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    I got a letter today saying out lease is up June 30th. Rent has increased to what I concider to overpriced for this apartment. I want to move out.
    However....I'm reluctant to sign a new lease out here, with my plans to leave soon anyway. But June 30th is to soon for me to leave, I have to stay in school until Aug. 2nd at lease so I can get this certification and get a job.
    However, it's a perfect time for my boyfriend to get his ducks in a line, decide what he's gunna do, and rent himself a place he can afford withotu me. I can stay there until August or just stay somewher eelse around here till school's out. I feel like I have the opportunity, I should take it.
    I have no idea where the fuck to go and it overwhelms me so much to the point that I just want to stay here forever because I dont know where to go. I know what kind of place i want to live in, but I dont know how to find it, and I cant exactly afford to go visiting citites until I find onem i like. I need to make my choice and go and stay there.

    If you live in the place I describe, or know of a place like it, can you tell me the city and state please? Random good searhces of states just isn't working for me. There's a lot of places to live in the US.

    So here's where I want to live:

    Near the water. Ocean preferably, but will settle inland next to a large lake.
    Old town, with Victorian homes, where some of them are broken into apartments you can rent a floor of.
    Small, quiet town. Lzzy and laid back.
    Near a community college (must be)
    near a hospital (must be)
    No snow. The hotter the better, but at least a mild climate with little seasonal change.
    Cost of living isn't to steep. I can only afford rent less than $700-800 a month at the very most. I won't be dancing. I dont care if I can only rent a studio or efficiency.
    Near a forest or woods would be nice, but I wont be to picky. I just need some outdoors. no big concrete cities. I've had enough concrete and fast living and big cities. It isn't for me.

    Does this place exist? Where is it? Help me figure out where to live!

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    Maybe try looking at Galveston, TX. I'm not positive about rent prices or anything but it does have some Victorian homes and it's a nice, friendly, laid back area. It's right on the ocean and it's a little tourist-y so I'd assume it's pretty safe. Good luck!!

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    Outside San Francisco. Rents have gone WAY down since the economy there crashed and property values fell.
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    BTW, while we are on the subject, is it needed to point out the obvious: That it is just possible that if you are willing to judge the worth of someone simply by what you read on a website about them it might say a whole hell of a lot more about you than it says about the person you are judging?

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    ^^ Yeah but San Fran can be pretty chilly too.

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    You may not be into the climate, but Astoria fits the rest of your criteria. It was an absolutely adorable little town. I'm pretty sure they had a community college there, and it's only an hour and a half from Portland for when you want the big-city fix.

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    Golden :
    Wait ... wait ... wait. Where can I get a decent deal within an hour of SF ? Have things really come down a bit. I have wanted to move to the area and gave up about a year ago.

    PB : Do community colleges have increased out of state tuition ? Will you be ok with either the tuition increase or waiting on school to establish residency ?

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    Actually rents are increasing. People who lost their homes in foreclosure are forced back into the rental market. Inventory is getting tighter. Some foreclosed homes are being bought by investors and entering the rental market, but not in significant numbers yet.

    To the OP: Maybe Sacramento or the upper valley would fit most of your criteria. Yuba City/Marysville, to the north, or Rocklin might work, however anything on any water will tend to be premium price in CA.

    Most of the towns between Sac and Reno have historic downtown sections due to the Gold Rush. Rocklin is home to Sierra Community College east of Sac. Hot summers, winters are no worse than LV temp wise, but more rain and occasionally heavy fog. Roseville is 2 miles away with a fairly new hospital and also a Kaiser facility. However everything along the I-80 corridor is being suburbanized at a rapid pace.

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    Maybe somewhere in Florida or Key West?

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    Charleston, S.C. fits what ye seek....it has been many years since I've been so can't give ya good low down.

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    cocoa beach fl. has everything you are looking for including rents. the only thing it doesnt have is the Victorian aspect.
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    Dunno what the cost of living is in Savannah, GA, but it's got a cute, sleepy-town vibe, and fits your criteria (I don't know if the architechture is strictly victorian, but it's certainly pretty).

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    San Luis Obispo, CA. Great place to live and go to school. Cute, mellow beach town with two community colleges in the area and one awesome university (if i don't say so myself ). It's got a quaint downtown with Victorian architecture, similar to Carmel with a SLO town vibe.

