completely miss. (again, we're not as observant of children as they are of us sometimes)
    ITA. My oldest and youngest child started acting out a LOT earlier this school year. It's only expected. After all, since June 2007, their daddy got out of the military, we moved to Arizona (where dad job-hopped for awhile), we moved to Texas, mom went from a SAHM to working a LOT, mom & dad got separated, mom & dad ended up in a VERY nasty custody battle, and a whole slew of other factors. That's a LOT for kids to deal with, and so it wasn't at all surprising that the kids were reacting badly.

    But in all honesty, it was my middle child I was most concerned with, because he (at 6) remained as sweet, polite, and happy as always. That worried me more than anything else, because at least the other two were expressing their frustration and anxiety. As a result, ALL of the kids (even the "good" one) have been in counseling since this all started, because even though the middle one isn't overtly showing symptoms, he's still got to be stressed out and transitioning.

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