    Plenty of affordable housing in SLO or even cheaper in the surrounding sleepier towns.

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    I think you'd like San Francisco. I have no idea what the financial situation is there.



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    I love Astoria!! I have to second that place. I swear to god, within 5 minutes you'll be in love
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    Quote Originally Posted by carmen_b View Post
    Golden :
    Wait ... wait ... wait. Where can I get a decent deal within an hour of SF ? Have things really come down a bit. I have wanted to move to the area and gave up about a year ago.

    PB : Do community colleges have increased out of state tuition ? Will you be ok with either the tuition increase or waiting on school to establish residency ?
    Yes they do have increased tuition, but I'll pay it, as I have to be in school, and a university isn't an option for me, because I want to get a degree in nursing as soon as possible, ad don't want to spend longer in college going to a university for a bachelors degree....plus...I can't get accepted into a university. I never graduated high school. They won't take me


    On florida:
    I went to craiglist and looked up some apartments in different areas, is it common there for people to rent out their houses relly cheap to take over mortgage payments? I saw many apartments for rent for 1200 or more, but beatuiful big houses for around $990. Take over mortgage payments. Is this a common thing because people are having problems paying, or are those scams?

    As for other recommendations....I have always felt a pull towards North Carolina....That was where I planned to move when I was 20, before I ever got out here, but things changed and I ended up here. I always thought I would like it there....My boyfriend says I would hate NC because he said he's very backwards there and wierd. I dunno what that means tho, cause I'm pretty wierd myself.

    I always thought San Fran was pretty and cute. I might like it there. I will also look into Astoria, since it got 2 votes and so many people seem to be in love with that area. Climate...as long as it doesn't get down to below frezing and stay that way half the damn year, or snow 10 feet, I'll be ok. It gets pretty cold here in the winter, but it only lasts 2 months or so and never snows.

    Thanks for suggestions. Keep em comming, and I am taking all of them into concideration.

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    Astoria sounds great! Look what I found:
    Astoria is the oldest American settlement west of the Rockies; a place that takes visitors back to simpler times, its architecture dominated by hundreds of Victorian homes clinging to steep wooded hillsides and with a revitalized 1920s era downtown; all set against a backdrop of tremendous natural beauty in the temperate rain forest at the mouth of the Columbia River
    That's exactly what I see in my head when I think my my ideal place.
    Climate isn't to bad....not to much snow fall, doesn't get very hot, but seems temperate. Average temperature stays around 40-50's all eyar round. Chilly to me, but I coudl deal if everythign else fit....

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    Or do you guys think this would be smarter for me?
    I can go home to Pa, go back to school there. I know I can get in right away. I can finishe nursing there faster than anywhere else. Take me 9 months, because I already started there.
    I know I can get a high payign job as a nurse, because I already have lived and worked there and know places. I worked as a nurse aid before, no certification or anythign and got paid $22 an hour. Rent is very very cheap. Can find a place for $400 a month.
    So I can work, save money, finish school, work on rebuilding my very bad credit, and then move to whevere after I graduate as an RN.

    Sounds sweet and perfect, right? The downside is my family is there. They are poisonous and dangerous. If I'm there they will try to ruin me and bring me down. I can't tell them to fuck off and die, or they will make my life even worse by being "selfish and disloyal" They will drag me into their drama and issues and make my life living hell.

    If it weren't for them, I would go back and do what I need to do real quick and get the hell back out...but I worry if I go home I'll live in misery and fear for an entire year. Aside from that, it's the best option to get my life together and rebuild. I don't have any friends back there really, but I do have 2 family members I can rely on if I need anything. My mother and brother are the only concern. They can and will steal from me, mooch off me, take advantage of me and try really hard to ruin me. And then call me a bitch for not helping them. My mother threw me out once for not agreeing to deliver some crack to her boyfriend. She called me a stuck up bitch and told me I wasn't loyal to my family cause I wouldnt help.

    So...what do ou think? Avoid them s best as possible and do my thing, or just avoid the area? It will take me longer to finish school anywhere else and I will struggle more, but I'll be safe and stress free....

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    Can move back to your old town without telling them you're there? Astoria is a beautiful town though.. I think that's where the Goonies was filmed

    You might also like Mount Vernon, Washington. My Aunt lives up there near puget sound in Port Ludlow and it's breathtaking.
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    I dont know anything about he states so cant advise on where would be a good place to live, but my gut reaction reading this was it is not worth it!! Honestly your peace of mind safety and sanity is worth more than cheap rent and a quicker degree... I bet after 1 week of their shit you would be thinking that being broke and homeless anywhere else in the world would be better than being near them... sounds AWFUL. And you will only get your degree quicker if you are healthy enough to finish it and do well, sounds like they could fuck with that big time. Yikes and imagine when you are a nurse, they will totally be hassling you for drugs and shit!!

    Quote Originally Posted by Peanut_Butter View Post
    Or do you guys think this would be smarter for me?
    I can go home to Pa, go back to school there. I know I can get in right away. I can finishe nursing there faster than anywhere else. Take me 9 months, because I already started there.
    I know I can get a high payign job as a nurse, because I already have lived and worked there and know places. I worked as a nurse aid before, no certification or anythign and got paid $22 an hour. Rent is very very cheap. Can find a place for $400 a month.
    So I can work, save money, finish school, work on rebuilding my very bad credit, and then move to whevere after I graduate as an RN.

    Sounds sweet and perfect, right? The downside is my family is there. They are poisonous and dangerous. If I'm there they will try to ruin me and bring me down. I can't tell them to fuck off and die, or they will make my life even worse by being "selfish and disloyal" They will drag me into their drama and issues and make my life living hell.

    If it weren't for them, I would go back and do what I need to do real quick and get the hell back out...but I worry if I go home I'll live in misery and fear for an entire year. Aside from that, it's the best option to get my life together and rebuild. I don't have any friends back there really, but I do have 2 family members I can rely on if I need anything. My mother and brother are the only concern. They can and will steal from me, mooch off me, take advantage of me and try really hard to ruin me. And then call me a bitch for not helping them. My mother threw me out once for not agreeing to deliver some crack to her boyfriend. She called me a stuck up bitch and told me I wasn't loyal to my family cause I wouldnt help.

    So...what do ou think? Avoid them s best as possible and do my thing, or just avoid the area? It will take me longer to finish school anywhere else and I will struggle more, but I'll be safe and stress free....
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    Quote Originally Posted by Peanut_Butter View Post
    So here's where I want to live:

    Near the water. Ocean preferably, but will settle inland next to a large lake.
    Old town, with Victorian homes, where some of them are broken into apartments you can rent a floor of.
    Small, quiet town. Lzzy and laid back.
    Near a community college (must be)
    near a hospital (must be)
    No snow. The hotter the better, but at least a mild climate with little seasonal change.
    Cost of living isn't to steep. I can only afford rent less than $700-800 a month at the very most. I won't be dancing. I dont care if I can only rent a studio or efficiency.
    Near a forest or woods would be nice, but I wont be to picky. I just need some outdoors. no big concrete cities. I've had enough concrete and fast living and big cities. It isn't for me.

    Does this place exist? Where is it? Help me figure out where to live!

    Astoria, Oregon

    Where Goonies, Kindergarten cop, and Short Circuit were filmed.

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    weird. I read the OP and said Astoria. Then I read the whole thread and see that it was stated a multitude of times. Thats Fate.

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    ^ the more I research, the better it looks. having trouble finding apartments for rent tho. Maybe cause it's a small town, I need to be looking at a bigger city nearby? I dunno. But it's lookin good for Astoria. I fuckin love Kindergarden cop and short circuit!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Peanut_Butter View Post
    ^ the more I research, the better it looks. having trouble finding apartments for rent tho. Maybe cause it's a small town, I need to be looking at a bigger city nearby? I dunno. But it's lookin good for Astoria. I fuckin love Kindergarden cop and short circuit!
    Did you try craigslist yet?

    http://portland.craigslist.org/nco/apa/688325753.html
    http://portland.craigslist.org/nco/apa/686169383.html
    http://portland.craigslist.org/nco/apa/691690258.html


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    Quote Originally Posted by Peanut_Butter View Post
    ^ the more I research, the better it looks. having trouble finding apartments for rent tho. Maybe cause it's a small town, I need to be looking at a bigger city nearby? I dunno. But it's lookin good for Astoria. I fuckin love Kindergarden cop and short circuit!

    Probably all handled through real estate agents. My Brother lives there. You may have to make some calls.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jeska View Post
    Did you try craigslist yet?


    yeah, but i didnt look under portland, cause i didnt know
    ty. very helpful.

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